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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/12/2008 7:55:33 PM
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jaimestarcross
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You've gotten some good advice - so I'm going to add
a my bit to all what's been said.
I would like to encourage you to make up a suggestion book of ideas/plans---
You have stated you have fears - losing friends or making new ones, fear of rejection, being alone etc... make a note of that and then write down ideas/plans
so if those things happen you will have a list of things/ideas to do.
Make sure to write down Bible verses that encourage you.
Much of your problem has to do with a lack of faith... the Bible states the Holy Spirit lives inside of us(Christians) (Ephesians 1:13-14) - you say, I fear being alone. You are not alone - keep renewing/refreshing your mind on the Word of Truth. Cast down any thought that is contrary to what the Bible states.
When the thoughts of you're alone come, reject it -
get your Bible out and read Hebrews 13:5. Pray, sing songs of praise to the Lord, write poems, stories etc. that honor/praise God. Invite over someone from
church to do a Bible study with or watch a inspirational movie. Chat.
You fear being rejected - Christ doesn't/won't reject you.
Christ faced rejection by man - what did He do?
He prayed to God.
Jesus remained faithful and even when it came time for Him to lay down his life - Jesus submitted to the Father's Will and died for our sins.
God's mighty power raised Jesus from the dead, and He lives forevermore!
We know God is faithful to keep His Promises... mankind is apt to let you down and walk away from you.
Our faithful, true friend? is Christ.
People fail us, what does the Bible tell us to do?
Forgive those who use/hurt you.
How do you get a heart that is tender toward those who do you wrong?
By getting in a close personal relationship with Christ - setting aside time regularly for Bible study, prayer/praise and following His teachings.
The Bible shares somethings a believer should be doing -
Visiting the sick and those in prison.
Helping out the widows, orphans, elderly neighbors etc...
Sharing Christ/Salvation message with those who aren't believers.
When you have extra time on your hands, instead of giving worry or fear room to bloom - go help out someone who needs it. I worked in hospitals and nursing homes, childrens home - there's people there who really could use a faithful, caring friend... can you be a real friend?
*Fear leads to isolation and isolation keeps you from reaching out to others.... it's all a tactic of the enemy(satan) to make Christians ineffective and self absorbed.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/12/2008 9:14:42 PM
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deermousie
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Good point, Manda, about perceived versus actual harsh words. I was assuming that the whole episode was harsh since anger often conveys rejection. I may have assumed too much.
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I told her she was my mentor since she always gives me good advice about things,and really has helped me grow alot in the Lord and stuff.We never came up with any boundaries.I did see your post but wasn't sure what to say.
Sunshine, it looks like you may have obligated a person to meet your emotional needs without asking them or letting them decide if that's what they wanted to do, aside from giving you advice. If you are smothering her, the answer is easy: stop it. And it's hard: it's probably a way you've found to deal with things, and it's time to find new ways to cope that makes social contacts win-win situations. The way to do that is to become a giver.
How to be a giver: put yourself in the other person's shoes and ask yourself, "What is important to them? How will they perceive what I'm saying or doing? What do they need? How can I help or bless them?"
When you talk, let at least half of your talk be aboutwhat's important to the other person. If they have been sick, ask about have they caught up at work yet? Was their boss mad they weren't there for x number of days? Are they better? Do they have any lingering needs you can help with? You get the idea.
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, so you ask others about themselves. If someone says "I've lived here 5 years" you can ask where did they live before? Did they like it there? Why did they move? People who are interested in others are often thought of as gifted conversationalists, when actually all they said was, "Oh, really?... Is that so?... I'm glad to hear that" and so on.
Remember people's birthdays. Send a card if it seems appropriate, or email them birthday greetings and a warm wish for a happy day. If someone asks for prayer for a sick mother, the next time you see them ask how their mother is doing. And then just listen. Look to be a blessing. You'll get better and better.
The reason I know is that's what I had to learn, too. We inherited a blessing so that we might be a blessing to others. Shine on, Sunshine!
(((Hugs)))
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/12/2008 9:26:38 PM
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sunshine4God
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quote:
ORIGINAL: jaimestarcross
You've gotten some good advice - so I'm going to add
a my bit to all what's been said.
I would like to encourage you to make up a suggestion book of ideas/plans---
You have stated you have fears - losing friends or making new ones, fear of rejection, being alone etc... make a note of that and then write down ideas/plans
so if those things happen you will have a list of things/ideas to do.
