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Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 12:50:41 PM
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all.consuming.fire
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Well I was not going to write here and ask for prayer, but I decided to humble myself and not try to do this all on my own. To start off with, I am a 27 year old Christian gal and I have been saved and walked with God since I was 12. Seven years ago I was under great spiritual attack from the enemy and since then I have been struggling with my walk with the Lord. Maybe its because things in life get much harder as we get older and it seemed so much easier walking with the Lord when I was in my early twenties. Regardless I am having some relationship issues.
I KNOW its going to sound totally out of character but 4 months ago I met this guy on myspace that I hit it off with. I KNEW that he was not a Christian but decided to be his friend. Friendship turned into more and he asked me if I wanted to meet him. He lives about an hour away so he came down to meet me and my family. He was totally sweet and things went well. We saw each other each weekend after this initial meeting. One thing led to another and at 27 I lost my virginity to him. This is something that terribly upsets me becasue I was holding out for the one God had for me and I didnt make it. The reason I let this happen is becasue he convinced me that he wanted to marry me and that there is no point in waiting since we would be married anyway. I went along with it, and now I regret it very much. Right now I am in England for a whole month visititing my dad and when I get back he wants me to move in with him because we are going to be engaged. I have been praying about this and I dont know if its right.
A little about him. He is not a Christian. He is Asian and his family practices Buddhism. He is not Buddhist. He knows I am a Christian and how important it is to me. We had our religion talk and he said that he would go to church with me. I dont know what to do. I think I am a bit vulnerable right now becasue I lost my virginity to him so somewhere in the back of my mind I think I should marry him even though I know this is not the case. He is not saved, but is open to the idea. I know its wrong to marry a non believer and have read the previous posts concerning this topic. Should I be engaged to this guy when I get back to the U.S? I have prayed about this but dont know what to do. I prayed that God would show me a way out of this if there was a way, and recently my dad has asked me to stay and live with him in the U.K. (I have no place to go to when I get home because my mom is moving and I cant live with her anymore).
I am really confused and I dont want to let God down more than I already have. I am not sure I even love him but I do like him. Just dont know if its enough to marry him. I feel stupid becasue I knew better. I guess I feel at this point since I went that far with him I might as well go through with it. I wonder though if God has someone better for me. I dont want to be the one that drags this guy to church with me. Though he is willing now, what if he does not get saved? I know I am playing with fire here. I think also I am starting to feel insecure becasue I am getting older and God has not sent anyone in my life. So I took things into my own hands. Somewhere inside me there is a voice that says that this relationship is not of God and I need to get out and now with my dads help I have a way out. I have been oraying but is there any advice? I am disappointed in myself becasue I waited so long and I threw it all away on a non christian who has been with lots of girls. Pray God would get my head in order. Whats wrong with me? It wasnt even that great to be honest. I think its better when its of God and there is a strong love connection. Though I like him, again I dont know if I love him with all my heart the way I am suppose to. Pray for direction and His guidance. Do I stay in the U.K with my dad and just leave him behind and wait for a man of God? OR do I go forth with this now that I am so deep into it?
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 12:57:48 PM
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I have a couple things to say.
One, don't marry him as the situation is right now. He is an unbeliever, and you are not certain you even love him.
Two, Please know, that if you confess your sin to God and repent, God is faithful to forgive! The difficult part is learning to forgive yourself, and then living with the possible consequences of your sin.
I can't say what the Lord has planned for your future, but I can say that today, you can tell God that you will serve Him and honor Him in your life, and you will only marry a man who is walking daily with the Lord.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 1:06:44 PM
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 1:19:51 PM
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God can and will forgive you for the sin you have committed, but to have a vibrant and healthy relationship with God requires repentance i.e. turning from that sin and submitting your life to Christ's will. Living together with anyone and/or continuing in a sexual relationship with anyone outside of marriage is only going to cause more pain down the road because it is absolutely not what God desires for you. And marriage to a person who does not share your faith in God is potentially the most painful situation in life that you can ever get yourself into. The boundaries God has for sex and marriage are there to protect us. God has given us these boundaries because of his great love for us.
