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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/25/2008 1:58:53 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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I should admit that sometimes, I also play dumb when someone's intention is obviously a negative one, because it just doesn't matter what someone thinks about me when it isn't the truth. Me too.
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I know, too, that there is another side of this issue -- that we can like another profoundly simply by what we see on this flat, cold screen. I easily just like people -- sometimes too easily, although that has not been a negative thing on CW. But I am constantly aware that I must be careful with my positive feelings toward another. The fact is that just because we are open, honest, genuine, "out there" doesn't mean that everyone else is like that. Definitely.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/25/2008 2:25:54 PM
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shemaromans
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Shema, I'm intrigued . . . what is the other major lesson you have learned from participating in these forums?
Cool! You're intrigued! I had no idea that someone would perceive me as intriguing. 
It's a private lesson, dear Shar-Mar. Thank you for asking, though. :)
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 1:34:17 AM
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I'm sure that sometimes my posts may be shocking, but that's just who I am. No one has ever really condemned or criticised me for what I have posted - that's only happened once in the relationships board. but here on She says and the Singles forum no one has taken me to task.
When we reply to someone's post we have to be considerate, at all times bearing in mind that everyone has a different viewpoint. We should be respectful of another person's opinion, remembering that it's just that their opinion. We should feel free to disagree but in disagreeing try not to attack the person with whom you disagree. However, we do have the moderators who come in whenever an argument brews and they re-instill peace in the forums.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 6:16:14 AM
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I *think* people find me passionate about my passions, but also that I am a goof, when necessary.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 8:04:35 AM
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TNBelle
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Belle - I can really relate to what you've said here. I'm glad you've decided to post here. For myself, I've found that these forums have helped me to grow and develop in some ways - particularly in accessing and expressing some of my feelings about issues. I understand too what you mean about snarky threads although sometimes I do jump right on into the fray. But I'm peaceloving by nature, so I don't feel comfortable with lots of dissension - though I realize that to stand my ground, sometimes it will occur.
I do agree, that as you become more comfortable, you'll probably join in more. I hope you do, I'd like to hear what you have to say.
Thanks rgod! It's nice to know that someone else can relate to my feelings. And thanks especially for that last sentence. Sometimes I think I have nothing of value to share (I know where that lie comes from but sometimes I don't recognize it at the time).
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 10:28:46 AM
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John_O
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I *think* people find me passionate about my passions, but also that I am a goof, when necessary.
Like when you're talking soccer?
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 10:31:56 AM
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOO dem dere's fightin' words!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 10:32:41 AM
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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl
I *think* people find me passionate about my passions, but also that I am a goof, when necessary.
Like when you're talking soccer?
And her photography.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 1:59:41 PM
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This may have been brought up, but after you meet someone IRL, if you have the opportunity to do so, how drastic does your opinion of that person change?
I have met several people from here in real life. Most of them at the 2007 GT at John_O's house.
I would not say my perspective of what they write has changed that much, since I try to respond to post based on who I am and not who they are, but my opinion of the person has changed which may in a small way effect my perspective of the words they write.
A good example of this would be John_O (hope he doesn't mind me using him as an example)
Reading his post before I met him my perspective was he is pig headed, stubborn, a little judgemental, somewhat critical in tone, and very black and white. I liked him but did not always like what he wrote nor the manor in which he wrote.
After meeting him at the GT and becoming his friend.
I still think in his writing he can be pig headed, stubborn, a little judgemental, somewhat critical in tone and very black and white.......
BUT
my perspective of who he is as a man is completely different.
And who he is as a man far outweighs the limited side of him sometimes seen in his post.
In real life John O is a man I highly respect.
My perspective of his written words may not have changed........but my perspective of him as a man has changed.
Make sense?
< Message edited by joy2give2u -- 11/26/2008 2:23:47 PM >
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 2:14:15 PM
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I think I give a glimpse of the many facets of my personality and character through my posts, but the people that knows me are the ones that I've communicated with behind the scenes because they not only know of me or know something about me, but they know more of who I am inside. I do feel very misunderstood from time to time, but that's the same whether I am online or in real life. I misunderstand people as well because of my perception, but the Lord is correcting this thinking and giving me more patience to not label or judge people too easily. Remember that we don't always show who we are, especially if we've had trust issues in the past that we carry to our present reality. So, don't feel bad if you're misunderstood, because chances are, you also misunderstand people. Now, with that thinking in mind, try to show different aspects of your personality, and I'm sure people will start seeing the whole you.
And Gayle, I know that you have a heart for God. I see it every time you post.
I perceive you as the little sister I never had ;)
I don't know that I have posted enough for anyone to get a perception about me. I can be a bit smart-alecky, and I have to remember to be careful about that in forums because my tone is not conveyed and therefore can easily be misinterpreted.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 3:12:17 PM
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ORIGINAL: joy2give2u
A good example of this would be John_O (hope he doesn't mind me using him as an example)
Reading his post before I met him my perspective was he is pig headed, stubborn, a little judgemental, somewhat critical in tone, and very black and white.
Well at least she didn't say I wasn't cute. Now being called "not cute" would have hurt.
(the rest of this was pretty nice of you to say Joy. thank you)
< Message edited by John_O -- 11/26/2008 3:34:34 PM >
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 3:29:11 PM
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Well at least she didn't say I wasn't cute. THAT would have hurt A perfect example.......if I didn't know John_o I might perceive him as being sensitive and hurt by what I wrote..........but since I know a little of him, having seen his OH in action, I am quite sure the words highly respected made a much greater impact then anything else I wrote.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 3:51:15 PM
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(the rest of this was pretty nice of you to say Joy. thank you) So that is how it is going be huh? The truth hidden......only seen by those who search for it.
Did I mention arrogant in my last post?.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/26/2008 3:57:32 PM
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John_O
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(the rest of this was pretty nice of you to say Joy. thank you) So that is how it is going be huh? The truth hidden......only seen by those who search for it.
Did I mention arrogant in my last post?.
That's just how life is. Seek and you will find. Don't seek and you don't find.
(probably not. I'm far too humble to be arrogant)
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 10:57:33 AM
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I have actually misjudged people's personalities based on postings sometimes. I tend to think that people are either very serious or aloof. I have found that that this not be the case and that you really need to either meet or talk to a person to find the real them. I agree that you really need to look at a lot of postings to get who a person is also.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 11:18:50 AM
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I have actually misjudged people's personalities based on postings sometimes. I tend to think that people are either very serious or aloof. I have found that that this not be the case and that you really need to either meet or talk to a person to find the real them. I agree that you really need to look at a lot of postings to get who a person is also.
YOu always say I'm so serious and I think in the singles forum, I'm always serious because it's easy to offend people here. I've deleted quite a few posts here or edited them for fear of being banned, lol.
But I'm such a goofball in other forums. Just look in the humour forum where I've been hanging out lately...I seem to be a completely different person.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 11:35:33 AM
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humbleinspirit
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Now PH, was it me or did you temporarily change your name to Dorky-4-a-Week for a couple of days?
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 11:59:25 AM
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Prairiehiker
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Yeah, I did. I'm trying to convince Geeky that I'm her twin sister, Dorky.
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 12:05:36 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Ahhh, ok PH, btw why didn't you keep the name? Where you afraid that someone else would grab the PH handle instead?
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 12:15:16 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Because I like PH better. Maybe I'll change it to Dorkyhiker. What do you think?
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RE: Perciving People Through Their Posts - 11/29/2008 12:28:00 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Nah, Prairiehiker is better. 
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