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I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies me! - 11/10/2008 11:40:20 AM
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My_Redeemer_Lives08
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I have never spoke about what has recently happened in my life on the forum, with hopes that all this would be sorted out, but it's only getting worse. I'm a Christian, one who loves and serves the Lord with all my heart, but here recently, I'm beginning to question alot about my life, and it's really beginning to scare me.
I know many others here have had losses, either through death or a divorce, and my heart goes out to everyone. My husband divorced me, and I can't seem to get passed all the questions that I have been faced with lately, questions that come from me. For several months, I believed that God was going to intervene, and restore my marriage, but it didn't happen, the divorce went through. Although it did, I still believe, that He is going to perfom a miracle, but when I look at the circumstances that surround me, it all seems impossible. I have questions like, God says, He will never allow us to carry a burden that's too heavy for us, but I don't feel that today, for many days, I have felt like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown. I question, "Did I not have enough faith for Him to do this?" I feel angry with God, then I feel sad for feeling this way with Him, I almost feel that He is mad because I don't understand. I think, why fill a person with such hope, belief and truth, to watch everything be taken away from them? And, I have read the Book of Job, more than once, and it has helped, but each morning, I wake up fighting this, I go through the day fighting this and I go to bed fighting this. I know that God is still with me, because if He wasn't, I'm quiet certain I wouldn't be sitting here today.
I really feel like the devil has won this battle, and it's killing me! I hate how I'm feeling! I hate the questions! And most of all, I hate not being able to trust God with this! Do I accept this? Did God truly not come through on this for me? Is it me, not accepting no from Him? Is He mad with me? Am I failure in His eyes? Is He mad because I feel the devil has won this? What is going on with me!?!?!?!? This divorce, should have never happened. He was influenced by his family. They never spoke it to my face, but his mom never wanted it to happen, she was and is very protective of him, and she felt she lost her baby boy, so when our problems began, she was there, I know in my heart, maybe not to encourage him to do this to me, but I don't feel she encouraged him to do what is right.
I need answers, and I just don't feel that I'm hearing from God anymore. And I need serious prayer. I no longer have peace in my life, and I feel all strength has gone. This is affecting my job, and my child is beginning to see the hurt, and that bothers me. I have forgiven everyone who has had a part in this, I have even forgiven him and that's another question, we are suppose to forgive, but yet, we still hurt. So many things, I don't understand. And it frightens me to think that the old me could come back!
I hope everyone here knows, that I love the Lord, and I know we can't live by what we feel, and we lean not on our own understanding, but what I'm going through is killing me!
Please pray,
Dawn
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 11:56:10 AM
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First of all, is/was your husband a Christian?
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 11:58:11 AM
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Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 11:59:10 AM
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My_Redeemer_Lives08
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ORIGINAL: SinnerSaved
First of all, is/was your husband a Christian?
Yes, we were in church together. And from what I understand, he is still going. He didn't divorce me for another woman, and I have always been faithful to him. We were having difficulties, and he wanted out from under the stress. I just never believed that this was going to happen. But it has.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 11:59:27 AM
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I wish I could reach out to you and give you a cyber-hug. You know I went through a similar divorce and my marriage wasn't restored. I look at this result as God "allowing" me out of a bad marriage. Yes, I got myself there but I guarantee I didn't sign up for some of the things that happened during the marriage. Push into God and it sounds like you have already, accept His answer even if it's not the one you are praying, remember you can only be responsible for your behavior in this divorce and where you could have done better, own it. God is not mad at you, he's just directing you in your best path. If you are diligently seeking him, I know whatever the outcome it is His will. You know early on in my divorce one simple prayer got me through it -- "Lord, if this is Your Will, allow me to walk this path in a way that honors you."
The devil hasn't won but he does still throw some pretty hefty punches our way. That's ok, he only messes with those that are a threat. Feel free to PM if you want to talk.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 12:00:45 PM
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If he wants out for stress -- that's abandonment. That's biblical for you but not for him.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 12:04:08 PM
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I wish I could reach out to you and give you a cyber-hug. You know I went through a similar divorce and my marriage wasn't restored. I look at this result as God "allowing" me out of a bad marriage. Yes, I got myself there but I guarantee I didn't sign up for some of the things that happened during the marriage. Push into God and it sounds like you have already, accept His answer even if it's not the one you are praying, remember you can only be responsible for your behavior in this divorce and where you could have done better, own it. God is not mad at you, he's just directing you in your best path. If you are diligently seeking him, I know whatever the outcome it is His will. You know early on in my divorce one simple prayer got me through it -- "Lord, if this is Your Will, allow me to walk this path in a way that honors you."
