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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/27/2008 8:19:23 PM
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agapetos
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He suggested I go to therapy and talk my problems over with someone. He is just a regulare doctor though, not a specialized doctor. I am not sure what to think about all this. What are your concerns about going to therapy? If it does nothing for you, will you be any worse off? If it helps, you'll have gained.
Ok, that's simplistic. You do need to 'give' when you have therapy, so you may feel worse off initially, but long term, you will have gained because you will have learnt a little (or a lot) about yourself and how you can better deal with issues when they come up.
I think it'd be worth you mentioning your thinking to your doctor. It can be very hard to know what to do sometimes once we've had some kind of mental health problem ~ often our mind goes into overdrive and what we didn't notice before, is suddenly magnified and we give it great attention ~ so magnifying it even more ~ you say that you've had thoughts going through your mind? I know those kind of thoughts aren't pleasant, but it's not necessarily a sign your mental health is deteriorating ~ simply something that you're suddenly noticing now, when you've got a problem with your mental health.
Hmmm... not sure that makes any sense ~ I guess it would help if I had my glasses on and could read what I posted!  
Do remember though that a little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. You have some knowledge of mental health stuff ~ both from personal experiences and from your degree ~ but there's a great deal that you don't know.
Again, think about the therapy. If you're being treated on the NHS, there's going to be a waiting list (and before anyone knocks waiting lists, remember, it's free ~ at least we get treatment unlike some countries, where, if you have to pay, it's tough) so you can always change your mind later. I do believe it'd be worth you talking to a psychologist though about what sends you into a downward spiral.
Also, do keep the lines of communication open with your doctor. He may choose to refer you to a psychologist, he may choose to treat you himself. Do make sure he knows how your feeling though and what you're thinking.
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It would be nice to do SOMETHING for her, even if it's only a couple of dollars or something you make that costs nothing. I agree. I wonder if you could have a standby plan arranged so that if her dad doesn't get to take her out for whatever reason either someone else can (uncle, grandad) or that you can just do something special with her.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/29/2008 2:53:24 AM
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I made it through with nothing to drink.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/30/2008 1:26:57 AM
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Yay Roberta! That's a hard thing for many even under much better family/holiday circumstances.
I have no idea what I managed to do to my hip, but it's actually swollen enough to tell. So much for it being all stress and depression making it painful. Plus I had to call the building manager yesterday. Went out to walk Angel (my dog) and there were bubbles along the walls and ceilings from the top floor all the way to the first floor...not sure where it's coming FROM but here on the 2nd floor (with 1st being street level) the hallway ceiling is bubbled and seeping and the 1st floor had a HUGE bubble in the paint on the wall. That news couldn't possibly have made the manager's day - or his weekend since he was trying to take what was (with what this building and its problems can be like) probably a much needed vacation. Oh, and it's official, my husband does have diverticulitis.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/30/2008 1:54:01 PM
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Well, it turns out my new doctor IS going to send me to a psychiatrist here in the U.K. I am thankful for this and yes as the posters have stated above, I am open to therapy. I had a little therapy, but not a lot over these past years.
Mental health is really a hard thing to deal with. Its an everyday battle, and it requires a great deal of care and attention. I like most anyone else here, is wondering about all the things I could be doing and enjoying if I did not have to deal with my mental health issues. Its frusterating. Its always on going, you never get a real break. I find it hard to be thankful sometimes, but I am trying to be in times like these. I can meet someone who has a great way of thinking, and a terrific mind, and it really reminds me of when I had those great though processes, and clarity. I can remember when I was a great student and things didnt take me so long to finish. I keep trying to remind myself that I am in Gods hands, and that if He really wanted to that He could heal me right there on the spot without medication. But by the looks of it He wants me to go THROUGH it, which I was hesistant but I am trying to trust Him more with this. It does not help that my dad attributes my mental problems with me being a Christian. He thinks I was brainwashed my whole life and that now its all coming out in this form. My dad keeps telling me to just talk my way out of things, but everyone knows that is not simple. I try to stay positive and not let things get to me too much, but still I am not to my optimal functioning level...a level I long to see oneday but have just about given up hope that I will oneday.
My hat goes off to all those on this thread who have dealt with mental health issues, because its really a hard battle.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/30/2008 3:53:22 PM
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Well, it turns out my new doctor IS going to send me to a psychiatrist here in the U.K. I am thankful for this and yes as the posters have stated above, I am open to therapy. I had a little therapy, but not a lot over these past years.
