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RE: Attending weddings - 11/17/2008 2:16:45 AM
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skreyola
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She had been living with the guy for some time, and under pressure, legally married the guy months before the "big wedding." It was quite strange to attend a wedding where the two people were already married to each other, and I couldn't help but wonder how long the relationship would last. It is strange, I agree.
Oddly enough, it's also becoming a bit common . . . especially for "destination weddings" (which is also becoming somewhat of a common thing to do).
I live in Jackson, WY (near the Grand Tetons), and one of my former-clients is a wedding planner. A lot of people want to come out here to get married, with the Tetons as a background. For myriad reasons (their family can't come, but want to see them get married; etc., etc.), they actually are already married by the time they have their wedding here in the Tetons.
It seems a bit anti-climatic to me.
Why th-- why they would choose to 'get married/have wedding' in such an inconvenient location that a previous wedding was necessary so family/friends could attend is beyond my meager intellect!
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RE: Attending weddings - 11/17/2008 7:47:10 AM
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Lots of people want to get married with Tetons as their background.
But they also want to get married with their friends and family present.
If it were me and I couldn't do both at the same time, I would pick one or the other.
However, many people don't.
I've also heard of people doing the same thing in other places that boast of great natural scenic beauty.
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RE: Attending weddings - 11/17/2008 11:19:09 AM
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skreyola
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Lots of people want to get married with Tetons as their background.
But they also want to get married with their friends and family present.
If it were me and I couldn't do both at the same time, I would pick one or the other.
However, many people don't.
I've also heard of people doing the same thing in other places that boast of great natural scenic beauty.
I'm with you on that. What good is scenery if the wedding guests can't be there to experience it? People today have no sense.
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RE: Attending weddings - 11/17/2008 7:51:05 PM
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WaitingforBoaz
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She had been living with the guy for some time, and under pressure, legally married the guy months before the "big wedding." It was quite strange to attend a wedding where the two people were already married to each other, and I couldn't help but wonder how long the relationship would last. It is strange, I agree.
Oddly enough, it's also becoming a bit common . . . especially for "destination weddings" (which is also becoming somewhat of a common thing to do).
I live in Jackson, WY (near the Grand Tetons), and one of my former-clients is a wedding planner. A lot of people want to come out here to get married, with the Tetons as a background. For myriad reasons (their family can't come, but want to see them get married; etc., etc.), they actually are already married by the time they have their wedding here in the Tetons.
It seems a bit anti-climatic to me.
It was a totally different situation, but I was married, before the ceremony. So there were 2 sets of vows said within 2 hours of each other.
My pastor flew up to Lake Tahoe to marry us, but he was not licensed in Nevada, so my MIL invited a JP friend of hers to come and do a legal ceremony, before the actual ceremony. Only a few of us knew about it. To me it was a formality and not anti-climatic, but again a totally different situation than the one you describe. 
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RE: Attending weddings - 11/17/2008 9:23:08 PM
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It was a totally different situation, but I was married, before the ceremony. So there were 2 sets of vows said within 2 hours of each other.
My pastor flew up to Lake Tahoe to marry us, but he was not licensed in Nevada, so my MIL invited a JP friend of hers to come and do a legal ceremony, before the actual ceremony. Only a few of us knew about it. To me it was a formality and not anti-climatic, but again a totally different situation than the one you describe.
I had another co-worker who had a similar situation, except his "legal" and "real" marriage were separated by months and thousands of miles. He was a German international student and was engaged to an American girl. They planned to get married in Germany so his family could attend (her family flew in). But, his German pastor wasn't licensed yet, so that ceremony had no legal standing. Meanwhile, he needed to get married in America a few months before the "real" wedding in Germany, because he had finished school and had to get married in order to stay in the country.
We work for at a ministry's headquarters, so there were plenty of ministers to help. Coworkers put together a small ceremony, and his boss performed the ceremony. While they had to start living together afterward for legal and financial reasons, they didn't consummate their marriage until after the wedding in Germany, because that's when they felt they were really being married in God's sight.
It was a really unique situation.
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RE: Attending weddings - 11/30/2008 6:06:22 AM
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I was at a wedding once and when it came time to toss the brides garter to the single guys in attendance, I stepped out into the middle of the room ready to enjoy this custom with all the other single guys. Except I found myself standing there alone. I discovered, to my extreme discomfort, that I was the only single guy there. I decided to handle it with humor and announced to all that I would be "...really embarassed if I don't catch the garter." Everyone laughed and the party went on to the enjoyment of all, including myself. THIS is wonderful!
This happen to me once it was my best friend wedding I was the only single guy there over the age of 4 yrs old. He said I am not going to throw it I will just hand it to him. Everyone laughed and we went on .......
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RE: Attending weddings - 11/30/2008 6:37:51 AM
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Conveniently removing myself from the bouquet toss allows me to avoid the busybody, married women (and some men) who love to push and prod single women to participate in the tradition. I prefer to not hear their comments, especially after I state my intention to not participate and they persist (It's my problem, not necessarily theirs).
I think you stated this very well. It's such an uncomfortable situation when you are trying to avoid focusing on your singleness at a wedding, and people make a big deal about dragging you out of your seat to participate in the bouquet toss (which, consequently, focuses everyone's attention on you and your single status). I have never really enjoyed this tradition (except when I was young enough to be the flower girl). If God sees fit to bring me a Godly husband someday, I think I will have an anniversary dance and give the bouquet to the longest married couple, rather than a bouquet toss.
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