That being said I think it is important to again say that God can and will forgive you, and he still absolutely loves you despite your failures. Know that there is nothing you can ever do that will make God love you any less. He doesn't love us more or less because we have followed or rejected his guidelines for sex and marriage; he gives us those guidelines because he knows that our greatest joy and satisfaction with marriage and sex comes from following his design and some of our greatest pain and hurt comes when we disregard those guidelines because when we disregard God guidelines we become callused in our relationship with God, and we become callused in our relationships with those around us.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 1:28:21 PM
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Crankius, Ilove1God1way, and Benelchi
Thank you for your responses. Its like I know the right thing to do. I just pray for the strength to do it. I dont want to face him and have to tell him our plans our off, but I have to. Last night I felt Gods love and forgiveness becasue I finally broke down and repented from this. I love He loves me its just up to me to do the right thing now. I wonder why I went through this. Maybe oneday I will understand. =)
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 1:34:43 PM
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Crankius, Ilove1God1way, and Benelchi
Thank you for your responses. Its like I know the right thing to do. I just pray for the strength to do it. I dont want to face him and have to tell him our plans our off, but I have to. Last night I felt Gods love and forgiveness becasue I finally broke down and repented from this. I love He loves me its just up to me to do the right thing now. I wonder why I went through this. Maybe oneday I will understand. =)
I will be praying for you.
One of the things that can help is to look for support from those in your church, strength often comes as we allow our brothers and sisters in Christ to help carry some of the load.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 3:54:30 PM
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(((all.consuming.fire)))
I'm so sorry, dear one. This is a difficult time for you and it's confusing. Please listen to the other posters who've responded to you - their advice is right on. Confess (you have - you called it sin and so does God), I assume you have repented (don't repeat it but turn around and live moral like you have for so many years) and thank God for forgiving you. We are ALL forgiven sinners who have to (or need to) confess and repent something every day.
Rather than repeat what others have said, please let me explain how you may have gotten to where you are:
No one sins suddenly. It starts with a little compromise and grows from there. I don't know where you started down this road, but you compromised enough to entertain the idea of befriending a nonChristian guy. That is a big red flag. You hit it off with him - you needed to say to yourself, "So what? He's not a Christian - I'm not going there" and kept the relationship at arm's distance. Personally, I think you should have ended it there. And there was one compromise after another. You were lonely and worried God would never give you a husband perhaps, so you did your own exploring. You may have told God to sit back, you were going to try it your way for once and see how it went.
I'm not saying this to shame you (c'mon over and I'll explain all the dumb things I've done over the years - we're in this together!) but to give you understanding so it doesn't sneak up on you again.
No, you shouldn't marry him (why add sin of unequally yoked to fornication? 40 years of miserable marriage, too) and personally I'd suck it up and tell him, "I'm a Christian, I blew my limits with you and I won't put myself in that position again. I like you, I think you're nice, but my first alligence is to God and you can't fit into that picture. If you become a Christian [because he may promise this to keep you from leaving now that he's got you where he wants you] then live it for two years and then contact me and we'll talk. But not before then, and that's final." And if you're really feeling gutsy (and I recommend this) tell him, "I think you've used me for free sex and that is selfish and destructive to me. It's not happening again and I am not going to have a nonChristian boyfriend or husband. It's over between us; know that I wish you the best. Goodbye." Then get out of there before he cries or begs or lies to you.
Generally the more sexually loose nonChristians guys aren't looking for wives; they are looking for a good time that's easy. Lying is OK if it gets them what they want, so they can promise the moon because they aren't obligated to deliver. Asian guys are usually under enormous pressure to marry an Asian wife, so this guy is unlikely to want to marry you and go to church with you in defiance of his family's wishes.
So put some steel in that backbone, dear sister in the Lord, stand up and tell this guy the truth. Then leave and don't look back; you're walking away from a pit trap. Don't be confused - God forgives us (1 John 1:8,9), tells us to not marry unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14) and tells us not to fornicate (all over the NT, like Mark 7:21 - look at the company this sin keeps). Be strong in the Lord; rise up victorious! God has already won the battle.
I am praying for you today. Go stomp out the sin that Jesus conquered on the cross!
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/12/2008 11:02:28 PM
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IMHO, avoid online places like MySpace - if you aren't there
as a Light in the Darkness... leave the place alone.
Learn to set good boundaries in dating, avoid being alone
with your love interest. Guard your heart because he won't!
Don't get engage to him - he's not a believer
and his morals are lacking. I'm even going to discourage you from dating unsaved guys also - why? because I know too many women who are suffering greatly from making that decision to marry an unsaved man.