Mental health is really a hard thing to deal with. Its an everyday battle, and it requires a great deal of care and attention. I like most anyone else here, is wondering about all the things I could be doing and enjoying if I did not have to deal with my mental health issues. Its frusterating. Its always on going, you never get a real break. I find it hard to be thankful sometimes, but I am trying to be in times like these. I can meet someone who has a great way of thinking, and a terrific mind, and it really reminds me of when I had those great though processes, and clarity. I can remember when I was a great student and things didnt take me so long to finish. I keep trying to remind myself that I am in Gods hands, and that if He really wanted to that He could heal me right there on the spot without medication. But by the looks of it He wants me to go THROUGH it, which I was hesistant but I am trying to trust Him more with this. It does not help that my dad attributes my mental problems with me being a Christian. He thinks I was brainwashed my whole life and that now its all coming out in this form. My dad keeps telling me to just talk my way out of things, but everyone knows that is not simple. I try to stay positive and not let things get to me too much, but still I am not to my optimal functioning level...a level I long to see oneday but have just about given up hope that I will oneday.
My hat goes off to all those on this thread who have dealt with mental health issues, because its really a hard battle.
Whenever I try to tell my relatives about their need to accept Jesus as their Savior, they respond the same way. Just pray for him and ask God to help you or someone else that your dad will listen to can help him understand and receive Jesus as his Savior. (I'm assuming your dad's not saved, BTW. If I'm wrong, I apologize)
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 11/30/2008 7:42:19 PM
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Mental health is really a hard thing to deal with. Its an everyday battle, and it requires a great deal of care and attention. I like most anyone else here, is wondering about all the things I could be doing and enjoying if I did not have to deal with my mental health issues. Its frusterating. Its always on going, you never get a real break. I find it hard to be thankful sometimes, but I am trying to be in times like these. I can meet someone who has a great way of thinking, and a terrific mind, and it really reminds me of when I had those great though processes, and clarity. I can remember when I was a great student and things didnt take me so long to finish. You are right, it is really hard to deal with ~ but the majority of health conditions are, whether mental or physical. Something that I'm learning to do is to enjoy the day when I'm well enough to enjoy it and be patient with myself when I'm not well. For years I could remember appointments and phone numbers and whatever without really thinking too hard about them. Now I can struggle to remember my own phone number, let alone anyone elses. As for appointments and such ~ they generally cause me a great deal of stress before because I have to constantly check the date and time of them. I could remember what books I'd read and films I'd seen really easily, now I have to work at remembering them. I could be taught something and know it often, without much learning...
All that seems to have gone, though I get flashes now and again. It's frustrating and yes, depressing, but is it the end of the world? I'm not convinced that I've accepted I'm going to be this way for life, but I have accepted that, for now, I need to work on ways to help myself deal with things.
I keep a simple A4 laminated sheet planner that I've divided up ~ one section is things I have to do in the coming week (like seeing my social worker tomorrow and putting my dustbin out) and meeting a friend on Tuesday. Another section is 3 things that I'd like to the following day (like laundry, cleaning the bath etc) and another is a meal plan for the next day, with a small section of anything I need to buy. The appointments one is added to as and when (and I do tend to make notes around the edge of appts for the following week) and the other sections are done last thing at night.
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I keep trying to remind myself that I am in Gods hands, and that if He really wanted to that He could heal me right there on the spot without medication. But by the looks of it He wants me to go THROUGH it, which I was hesistant but I am trying to trust Him more with this. I'm not sure that He wants you to go through this, but He does want you to trust Him in this.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/1/2008 12:04:30 AM
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Melissa- love the av!
aga- you are more organized than I could ever dream of being!
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Mental health is really a hard thing to deal with. Its an everyday battle, and it requires a great deal of care and attention. ........
My hat goes off to all those on this thread who have dealt with mental health issues, because its really a hard battle.
I can't think of anyone that I would wish mental health problems on. However, everyone will develop one health issue or another at some time. I wouldn't wish those health issues on anyone either.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/1/2008 7:30:28 PM
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aga- you are more organized than I could ever dream of being! Well I'm not organised by nature. I just have found that I can cope better when I am organised, so slowly I am learning to be more organised.
It takes time and energy and trying lots of different things, but I suspect that it's possible for many people who claim they are disorganised to be more organised ~ because I'm getting there...
And I'm one of those people who has had stacks of papers in my home and doesn't touch them for months but knows exactly where to find a single document, even though there's no organisation in all the stacks.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/1/2008 11:52:52 PM
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It has been encouraging reading everyones testimony. I haven't been diagnosed with anything but I fear something is wrong. I have felt empty, alone, depressed since I was in 2nd grade. I can't believe I still feel the same way at 30. I have no idea why I feel this way. Sometimes when I cry I feel even worse because I know that I am blessed. I have a mother and father whom I know who loves me and two sisters that I know who say they do but whey dont I feel it. I cry because I want to stop crying. I hate the way I feel. When I go home to visit my family its like sitting in a room with strangers. When I sit with friends I begin to think they don't even know me at all. All I do is pray for healing but I can't stop feeling the way I do. Its getting to the point where I don't want to even be around my family which again makes me feel horrible because I don't want God to think I am taking them for granted. I just feel like I don't exist.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 12:08:33 AM
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Louise- have you spoke with a professional about it?
