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forgiven4ever -> RE: Mrs Ed's blog (5/1/2005 9:04:26 PM)
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I just got back from Pennsylvania. I cannot WAIT til I don't have to make this drive any longer! I am SO glad that I went, even though I had to leave him there in the hospital and go back to what is now my "daily grind".
I got there about 7pm Friday, and stayed til visiting hours were over at 8:30. The doctors still didn't (AND still don't!) know what is causing this severe dizziness; just that it increases whenever he moves his head in any direction. They have done "CAT" scans of every part of his body, but still can't figure it out. They tested his ears, his carotid arteries, and x-rayed his spine and neck. The only thing that they did find was worsening arthritis, and that the curvature of his spine (which he was born with) is also getting worse. But it doesn't really explain his illness, or give them any way to treat it.
Ed's insurance from his job officially ran out yesterday, but, with him in the hospital, the social service people are now hustling to get him set up on Medicaid. This wouldn't have been as easily accomplished if he had been home on his own, so maybe he was supposed to be there, in the hospital, where they could help him apply for it.
Friday evening passed too quickly. I drove to Ed's apartment, where my stepson Ben let me and Kyi in. We had just enough time to make up the couch for Kyi, and then off to sleep!
Visiting hours didn't start on Saturday til 1pm, so in the morning I cleaned out Ed's bedroom, and did three loads of his wash (so he will have clean clothes to come home to). I drove to a rooming house in his town; that I wanted to check out, for Christina. It looks OK... I will let her know about it. And, then, because I knew I would be leaving him for the rest of the afternoon, I gave Kyi a special treat and drove him to one of his favorite places: the Hershey's chocolate factory. (It is about 1/2 hour from where Ed lives) We had a great time, as always, on the chocolate ride and buying chocolate for everyone.
At 12:30 I packed up a lunch for Kyi and a sandwich for myself, and left Kyi with Shirley (who is kind of an adopted "mom" for Ed) and went to the hospital. I spent the afternoon sitting next to him, holding his hand, and just talking about what will happen this summer when we are finally together. I was so glad to be there.
At 6, I went back to Ed's house and took Kyi to dinner. He chose pancakes, which is typical, but then asked to eat my pickles. WITH PANCAKES! EWW! [sm=icon_smile_dead.gif]
After dinner, Kyi and Ben and I watched a video that I had brought with me.
This morning, Kyi and Ben and I went to church. I like Ed's church, though it will take a while til I feel as "at home" there as I do where I now go to church. I asked the pastor to pray for Ed, and also to go to the hospital to visit him.
We drove Ben back to Ed's apartment, and then picked up our suitcases, and headed to the hospital for a last few hours together. I did get a good chance to talk to Ben. He is somewhat shy, so I sometimes have a problem finding out what he is really feeling about something.
Since Ed's divorce (5 years before he met me) Ed and his son, Ben, have shared a place. Since Ben is mildly retarded, it was good for him to have his dad with him; and the relationship has proved a real help to Ed, as well. When Ed was sick, it was Ben who always came through with financial help, or as a driver. So, when Ed and I got married, we planned at first to get a place that was big enough to have a room for Ben to stay with us. But, he had said he wants to be on his own. However, as the time grows shorter, Ed has thought it was possible that he may not really be ready to move... or that he may not be able to afford his own place; yet be afraid to crowd us. And, while I admit that living in their present apartment WOULD be crowded, we could and would make it work. It would help us financially, and Ben and Kyi could develop a really close relationship.
I got a chance to discuss this with him today, and I wanted to reassure him that I would be fine with it; if he decides to stay with us. It will be crowded, but we will make it work. Anyway... Ben smartly said he would pray about it, and let God lead him. So will I!
I am sad to be home, and have Ed out there, in the hospital, without any clue as to what is wrong with him. But, I know the Lord is in control and I know He can use this to continue to work out His will for us as a couple.
God bless you all
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