If your "boyfriend" is truly open to the Gospel - he will start attending church on his own... you won't have to drag him to church or beat him over the head with the Bible!
Taking matters into your own hands can be a bad thing especially when
you went "fishing" for a guy amongst the unsaved ones in the world
who frequently engage in sexual activity.
God hasn't forgotten you - he knows your every need/care.
Like Abraham's wife Sarah, you put the proverbial cart before the horse -
to get what you wanted and when it happened - you didn't like the results!
At age 27 you aren't over the hill, you're still a young lady who's got plenty
of time to get married and have children. Several of my friends married when they were older than you - had two to three children before age 35.
Recently my friend in PA had a baby at the age of 40.
God's timing is always best - take comfort in that.
I pray you turn back to God - repent - and start growing in faith.
Read your Bible, pray and develop your personal relationship with the Lord.
Set aside private time to seek the Lord on a regular basis.
Make the effort to walk according to God's standards and uphold His Morals. Seek out mature Christians for friendships and mentoring.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/13/2008 5:34:28 PM
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Thank you all who are praying for me..it really is working becasue I find myself stronger. I have been praying a lot over the situation and spending a lot of time on this board just being encouraged. I know how wrong my actions have been and how I have compromised my morals and standards here. I am happy to report that I have taken measures to end this relationship but am doing so in a very gentle way so that this guy does not get the wrong impression of Christ. That is the last thing I want to happen. Today I e-mailed him and started the break up process. I know it bites that I had to use e-mail to tell him such news but I am in England right now and he is in American and that is the situation right now. I am currently awaiting his response and know it might take a few more e-mails or phone calls to get to the bottom of this. I feel I am being led by the Holy Spirit and that this is the right thing to do. I will post what happens if I feel led. Again thank you for your support and for helping me with this difficult situation. I see where I have gone wrong and I know I have learned from all this. I am also praying about the idea of deleting my MYSPACE account since its not Christian and since I really need to stay close to the LIGHT right now.
Thank you again.
Your sister in Christ.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/13/2008 6:03:42 PM
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/13/2008 7:41:24 PM
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It sounds like you've thought this through and are comfortable with the decision you made. Good for you!
There's one more thing I'd like to throw in here, and you don't have to agree with me. But please consider it:
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I am happy to report that I have taken measures to end this relationship but am doing so in a very gentle way so that this guy does not get the wrong impression of Christ. That is the last thing I want to happen.
Some people think a Christian is "too nice" to ever get mad or take a firm stand. I point to Jesus who saw people turning God's house of worship in Jerusalem into a market place for thieves, and He took action. He made a whip of a rope, started turning over tables (money and animals flying everywhere) and drove the "businessmen" out of the temple. They weren't running because He asked nice, but because He had that rope. I'm guessing He was using it, too.
So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple area, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. To those who sold doves he said, "Get these out of here! How dare you turn my Father's house into a market!" John 2: 15 ff (and following).
Jesus wasn't out of line for this, because those people were violating God's place of worship and were thieves to boot. God had provided a place to connect with Him and unscrupulous people were using it for their own unrighteous gain.
How does this apply to you? This guy was willing to take your virginity, even though he knew you were a Christian and your purity was important to you. Your loss sure wasn't important to him. And now he wants you to move in with him... he wants the priviledges of marriage without having to commit himself or pay for it. And at your expense. Does this seem minor to you?
Tell yourself the truth: he wants something from you that hurts you and isn't his to take. He's uncaring enough to let you give what hurts your conscience, and he won't pay someone to give it to him because he thinks you'll give it to him for free.
Now tell him the truth: 1) your (reinstated) chastity is precious and 2) he wants what isn't his and 3) is destructive to your soul and 4) no way are you doing this. Period.
See him for the thief he is and the pushover he thinks you are. You may have been before but you aren't now. This isn't an accident like losing keys but a deliberate ploy to use you inspite of how it would hurt you. He is someone who takes advantage of people whom he thinks can't/won't fight back. Go get a metaphorical piece of rope and tell him what Jesus thinks of his idea.
"Get out of here. How dare you turn my body (temple of the Holy Spirit) into your toy to play with!"
Go tell the truth, Christian!
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/13/2008 7:57:36 PM
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when I get back he wants me to move in with him because we are going to be engaged. I have been praying about this and I dont know if its right.