Make sure to write down Bible verses that encourage you.
Much of your problem has to do with a lack of faith... the Bible states the Holy Spirit lives inside of us(Christians) (Ephesians 1:13-14) - you say, I fear being alone. You are not alone - keep renewing/refreshing your mind on the Word of Truth. Cast down any thought that is contrary to what the Bible states.
When the thoughts of you're alone come, reject it -
get your Bible out and read Hebrews 13:5. Pray, sing songs of praise to the Lord, write poems, stories etc. that honor/praise God. Invite over someone from
church to do a Bible study with or watch a inspirational movie. Chat.
You fear being rejected - Christ doesn't/won't reject you.
Christ faced rejection by man - what did He do?
He prayed to God.
Jesus remained faithful and even when it came time for Him to lay down his life - Jesus submitted to the Father's Will and died for our sins.
God's mighty power raised Jesus from the dead, and He lives forevermore!
We know God is faithful to keep His Promises... mankind is apt to let you down and walk away from you.
Our faithful, true friend? is Christ.
People fail us, what does the Bible tell us to do?
Forgive those who use/hurt you.
How do you get a heart that is tender toward those who do you wrong?
By getting in a close personal relationship with Christ - setting aside time regularly for Bible study, prayer/praise and following His teachings.
The Bible shares somethings a believer should be doing -
Visiting the sick and those in prison.
Helping out the widows, orphans, elderly neighbors etc...
Sharing Christ/Salvation message with those who aren't believers.
When you have extra time on your hands, instead of giving worry or fear room to bloom - go help out someone who needs it. I worked in hospitals and nursing homes, childrens home - there's people there who really could use a faithful, caring friend... can you be a real friend?
*Fear leads to isolation and isolation keeps you from reaching out to others.... it's all a tactic of the enemy(satan) to make Christians ineffective and self absorbed.
Thanks so much and I will seriously give thought to what you said.
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"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
your good deeds and glorify your Lord".
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/12/2008 9:32:29 PM
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sunshine4God
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I told her she was my mentor since she always gives me good advice about things,and really has helped me grow alot in the Lord and stuff.We never came up with any boundaries.I did see your post but wasn't sure what to say.
Sunshine, it looks like you may have obligated a person to meet your emotional needs without asking them or letting them decide if that's what they wanted to do, aside from giving you advice. If you are smothering her, the answer is easy: stop it. And it's hard: it's probably a way you've found to deal with things, and it's time to find new ways to cope that makes social contacts win-win situations. The way to do that is to become a giver.
How to be a giver: put yourself in the other person's shoes and ask yourself, "What is important to them? How will they perceive what I'm saying or doing? What do they need? How can I help or bless them?"
When you talk, let at least half of your talk be aboutwhat's important to the other person. If they have been sick, ask about have they caught up at work yet? Was their boss mad they weren't there for x number of days? Are they better? Do they have any lingering needs you can help with? You get the idea.
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, so you ask others about themselves. If someone says "I've lived here 5 years" you can ask where did they live before? Did they like it there? Why did they move? People who are interested in others are often thought of as gifted conversationalists, when actually all they said was, "Oh, really?... Is that so?... I'm glad to hear that" and so on.
Remember people's birthdays. Send a card if it seems appropriate, or email them birthday greetings and a warm wish for a happy day. If someone asks for prayer for a sick mother, the next time you see them ask how their mother is doing. And then just listen. Look to be a blessing. You'll get better and better.
The reason I know is that's what I had to learn, too. We inherited a blessing so that we might be a blessing to others. Shine on, Sunshine!
(((Hugs)))
Deermousie I am a giver or aleast try to be.I always ask people whats new with them and about things going on with their life.However I have trouble accepting that sometimes people are just simply too busy to spend time with me.Than I get worried that my friends will get so busy they won't have time for me even if they have told me they will sometime.I guess you could say I have trouble trusting others for some reason. I really need to be free from my emotional problems you know. I do try to be a blessing to others and am I think,but I gotta learn not to depend on others so much also,if you know what I mean.
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Matthew 5:16.
"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
your good deeds and glorify your Lord".
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/12/2008 10:18:33 PM
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OneJohn410
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quote:
ORIGINAL: jaimestarcross
You've gotten some good advice - so I'm going to add
a my bit to all what's been said.
