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RE: How do you know if you are flirting/stringing someo... - 11/17/2008 10:12:44 PM
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levimichal
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I have read the first post then the responses.
"Why not get to know as many females as I can so I can find the right one..."
Do you think in that manner you are honoring God?
"I feel bad that I might be hurting some of them because I know a few of them seem really interested in me - but I don't ask them out, I just chat with them until I am positive that she just isn't someone I am really in to. I had one girl (young) who seemed to get angry with me. I liked her for years but only saw her in passing. She knew I liked her and when she finally started flirt with me I never asked her out because I didn't know her that well. She seemed to get mad and now she stays away from me."
You think that by showing interest you might be leading them into believing you might be interested in them.
When you are with a Christian sister, a female believer don't you realize you should be careful about guarding the heart of a fellow believer. Instead of giving her hopes of a future with you. Why do you not find out about the character of a woman and not use the ploys the world uses in meeting women. You flirt you do not claim to seek marriage.
Please seek to honor God in your interactions with women. Do not seek to please the flesh rather than the call of God for the purity and sanctification of believers.
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RE: How do you know if you are flirting/stringing someo... - 11/17/2008 10:29:48 PM
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willfs
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Here is my plan. I worry, fear, feel shame, stress and get miserable over my job situation.... and I find a job. Now afterwards I realized that the worry, fear, shame, stress and misery had nothing to do with me getting a job. Other troubles in life I will worry, fear, feel shame, stress and get miserable over. When God finally does come through I realized that the worry, fear, shame, stress and misery did not help a thing but it was God providing.
So I figure that there has to be one thing that all this worry, fear, shame, stress and misery can help me accomplish because I am extremely good at it. And it is my singleness. So I have decided I need to work as hard as I can, stress myself out, and worry about every single encounter with a single female. Then she will drop in my lap. 
Really I need to apply what I know about trusting Him with my life, and that includes my desires, all of them.
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RE: How do you know if you are flirting/stringing someo... - 11/18/2008 8:39:33 AM
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csl7037
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ORIGINAL: willfs
Here is my plan. I worry, fear, feel shame, stress and get miserable over my job situation.... and I find a job. Now afterwards I realized that the worry, fear, shame, stress and misery had nothing to do with me getting a job. Other troubles in life I will worry, fear, feel shame, stress and get miserable over. When God finally does come through I realized that the worry, fear, shame, stress and misery did not help a thing but it was God providing.
So I figure that there has to be one thing that all this worry, fear, shame, stress and misery can help me accomplish because I am extremely good at it. And it is my singleness. So I have decided I need to work as hard as I can, stress myself out, and worry about every single encounter with a single female. Then she will drop in my lap.
Really I need to apply what I know about trusting Him with my life, and that includes my desires, all of them.
What?!?! I am assuming that was tongue-in-cheek but I still don't really get it.
Philippians 4:4.Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!
5.Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6.Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7.And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8.Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.9.Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Relax. You're making yourself crazy.
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RE: How do you know if you are flirting/stringing someo... - 11/18/2008 8:48:08 PM
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deermousie
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ORIGINAL: willfsReally I need to apply what I know about trusting Him with my life, and that includes my desires, all of them.
Yeah, you're right.
We have enough time in our lives to be about our Father's business: reading His Word and applying it to our lives, praying, ministring to others (whether it's holding open a door or telling someone about Jesus), growing in grace and fervent love for the brethren, and so on. While you are busy and growing, God will cause you to practically trip over the woman for you. She'll be there on the highway you travel as you obey God. So you don't have to test them all, but be doing whatever God has given you to do (school, job, etc. included).
Getting married (this is going to sound like a cliche, but it's so true) is not about finding the right person but being the right person. You're on your way, and I am so glad for you.  Rock on, brother, and may God richly bless you as you follow hard after Him!
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RE: How do you know if you are flirting/stringing someo... - 11/19/2008 7:57:15 AM
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willfs
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ORIGINAL: csl7037
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ORIGINAL: willfs
Here is my plan. .......
Really I need to apply what I know about trusting Him with my life, and that includes my desires, all of them.
What?!?! I am assuming that was tongue-in-cheek but I still don't really get it.
I guess you would say I was being sarcastic. I was explaining my strategy for dealing with my being single in a way that showed how my thinking doesn't quite add up. My last sentence was the only thing that wasn't sarcastic in that post.
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RE: How do you know if you are flirting/stringing someo... - 11/20/2008 6:35:21 PM
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saycheeeeeeese
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best wishes willfs!
many people say that when they met their husband/wife, they didn't know it was him/her until later.
well ... when i met my husband ... there were butterflies in my stomach ... violins in the backgroud ... the whole thing. i pretty much knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him (i had never dated before by the way). i consider myself a very level-headed person ... VERY. yet, there was something very special about him, and i fell in love (and so did he of course). we got married within 2 months of meeting each other. by the way, don't feel too bad about being attracted to beautiful girls. beauty is in the eye of the beholder - i hope your wife will be the most beautiful girl you've ever met - inside and out! i know that my husband is the most handsome hero that's ever walked on earth!
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