Yes you do know, deep down inside.
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I prayed that God would show me a way out of this if there was a way, and recently my dad has asked me to stay and live with him in the U.K.
You got your answer - so why are you hesitating? If you go back, you will have no choice but to live with him.
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I am not sure I even love him but I do like him.
Then it would not be fair on him either.
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Somewhere inside me there is a voice that says that this relationship is not of God and I need to get out and now with my dads help I have a way out.
Then LISTEN to that still small voice, for everyone's sake.
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Do I stay in the U.K with my dad and just leave him behind and wait for a man of God?
YES, stay here (I'm a Brit), get to see our beautiful country, join a lively church and give yourself a break (and give your spiritual life a chance).
Don't allow yourself to be deceived any longer.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/14/2008 3:59:43 AM
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Run.
I agree. I may only be 22, but i agree. At 27 you should know not to listen to men, especially men who do not share your beliefes.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/14/2008 8:55:32 AM
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Well I do feel led to post a reply becasue after all someone might read this and learn from my situation the way I have learned from reading previous posts here. If I could help another person struggling with this same thing, then I have done my part. Maybe it will cause someone else to think twice before they have premarital sex..
He wrote me back, and it was short and to the point. I must have read his response half a dozen times and it clearly showed he did not care about me or any future promises he made. When I told him it was over, it was like he didnt care very much. He said something along the lines that he wants me to be happy and whatever I do was fine with him. So basically there is no committment to his tone, and yeah I should have known better. Its over, and I am ready to put this whole mess behind me and move forward. I hope some else does not make the mistake I made. I know its me and God now and when or if God decides to send someone in my life I know it will be better than this. I am willing to wait again. I just took things in my own hands and tried to create someone that was never meant to be. I get it now. Lesson learned.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/14/2008 11:11:07 AM
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I have been going thourgh relationship issues myself!
If he is really open to Jesus christ the lord. Then I don't see a reason for you guys not to get married.
This would be a very dangerous and unbiblical thing to do. As Christians we are not to marry those who are "open to Jesus Christ the Lord", but only those who are truly in a relationship with him. People who are dating always put their best foot forward (so to speak), and the "openess" expressed towards Christianity now may completely disappear after marriage. While it is true that sometimes spouses do come to Christ after marriage, many times they distances themselves farther from Christianity after they have "won the prize."
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Although I say be cautious of a guy that sleeps around and doesn't really love you. Your relationship has to be about pure love..and not lust! Even the guy would agree with this later! You say you just like him, then you dont want to lead him on. If I were you I would only marry him if he has told you that he has accepted jesus christ into his heart!
Many people will tell you that they have accepted Jesus Christ into their hearts, but their lives do not demonstrate the fruit of such a relationship. As Christians we need to look not only at what a person says, but also at what the testimony of their life demonstrates. We must remember how very high the stakes are in marriage. Because we are committing our lives until death do us part to the person we are marrying, knowing that they have genuinely committed their life to Christ should not be something we take lightly. It is important to realize that those who are courting marriage will often do and say what they believe will win our hearts; however, when they have attained their goal, the sincerity or insincerity of their faith will be revealed. It is far better to patiently wait and watch for the evidence of faith in a potential spouse's life before pursuing marriage, or even a romantic relationship, than it is to discover after marriage that their faith was not genuine.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/14/2008 11:19:44 AM
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I agree with benelchi.
I'll just quote what I said earlier:
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I can't say what the Lord has planned for your future, but I can say that today, you can tell God that you will serve Him and honor Him in your life, and you will only marry a man who is walking daily with the Lord.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/14/2008 11:57:28 AM
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it clearly showed he did not care about me or any future promises he made. When I told him it was over, it was like he didnt care very much...
...Its over, and I am ready to put this whole mess behind me and move forward. I hope some else does not make the mistake I made. I know its me and God now and when or if God decides to send someone in my life I know it will be better than this. I am willing to wait again. I just took things in my own hands and tried to create someone that was never meant to be. I get it now. Lesson learned.
(((all.consuming.fire)))
You have walked the walk: "Yikes, I sinned, I'm not doing that again!" This is exactly what God calls us to do, and you did it. Yay! You successfully handled this situation in getting out of it. Quickly, too. Praise God for His grace to you!