The devil hasn't won but he does still throw some pretty hefty punches our way. That's ok, he only messes with those that are a threat. Feel free to PM if you want to talk.
Thank you. I just can't get past these feelings. I have even had people say, Dawn, If you ever take him back, you need professional help, because no one would have him back for what he has put you through." Then, I think, am I a fool!?!?! And I know they meant well, but they don't know how comments like that can affect a person.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 12:08:40 PM
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Dear sister,
I feel some of your pain in your OP. {{{dawn_s}}}
I asked if he was a Christian because, as you must know, God does not wish us to divorce except for marital unfaithfulness. I do not know all the circumstances, and do not need to know any private details, but it very much seems that if you did not want the divorce, but your DH did, then he is acting outside of God's will. God is not mad with you over this matter.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 12:13:11 PM
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Do everything God would have you do to restore this relationship and if that's not God's will -- be at peace.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 12:14:05 PM
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Awhhh Dawn. I'm not going through a divorce but I'm dealing with much of the same questions that you are. I know thats a hard place to be :(
I can only share whats been my experience up until this point and my situation is far from resolved. But throughout the past two weeks I've been hurt, confused, angry just like you. I expected God to do things MY way, the only way that I thought things could be resolved. But He began to show me bits and peices of why things were happening. It still hurts but I can honestly say that I look back now being thankful that God allowed what He did because I have grown. I've also learned a measure of trust, I've seen a part of Gods character that I'd not previously accepted. I know that it's easy to trust God when you can see a light at the end of the tunnel- but when the situation is so far gone that you just don't see how even God can fix it, well thats when its hard to believe.
The scripture that someone else has posted has been one that I've repeated over and over for the past two weeks. Good comes from all things. Another scripture I've repeated and clung to was that God has a plan for me and it's a perfect plan.
I hope this has given you some form of hope. Keep holding on. God understands all of these emotions you're having and He understands your questions. He may not answer them, but He understands them. He doesn't expect you to have it all figured out and it's normal to be hurt.
Try to stay strong hon. It came to pass, it didn't come to stay.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 12:25:17 PM
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ORIGINAL: RamiRedeemed
Awhhh Dawn. I'm not going through a divorce but I'm dealing with much of the same questions that you are. I know thats a hard place to be :(
I can only share whats been my experience up until this point and my situation is far from resolved. But throughout the past two weeks I've been hurt, confused, angry just like you. I expected God to do things MY way, the only way that I thought things could be resolved. But He began to show me bits and peices of why things were happening. It still hurts but I can honestly say that I look back now being thankful that God allowed what He did because I have grown. I've also learned a measure of trust, I've seen a part of Gods character that I'd not previously accepted. I know that it's easy to trust God when you can see a light at the end of the tunnel- but when the situation is so far gone that you just don't see how even God can fix it, well thats when its hard to believe.
The scripture that someone else has posted has been one that I've repeated over and over for the past two weeks. Good comes from all things. Another scripture I've repeated and clung to was that God has a plan for me and it's a perfect plan.
I hope this has given you some form of hope. Keep holding on. God understands all of these emotions you're having and He understands your questions. He may not answer them, but He understands them. He doesn't expect you to have it all figured out and it's normal to be hurt.
Try to stay strong hon. It came to pass, it didn't come to stay.
Thank you.
I'm sitting here crying my eyes out right now. I know I'm going to be ok. I just wonder when? He called me last week, wanted to see me, and I thought that maybe that was going to be the beginning of God healing this, but he only wanted sex from me, I said, "No." I just couldn't do it, he divorced, so why should I allow him to use me like that? But it hurt so much! I threatened him with a restraining order because I can't let him play these games anymore. Since I have threatened him with that, he hasn't called. That's so hard for me to believe, a man that once loved me, that was once my husband, only called me for sex, while I'm sitting at home praying for a miracle. See why I feel so deceived, and that this is the devil's game?!? It's killing me! So now I'm thinking, well, I have threatened him with a restraining order, I've sure blown it now. I lose either way.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 1:08:47 PM
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Dawn,
I understand the pain you are in because I went through a very similar experience with my ex-wife. For me it was a real struggle to understand why God just didn't answer my prayer to restore my marriage. There are two things I realized as I went through this very painful time of life. One, God is never going to force anyone to repent of sin. He leads people into repentance, but he doesn't force anyone to repent against their will (not even our spouses). Two, we need to trust that God knows what is best for us and that he will use every situation to bring Glory to himself even when we don't see how that is possible. We need to trust God even when we don't understand what he is doing.