I would like to encourage you to make up a suggestion book of ideas/plans---
You have stated you have fears - losing friends or making new ones, fear of rejection, being alone etc... make a note of that and then write down ideas/plans
so if those things happen you will have a list of things/ideas to do.
Make sure to write down Bible verses that encourage you.
Much of your problem has to do with a lack of faith... the Bible states the Holy Spirit lives inside of us(Christians) (Ephesians 1:13-14) - you say, I fear being alone. You are not alone - keep renewing/refreshing your mind on the Word of Truth. Cast down any thought that is contrary to what the Bible states.
When the thoughts of you're alone come, reject it -
get your Bible out and read Hebrews 13:5. Pray, sing songs of praise to the Lord, write poems, stories etc. that honor/praise God. Invite over someone from
church to do a Bible study with or watch a inspirational movie. Chat.
You fear being rejected - Christ doesn't/won't reject you.
Christ faced rejection by man - what did He do?
He prayed to God.
Jesus remained faithful and even when it came time for Him to lay down his life - Jesus submitted to the Father's Will and died for our sins.
God's mighty power raised Jesus from the dead, and He lives forevermore!
We know God is faithful to keep His Promises... mankind is apt to let you down and walk away from you.
Our faithful, true friend? is Christ.
People fail us, what does the Bible tell us to do?
Forgive those who use/hurt you.
How do you get a heart that is tender toward those who do you wrong?
By getting in a close personal relationship with Christ - setting aside time regularly for Bible study, prayer/praise and following His teachings.
The Bible shares somethings a believer should be doing -
Visiting the sick and those in prison.
Helping out the widows, orphans, elderly neighbors etc...
Sharing Christ/Salvation message with those who aren't believers.
When you have extra time on your hands, instead of giving worry or fear room to bloom - go help out someone who needs it. I worked in hospitals and nursing homes, childrens home - there's people there who really could use a faithful, caring friend... can you be a real friend?
*Fear leads to isolation and isolation keeps you from reaching out to others.... it's all a tactic of the enemy(satan) to make Christians ineffective and self absorbed.
Thank you for echoing my suggestion of a list of things to do when meeting next time with the mentor. This is good advice, and some good Bible references, Jaime.
OneJohn410
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 6:36:01 AM
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Roberta_
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Deermousie I am a giver or aleast try to be.I always ask people whats new with them and about things going on with their life.However I have trouble accepting that sometimes people are just simply too busy to spend time with me.Than I get worried that my friends will get so busy they won't have time for me even if they have told me they will sometime.I guess you could say I have trouble trusting others for some reason. I really need to be free from my emotional problems you know. I do try to be a blessing to others and am I think,but I gotta learn not to depend on others so much also,if you know what I mean.
What type of outside interests do you have where you are around other people?
I was going to say more, but it's 3:30 am and I haven't had any sleep after a long day at a new job. My brain isn't working very well right now. Maybe I'll be able to figure out how to word what I was going to say later.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 7:55:54 AM
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I was also wondering if you have a job, whether you live on your own, or with your parents, whether you are in a good church?
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 11:40:20 AM
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sunshine4God
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What type of outside interests do you have where you are around other people?
I was going to say more, but it's 3:30 am and I haven't had any sleep after a long day at a new job. My brain isn't working very well right now. Maybe I'll be able to figure out how to word what I was going to say later.
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You mean interests when I'm by myself? I like scrapbooking,reading,playing video games,shopping,babysitting etc.
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"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 11:41:21 AM
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sunshine4God
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I was also wondering if you have a job, whether you live on your own, or with your parents, whether you are in a good church?
Nope I have no job since I have learning problems and am on ssi,live at home with my Mom and Dad and love it,and have an awesome church.
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"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 11:46:18 AM
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Roberta_
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Are there part time volunteer or paid jobs that you can do? This would get you out, focused on others and making more friends.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 12:20:01 PM
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Are there part time volunteer or paid jobs that you can do? This would get you out, focused on others and making more friends.
Yes I was thinking along similar lines. At church we have a large group of adults with learning difficulties, of varying degrees, and a number of them have part-time or voluntary jobs that they do, varying from one morning a week, to 3 morning a week.
sunshine, you're obviously literate and intelligent, and know your way around a keyboard, so I would imagine there could be a number of opportunities out there, either with ordinary companies or with charities, just waiting for you! And getting out of the house and doing something like that could be a great confidence booster!