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 10:42:31 AM
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Saw a new therapist yesterday. I guess the meeting went well. She was using the term "post traumatic stress" because of my past abuse, nightmares, etc. I still have no idea what is wrong with me, but I am back on the road to seeking help. I get discouraged easily.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 10:47:26 AM
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louisePP,
I am adding you into my prayers.
Many people on the forums also seek the help of a therapist and if they don't like the first therapist, it's worth it to try others. I don't have insurance so I go to places that work on a sliding scale based on my income. I think I pay about $9 a visit now.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 11:35:46 AM
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Limulus- I hope the new therapist works out for you. It's tough going to someone new and feeling like you're starting all over again. However, when you get the right ones, it makes treatment much easier.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 2:05:05 PM
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For years I could remember appointments and phone numbers and whatever without really thinking too hard about them. Now I can struggle to remember my own phone number, let alone anyone elses. As for appointments and such ~ they generally cause me a great deal of stress before because I have to constantly check the date and time of them.
I program them into my phone calendar, write them on my purse calendar, write them in my journal and send myself reminders via e-mail. I've still been known to forget some.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 2:39:00 PM
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For years I could remember appointments and phone numbers and whatever without really thinking too hard about them. Now I can struggle to remember my own phone number, let alone anyone elses. As for appointments and such ~ they generally cause me a great deal of stress before because I have to constantly check the date and time of them.
I program them into my phone calendar, write them on my purse calendar, write them in my journal and send myself reminders via e-mail. I've still been known to forget some.
Also, you can sign up for Gmail http://mail.google.com/ which has a calendar feature built into it to send reminders. It helps me a lot.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 2:47:12 PM
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I am sad and in tears today. I love someone and they have a skewed view of me. I'm trying to get through this pain. I often think that only God knows me, my heart, my mind. I am in a lot of emotional pain today. Please include me in your prayers... also my friend An. Thank you.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 3:03:38 PM
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How do I begin to help my 14year old son who seems to be highly depressed? I've asked myself where did I go wrong? My husband and I tried to raise our 4 children up in the church so that they would have a foundation. My son has always isolated himself but not to far where he did interact with his siblings or my husband and I. But lately I have observed him and he becomes angry for no apparent reason and just stated to me that he wants to die. I am broken inside because I don't want to lose my son. I have seeked out counseling for him because I have to start somewhere. I have prayed and firmly believe that GOD will show up and show out. I welcome all encouragement and advice.
Thanks and God Bless
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/2/2008 3:29:08 PM
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How do I begin to help my 14year old son who seems to be highly depressed? I've asked myself where did I go wrong? My husband and I tried to raise our 4 children up in the church so that they would have a foundation. My son has always isolated himself but not to far where he did interact with his siblings or my husband and I. But lately I have observed him and he becomes angry for no apparent reason and just stated to me that he wants to die. I am broken inside because I don't want to lose my son. I have seeked out counseling for him because I have to start somewhere. I have prayed and firmly believe that GOD will show up and show out. I welcome all encouragement and advice.
Thanks and God Bless
Good counseling. Please remember that not all Christian counseling is good and not all secular counseling is bad. The reverse is also true. A good place to start would be your family MD or his peditrician.
Please stop beating yourself up over this! Get the help you can, do the best you can. This has nothing to do with raising your son in church.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/4/2008 6:04:33 PM
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Well today is a new day with a new outlook on things..praise God for that. I know my last post was kind of harsh, and I must have sounded really negative. Today I feel better because I prayed about the situation. Basically what I see now is that even though we may suffer from a mental illness, it is an awesom eopportunity to through it draw near to the Lord and rely on His strength and guidance for the battles we face. The image that comes to mind is the little weak sheep (us) that is leading steadily on his shepard (the Lord). I can see it so clearly in my mind. Its really a beautiful thing if you stop and take a look at it. We need Him all the more and He is right there to provide whatever we may need in our jounrney to good mental health. I feel better about things because I prayed, and I apologize for my negative post earlier. =)
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement - One Stop Thread - 12/4/2008 6:24:15 PM
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You have no need to apologise. Whatever health issues we have, we all have tendancies to feel negative towards them at some point or other. Sometimes we are able to dispel those feelings very quickly and easily, sometimes it takes a little longer. Sometimes those feelings come back time and again.
The important thing is that we make use of the 'good' days. I went on a Christian holiday/conference some years back and sat in on a seminar about reading the Bible. The lady who gave the seminar was great and said that during the good times, we needed to read, study and learn from the Bible (and during church and housegroups etc) and these would help maintain our faith during the hard times when we couldn't take a lot in. It's drawing faith from our own knowledge.
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