I'm so sorry for your pain. I'm glad the guy showed his true colors; it makes it easier to close the door and move on. Many of us carry scars from things in life, and those scars are sometimes the basis of blessings to us and others. Ministry, testimony (although this is more of a thing you might discuss privately), and strengthening our backbones. God bless you, dear one. You have made my day by how you chose to handle this, and I rejoice with you! Hand in hand with God! <backflips>
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/14/2008 12:11:37 PM
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all.consuming.fire,
I pray that you are reading the Bible daily. I know you will find great comfort in reading the Word and in being close to God. The words from God will bring so much more wisdom and comfort than any words we can say.
The Lord is gracious! Draw near to Him. I'm glad you have placed your future in His hands. That's the best place to be.
Is 26:3-4 You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You. Trust in the Lord forever, For in Yah, the Lord, is everlasting strength.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/15/2008 9:20:23 PM
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If you are allowed to stay longer in the UK, I would say do stay in the UK. It would be an opportunity to forget him. The sorrow of love is very difficult to handle and forgetting him and getting over that old love is not easy.
Consider yourself lucky and see God's hand in your situation for being able to move away from your X bf to another far away country.
Continue to seek God and ask for His forgiveness for treating your virginity and body very lightly.
I pray you will find a good church where you're staying in England right now that would be like a family to you.
Is your dad a believer? In both cases develop a good friendship with him and go together to church.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/17/2008 12:58:56 PM
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Cloak..yes I see Gods hand at work in my life. I am going to stay here in the U.K. because things seem to be working out here very well..meaning I see Gods hand at work in my life here. I think you are right by being far away. I wont be tempted to go back or rememeber the past. I prayed for a way out and I got it and for this I am very thankful for. Praise God. Thank you for your prayers. No my dad is not a believer. None of my family members are believers. I pray for them all the time.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/17/2008 5:26:47 PM
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No my dad is not a believer. None of my family members are believers. I pray for them all the time.
You never know...your dad might see Jesus thru you. Just show him your love and respect to him. In time, he will come around and might even ask you to come to church with you.
Keep up the Great work!!! (((all.consuming.fire)))
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/18/2008 5:15:12 PM
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Thanks Cloak. Yes I do hope my dad and my family come around to being saved. My mom has been delivered from drinking, so I still believe =).
I feel so much stronger these past few days about all this situation. I have been in here reading responses and also offering help in areas I feel strong in. I feel uplifted. I think I did the right thing and even though I disappointed the Lord with my poor judgement, I made the right choice to leave and not look back. Now I feel strong again. I want someone that loves the Lord like I love Him. I want someone who is passionate about Kingdom matters and not the world. I know God has better for me..I feel it in my heart. All the prayers really helped and worked as you can see.
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/18/2008 5:29:50 PM
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deermousie
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I feel so much stronger these past few days about all this situation. I have been in here reading responses and also offering help in areas I feel strong in. I feel uplifted. I think I did the right thing and even though I disappointed the Lord with my poor judgement, I made the right choice to leave and not look back. Now I feel strong again. I want someone that loves the Lord like I love Him. I want someone who is passionate about Kingdom matters and not the world. I know God has better for me..I feel it in my heart. All the prayers really helped and worked as you can see.
<Deermousie high fives All.consuming.fire>
You got it, dear sister! Praise God for His grace to us and growing us up. You are doing it right. <backflips>
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/18/2008 5:43:32 PM
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all.consuming.fire
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I think I feel strong again becasue I truly am repentful...meaning I am sorry for what I did, I am turing around and not doing it again, and walking away. I dont think I would feel strong like I am now if I stayed. I would still be that weak little thing without a backbone that was the nice Christian. I am so glad its over, and He has forgiven me. Its like my strength came back to me the minute I did the right thing without compromise.
Thanks deermousie =)
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RE: Lost Virginity at 27..very disappointed - 11/18/2008 5:45:03 PM
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all.consuming.fire
I think that staying in the UK would be of great benefit to you, at least for right now. I'm sure there are people in the US that you miss, but healing is needed. Sometimes distance is the best way to do that. While you're there, I would avoid comparing your life here vs. your life there. Too often we look at the past with rose colored glasses and it makes it hard to appreciate what we have in the present.
You stated that you were worried that God might not bring you a man..... or something similar to that. That is a big concern. My question to you is, what are you going to do if He doesn't? Is it going to change who you are? Is it going to change your relationship with Him?
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