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 12:24:40 PM
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Roberta_
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Manda's right again.
Sunshine - what is your confidence level like?
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 1:07:15 PM
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Deermousie I am a giver or aleast try to be.I always ask people whats new with them and about things going on with their life.However I have trouble accepting that sometimes people are just simply too busy to spend time with me.Than I get worried that my friends will get so busy they won't have time for me even if they have told me they will sometime.I guess you could say I have trouble trusting others for some reason. I really need to be free from my emotional problems you know. I do try to be a blessing to others and am I think,but I gotta learn not to depend on others so much also,if you know what I mean.
Sound like you're doing a lot of things right, Sunshine. Good for you!
Yeah, my kid used to depend on me, and sometimes I had a headache or had a deadline and couldn't give her my attention, and she had to cope on her own. Everyone has problems to deal with, and it makes us unavailable to others at times. Other peoples' lives don't revolve around me (what a shame - I think it's a great idea!  Just kidding).
I know a lot of people (four of them, anyway) who have learning disabilities and got some great help from a Christian Neurodevelopmenalist (say that 10 times fast!) who deals with ADD, cerebral palsy, autism, etc. She has a counseling service called "Hope and a Future" that you and your parents might want to investigate. http://www.hope-future.org/ She travels regularly around the country for appointments three times a year.
And something that all of us Christians have to discover is that our primary relationship is with God, and He always has time for us. He heals us and makes us grow. Read your Bible every day and see what you can learn - there are promises and principles of how life works. Throw yourself on Him, as He loves you even if the rest of the world hasn't got time for you. This would be a great use of some of your time and will cause you to become spiritually more mature (something everyone needs).
God bless you, dear one. (((Hugs)))
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 3:35:00 PM
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sunshine4God
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ORIGINAL: Roberta_
Are there part time volunteer or paid jobs that you can do? This would get you out, focused on others and making more friends.
I have tried getting into volunteer work both at the elementary school and a daycare nearby and have heard from neither one.I do babysit sometimes but not as often as I used to.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 3:36:03 PM
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sunshine4God
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Manda's right again.
Sunshine - what is your confidence level like?
Its growing with Gods help but still needs lots of work.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 3:40:14 PM
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Sound like you're doing a lot of things right, Sunshine. Good for you!
Yeah, my kid used to depend on me, and sometimes I had a headache or had a deadline and couldn't give her my attention, and she had to cope on her own. Everyone has problems to deal with, and it makes us unavailable to others at times. Other peoples' lives don't revolve around me (what a shame - I think it's a great idea! Just kidding).
I know a lot of people (four of them, anyway) who have learning disabilities and got some great help from a Christian Neurodevelopmenalist (say that 10 times fast!) who deals with ADD, cerebral palsy, autism, etc. She has a counseling service called "Hope and a Future" that you and your parents might want to investigate. http://www.hope-future.org/ She travels regularly around the country for appointments three times a year.
And something that all of us Christians have to discover is that our primary relationship is with God, and He always has time for us. He heals us and makes us grow. Read your Bible every day and see what you can learn - there are promises and principles of how life works. Throw yourself on Him, as He loves you even if the rest of the world hasn't got time for you. This would be a great use of some of your time and will cause you to become spiritually more mature (something everyone needs).
God bless you, dear one. (((Hugs)))
Thanks so much for your encouragement and understanding.I am reminded by people life doesn't revolve around me pretty often actually.I have been reading my bible every day and journaling on what I read also.It is helping me grow in alot of ways.I just wish I could get over my insecurity problems,and be strong emotionally you know.God bless you and have a good day,Love always Sunshine.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 4:11:59 PM
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ORIGINAL: Roberta_
Are there part time volunteer or paid jobs that you can do? This would get you out, focused on others and making more friends.
I have tried getting into volunteer work both at the elementary school and a daycare nearby and have heard from neither one.I do babysit sometimes but not as often as I used to.
How big is the town where you live? Are there old folks' homes at all? They often ask for volunteers to come in and chat with the old people, or maybe read to them. Or there might be support groups for people who, say, have had a stroke or something else which has limited their mobility or radically changed their lives in other ways. I worked once for a charity for the blind, reading news items into a tape so that blind people could "read" the local newspaper on tape (the charity was called "Talking Newspapers").