I also want to let you know that while my own marriage was not restored (and never will be because my ex-wife remarried), I have seen God work miracles in the marriages of other couples (including those who had divorced), so don't give up hope for your marriage until God makes it clear that the relationship has truly ended.
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I'm sitting here crying my eyes out right now. I know I'm going to be ok. I just wonder when? He called me last week, wanted to see me, and I thought that maybe that was going to be the beginning of God healing this, but he only wanted sex from me, I said, "No." I just couldn't do it, he divorced, so why should I allow him to use me like that? But it hurt so much! I threatened him with a restraining order because I can't let him play these games anymore. Since I have threatened him with that, he hasn't called. That's so hard for me to believe, a man that once loved me, that was once my husband, only called me for sex, while I'm sitting at home praying for a miracle. See why I feel so deceived, and that this is the devil's game?!? It's killing me! So now I'm thinking, well, I have threatened him with a restraining order, I've sure blown it now. I lose either way.
You did absolutely the right thing!!! You did not blow it! and by submitting yourself to God's will, you win no matter what your ex-husband chooses to do. If your marriage is going to be restored to something better, you will need to build a foundation upon Godly principles. Making moral compromises would be absolutely the wrong way build a foundation for a healthy marriage if God permits your marriage to be restored. I think it is important to realize that God doesn't make any guarantees that your marriage will be restored, but he does guarantee that absolute best outcome for you will be found in submitting your life to his will. So, if God's will is for your marriage to be restored, it will happen by submitting your life and will to God's will. However, if you coerce the restoration of your marriage by compromising Godly standards the results will be even greater pain down the road. I was confronted with an equally painful and ugly proposition by my ex-wife. She had proposed the idea of remaining married if I would permit an "open marriage" in which she would be permitted to date other people and even bring them into our home. For me to have taken her up on that offer would have been far more damaging to all involved. Can you imagine the example that would have set for our children? The choice God desires for you will never require you to compromise your relationship with God by sinning against him.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 1:58:12 PM
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I really feel like the devil has won this battle, and it's killing me! I hate how I'm feeling! I hate the questions! And most of all, I hate not being able to trust God with this! Do I accept this? Did God truly not come through on this for me? Is it me, not accepting no from Him? Is He mad with me? Am I failure in His eyes? Is He mad because I feel the devil has won this? What is going on with me!?!?!?!?
This look like something I could have wrote the last couple of months!
Tha only answer I came up with is this must be a test of my faith.
I know I dont have the answers but I know the Lord does.
He also understands why we are going through trials and he has a plan to help me through it all.
I know if I keep drawing close to him and keep believing he is not going to leave me alone he will help me through this.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 2:18:27 PM
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ORIGINAL: benelchi
Dawn,
I understand the pain you are in because I went through a very similar experience with my ex-wife. For me it was a real struggle to understand why God just didn't answer my prayer to restore my marriage. There are two things I realized as I went through this very painful time of life. One, God is never going to force anyone to repent of sin. He leads people into repentance, but he doesn't force anyone to repent against their will (not even our spouses). Two, we need to trust that God knows what is best for us and that he will use every situation to bring Glory to himself even when we don't see how that is possible. We need to trust God even when we don't understand what he is doing.
I also want to let you know that while my own marriage was not restored (and never will be because my ex-wife remarried), I have seen God work miracles in the marriages of other couples (including those who had divorced), so don't give up hope for your marriage until God makes it clear that the relationship has truly ended.
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I'm sitting here crying my eyes out right now. I know I'm going to be ok. I just wonder when? He called me last week, wanted to see me, and I thought that maybe that was going to be the beginning of God healing this, but he only wanted sex from me, I said, "No." I just couldn't do it, he divorced, so why should I allow him to use me like that? But it hurt so much! I threatened him with a restraining order because I can't let him play these games anymore. Since I have threatened him with that, he hasn't called. That's so hard for me to believe, a man that once loved me, that was once my husband, only called me for sex, while I'm sitting at home praying for a miracle. See why I feel so deceived, and that this is the devil's game?!? It's killing me! So now I'm thinking, well, I have threatened him with a restraining order, I've sure blown it now. I lose either way.
You did absolutely the right thing!!! You did not blow it! and by submitting yourself to God's will, you win no matter what your ex-husband chooses to do. If your marriage is going to be restored to something better, you will need to build a foundation upon Godly principles. Making moral compromises would be absolutely the wrong way build a foundation for a healthy marriage if God permits your marriage to be restored. I think it is important to realize that God doesn't make any guarantees that your marriage will be restored, but he does guarantee that absolute best outcome for you will be found in submitting your life to his will. So, if God's will is for your marriage to be restored, it will happen by submitting your life and will to God's will. However, if you coerce the restoration of your marriage by compromising Godly standards the results will be even greater pain down the road. I was confronted with an equally painful and ugly proposition by my ex-wife. She had proposed the idea of remaining married if I would permit an "open marriage" in which she would be permitted to date other people and even bring them into our home. For me to have taken her up on that offer would have been far more damaging to all involved. Can you imagine the example that would have set for our children? The choice God desires for you will never require you to compromise your relationship with God by sinning against him.
Thank you for your post. I just could not go through with the sex. We are not married, therefore it isn't right, and it's a sin, so I could not go against what the Word of God says, and I will stand firm on that. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation, you seem to be handling it with God's grace and strength. I have my good days and bad days, but the past week, I just haven't been able to shake these feelings. I know God hasn't left me, but there are times, that I sure feel like He has. Again, thank you.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 2:20:14 PM
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I really feel like the devil has won this battle, and it's killing me! I hate how I'm feeling! I hate the questions! And most of all, I hate not being able to trust God with this! Do I accept this? Did God truly not come through on this for me? Is it me, not accepting no from Him? Is He mad with me? Am I failure in His eyes? Is He mad because I feel the devil has won this? What is going on with me!?!?!?!?
This look like something I could have wrote the last couple of months!
Tha only answer I came up with is this must be a test of my faith.
I know I dont have the answers but I know the Lord does.
He also understands why we are going through trials and he has a plan to help me through it all.
I know if I keep drawing close to him and keep believing he is not going to leave me alone he will help me through this.
Thank you. And I know what you mean. I have felt like this is a true test of my faith also, along with many other tests. I hope your situation has gotten better. I will be praying for you.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 2:29:27 PM
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Dawn...
Everything you have stated in your post, sounds so much like me. My husband divorced me, just this past Sept., we seperated in May, and this was something, that I did not want. I still to this day believe God is doing something much bigger than even I see. We dont walk these firey trials for nothing, God does nothing invane, there is purpose behind everything that He allows. My husband is a Christian as well, but he battles alcoholism, I seen God's Mighty Hand work in his life, for 3 months, he went without drinking a drop, and gave all the glory to the Lord, but as soon as we began to have financial problems, he turned back to the beer, and blaming me. I have undergone mental abuse and him leaving me, while I sat at home praying for a miracle. But the divorce went through, he contacted me, and of course, he missed me, and he loved me, and wanted me in the bed, but I would not compromise! Its wrong, we are no longer married, and it wasnt happening! Yes, he was shocked. We havent spoke since then either. I still hurt, I still cry, I still question. But something was brought to my attention not long ago. We sometimes can be stumbling blocks. I was that stumbling block for my ex. He had someone to blame, but when God allowed him, to divorce me, guess what? He has no one to blame, he has to face his problem, and now that Im not there, God can have his way with him!!! Rest in God's loving peace, and those huge arms of His, He will carry you! God has allowed this for a reason...you may not understand right now, but you will. Your relationship may be restored, it's not over until the Lord says its over! And if its not restored, then know, God has something else in store for you! You are going to be fine! God cannot and will not fail you!
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 2:36:11 PM
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but he only wanted sex from me
Dawn...lets be honest...do you really think your husband was a Christian? He might have attended church...a lot of people attend church that aren't Christians. Some of the things you have related make him suspect to me.
God knows what is best for your life and if you humble yourself to Him, turning your life completely over to Him, He will lead you to something much better for your future.
My first wife left me, which was a blessing because I would have stood by her regardless. Since that time I have remarried a wonderful Christian woman and returned to God, which was missing in my first marriage...I'm not sure that would have happened otherwise.
God does take care of those who belong to Him.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 2:41:09 PM
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but he only wanted sex from me
Dawn...lets be honest...do you really think your husband was a Christian? He might have attended church...a lot of people attend church that aren't Christians. Some of the things you have related make him suspect to me.