In my town there are a lot of charity shops (I don't know what the equivalent is in the USA - it's where people donate items and they are sold in order to benefit the charity) - they are always looking for volunteers to staff the shop.
And our local supermarkets all employ 3 or 4 people with special needs - usually to help in the stock room or to stack shelves. And they are paid positions!
Thing is, doing something like that, even just once a week, could really help build your confidence.
Also, have you ever considered moving out, perhaps into sheltered accommodation (I don't know what this is called over there - perhaps assisted living?), and looking after yourself. That might really help your confidence as well, being more independent.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 4:23:10 PM
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In my town there are a lot of charity shops (I don't know what the equivalent is in the USA - it's where people donate items and they are sold in order to benefit the charity) - they are always looking for volunteers to staff the shop.
Thrift shops. Many of them around here, like Goodwill and Salvation Army pay their employees.
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And our local supermarkets all employ 3 or 4 people with special needs - usually to help in the stock room or to stack shelves. And they are paid positions!
Thing is, doing something like that, even just once a week, could really help build your confidence.
And working part time hours often will not interfere with your SSI. You might want to check on that though. I started a job this week just so I could get out of the house. I don't have SSI yet, but I probably will soon.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 5:15:14 PM
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Many things have been written. But my question to you is why you feel deliverance will occur in a short time when you've spent a lifetime building and feeding this problem? It didn't happen overnight, nor will the solution come in that guise either. Much like anything that must be dismantled you'll have to chip away at it one brick at a time.
Consider the source of your insecurity and begin there. Until you've healed, forgiven, and released the ghosts of the past they are merely occupying space in your mind and heart and preventing you from moving forward. You may wish to make a list of affirmations that you recite each day to combat the negative thoughts that permeate your head. In essence you need to discard the tape playing within and replace it with something wholesome and uplifting instead.
God bless.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 8:16:07 PM
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sunshine4God
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[How big is the town where you live? Are there old folks' homes at all?
Very small and there isn't much at all where I live.I don't want to move out since I really do love living at home.I forgot to mention I also don't drive since I have slow reaction time.Thanks for helping though.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 8:17:53 PM
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Many things have been written. But my question to you is why you feel deliverance will occur in a short time when you've spent a lifetime building and feeding this problem? It didn't happen overnight, nor will the solution come in that guise either. Much like anything that must be dismantled you'll have to chip away at it one brick at a time.
Consider the source of your insecurity and begin there. Until you've healed, forgiven, and released the ghosts of the past they are merely occupying space in your mind and heart and preventing you from moving forward. You may wish to make a list of affirmations that you recite each day to combat the negative thoughts that permeate your head. In essence you need to discard the tape playing within and replace it with something wholesome and uplifting instead.
God bless.
I don't really get what you are saying.Could you explain in a different way? I'm sorry but I'm kind of confused as to what you are saying.Sorry love Sunshine.
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"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 8:38:57 PM
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Roberta_
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Sunshine, with your skills for photography, have you ever thought about going around and taking pictures of nature or things like that?
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 8:54:28 PM
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sunshine4God
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[Do you have a library? That can often be a good place to find out what places locally take on volunteers. Also, do you have any supermarkets, or perhaps thrift stores?
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Yeah we have a library but the only way for me to get there is by riding my bike and its the next town over so with the cold weather coming,Im thinking of trying something closer.
I Could I ask how independent you are at home - eg do you cook for yourself, do your own shopping, do your own laundry etc?
I help my Mom make dinner every night,do my own laundry,do dishes,vaccuum,etc.I am always doing housework it seems like.
You know, from your posts here it seems to me that you really are a very bright intelligent young woman - there MUST be somewhere out there that could really use your skills! 
Thanks so much.You are the only one whos ever called me very bright.Most people consider me pretty slow. Thanks so much for your encouragement.God bless you always.
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RE: Why cannot I be free from insecurity? - 11/13/2008 8:57:51 PM
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sunshine4God
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ORIGINAL: Roberta_
Sunshine, with your skills for photography, have you ever thought about going around and taking pictures of nature or things like that?
I love taking pictures and do alot of scrapbooking in my spare time.Its alot of fun and I am almost done with my third big scrapbook,and did a mini scrapbook in about two weeks.
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Matthew 5:16.
"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
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