God knows what is best for your life and if you humble yourself to Him, turning your life completely over to Him, He will lead you to something much better for your future.
My first wife left me, which was a blessing because I would have stood by her regardless. Since that time I have remarried a wonderful Christian woman and returned to God, which was missing in my first marriage...I'm not sure that would have happened otherwise.
God does take care of those who belong to Him.
Bob
Bob,
I really don't know. I honestly thought that he was/is. Maybe he had me fooled.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:13:21 PM
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Dawn,
I understand the pain you are in because I went through a very similar experience with my ex-wife. For me it was a real struggle to understand why God just didn't answer my prayer to restore my marriage. There are two things I realized as I went through this very painful time of life. One, God is never going to force anyone to repent of sin. He leads people into repentance, but he doesn't force anyone to repent against their will (not even our spouses). Two, we need to trust that God knows what is best for us and that he will use every situation to bring Glory to himself even when we don't see how that is possible. We need to trust God even when we don't understand what he is doing.
I also want to let you know that while my own marriage was not restored (and never will be because my ex-wife remarried), I have seen God work miracles in the marriages of other couples (including those who had divorced), so don't give up hope for your marriage until God makes it clear that the relationship has truly ended.
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I'm sitting here crying my eyes out right now. I know I'm going to be ok. I just wonder when? He called me last week, wanted to see me, and I thought that maybe that was going to be the beginning of God healing this, but he only wanted sex from me, I said, "No." I just couldn't do it, he divorced, so why should I allow him to use me like that? But it hurt so much! I threatened him with a restraining order because I can't let him play these games anymore. Since I have threatened him with that, he hasn't called. That's so hard for me to believe, a man that once loved me, that was once my husband, only called me for sex, while I'm sitting at home praying for a miracle. See why I feel so deceived, and that this is the devil's game?!? It's killing me! So now I'm thinking, well, I have threatened him with a restraining order, I've sure blown it now. I lose either way.
You did absolutely the right thing!!! You did not blow it! and by submitting yourself to God's will, you win no matter what your ex-husband chooses to do. If your marriage is going to be restored to something better, you will need to build a foundation upon Godly principles. Making moral compromises would be absolutely the wrong way build a foundation for a healthy marriage if God permits your marriage to be restored. I think it is important to realize that God doesn't make any guarantees that your marriage will be restored, but he does guarantee that absolute best outcome for you will be found in submitting your life to his will. So, if God's will is for your marriage to be restored, it will happen by submitting your life and will to God's will. However, if you coerce the restoration of your marriage by compromising Godly standards the results will be even greater pain down the road. I was confronted with an equally painful and ugly proposition by my ex-wife. She had proposed the idea of remaining married if I would permit an "open marriage" in which she would be permitted to date other people and even bring them into our home. For me to have taken her up on that offer would have been far more damaging to all involved. Can you imagine the example that would have set for our children? The choice God desires for you will never require you to compromise your relationship with God by sinning against him.
Your post has helped me out alot too....thank you.
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:14:31 PM
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bob97
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Dawn...a Christian is known by his fruit or works and from what you have related if he is a Christian he is a very weak one. A true Christian following the Lord doesn't respond in the way your ex has.
The problem is not with God or you so that leaves only one alternative.
Trust in the LORD but don't necessarily expect things to turn around tomorrow...God's ways are not our ways.
I would tell God...OK God You have brought to this point in my life so I fully expect you to show me what to do next…He will but you have to listen with an open heart and not be distracted by the things around you. 
By the way I’m not Ann Landers so this is not an area where I really shine, I just felt I needed to respond to you.
Bob
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:44:00 PM
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Child4Jesus
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ORIGINAL: SinnerSaved
First of all, is/was your husband a Christian?
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ORIGINAL: dawn_s
Yes, we were in church together. And from what I understand, he is still going. He didn't divorce me for another woman, and I have always been faithful to him. We were having difficulties, and he wanted out from under the stress. I just never believed that this was going to happen. But it has.
Are you assuming that your husband is/was a Christian because he went to church? Or are you saying yes he is a Christian and we went to church together?
I will pray for you. Will post more later.
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Richad
The greatest heresy to American Christianity is that if you ask Jesus to come into your heart, he definitely will.
Paul Washer
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RE: I'm beginning to question so much, and it terrifies... - 11/10/2008 3:44:49 PM
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