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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 9:17:57 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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I so wish I was able to run - right now I just need to cry - not sure why either.
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 9:26:47 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Here's a big hug and a song for you, Lisa.
.....When youre down and troubled
And you need a helping hand
And nothing, whoa nothing is going right.
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest nights........
You've got a friend........
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 9:27:46 PM
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joy2give2u
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I'm thinking, would I still be running for miles if I had a husband who I can cry to? Would I be using all these activities as escapes, or would I do them because I truly enjoy them? I have only been in one serious relationship and have never been married so I am not the best source but I know one of the big problems in my relationship was our different ways of dealing with things.........I am the type who needs to go off alone, talk to God, and then I can come back rational and reasonable........God seems to have that affect on me..........R on the other hand believed in talking until a resolution was found......we would talk around and around in circles achieving nothing but me getting mad and him getting more determined we were going to work this out before the night was over.........I tried to tell him I needed to just go for a walk and then we could talk but he could not understand and thought I was just avoiding the issue.......not true......I just needed to talk to God and let Him guide me instead of my emotions.......
I am pretty sure when I marry my husband will need to be willing to let me have space to talk to God, go on a bike ride or walk, sometimes before we finish a heated discussion.
The second part of your question is harder for me.......though I love the things I do.....and will probably love them when married I think I will do them less.........even now, even as much as I love hiking in the woods alone, or watching the waves crash as I write in my journal, I gladly give up those things when I can do things with the girls.........I imagine when I am a mother and wife many of the things I do now will not have as powerful a pull on me .......make sense?
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 9:35:22 PM
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Prairiehiker
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am pretty sure when I marry my husband will need to be willing to let me have space to talk to God, go on a bike ride or walk, sometimes before we finish a heated discussion
I'm pretty sure I won't marry a man who doesn't love being outdoors. IF we can't hike/bike/ski/climb together, I doubt I'd be interested. If he doesn't, that's completely ok because I don't like running with anyone at all.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:22:04 PM
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Prairiehiker
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PH do you backpack or mostly do day hikes?
I do mostly day hikes, but backpacking is definitely in my to do list in the future.....so, want to go trekking in the Himalayas? Kili? I'd like to do the R2R2R of the Grand Canyon? Are you up for it?
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:23:51 PM
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ladioffaith
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Call a friend.
Hug my cat.
Read a Psalm.
Listen to worship music.
If I can stomach food at all .... eat something simple and soothing.
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He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with
his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." Zeph. 3:17
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:36:48 PM
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joy2give2u
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My friend k wanted to do the r2r2r a few years back but it is really hard to get a permit..........
I would love to go to base camp but have not considered spending much time backpacking the Himalayas.......
I have backpacked or day hiked small sections in the Rockie's, smokies,Appalachians blue ridge,sierras, cascades , green and white mts and the pacific range......I have also backpacked along lake Superior in the UP, in Indiana, south Dakota and the badlands of both n and s Dakota........
I did not backpack in Alaska so mostly did day hikes and some kayaking.....
I want to go to the south west........Bryce canyon, canyonlands etc.....I have never backpack any where near there........so would like too.
So no I probably won't trek the Himalayas unless I marry someone who is a big time climber.....with losts of money......there are so many beautiful places near by to backpack......,
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:42:40 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Wow, Joy, that's pretty impressive. I 've done a lot of day hikes, and climb a lot of the lower peaks here in Canada/the rockies. I have plans on doing all the 54 14ers in colorado. THat was unbelievable. My next vacation next year, the plan is to go down there and climb a few then do the Pikes Peak marathon. You bike? Ever heard of the Leadville 100 mtb bike race? YOu should try it.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:44:40 PM
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Focusing
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I used to work for someone who was doing the Lewis and Clark Trail in sections. He always invited people from the office to join him.
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:49:11 PM
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joy2give2u
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I don't mtn bike......LOL give me a road over dirt trails and tree roots any day.
I don't mtn climb either.....you all are crazy LOL....well I would probably do mtn hood or Rainer if I was still in good enough shape and lived out there to train......
I am impressed you want to climb all 14ers.......I read a book about a young man who was attempting to do them in the winter no less......just crazy if you ask me.......
Though I don't climb I love reading books of expeditions.....got hook when I read "Into thin air" ........it is by the same author as "Into the wild" which I thought was a good book......I did not like the movie as much though did you?
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 10:56:51 PM
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Though I don't climb I love reading books of expeditions.....got hook when I read "Into thin air" ........it is by the same author as "Into the wild" which I thought was a good book......I did not like the movie as much though did you?
I have both of them. Into the Wild rocks. I loved the movie; almost as good as the book. Into thin air? The book was great, the movie, not so much. I see every Everest movie or climbing movie. You should see the guy I posted in this thread. He's unbelievable. Look in one of the previous post with the link to Dano. You'll be amazed. Of course, he's dead now. LOL.
Nah, I'm a starter mtn biker....and loving every minute of it. And climbing...that's when I actually live in the now...because trust me, there's no time for thinking about anything else, lol. That's why it's addictive. I think adrenaline junkies are addicted to those type of sports because they feel so alive and in the moment. I'd be one of those guys but my daughter keeps me grounded.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 11:00:12 PM
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joy2give2u
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For a second, after reading my last few post, I was down and troubled...then I asked myself why?
I loved doing all the things I use to do......I love the freedom to travel and having no responsibilities or anything to tie me here......but you want to know a truth that just about floored me?
I loved running a house, taking care of my father, and being so involved in the girls lives more........the past seven years, even though not always as fun or adventurous, were far more rewarding then the years before.......
I wonder the opposite of you PH......I wonder if now that I have more of the single life again is it possible for those things to as rewarding as they use to be?
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 11:27:42 PM
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Prairiehiker
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wonder the opposite of you PH......I wonder if now that I have more of the single life again is it possible for those things to as rewarding as they use to be?
Well, I don't know. Before I had a daughter, I went and did all the crazy stuff that I wanted to do....bungee jumping, jumping off a plane, parasailing, all the stuff that you'd do if you didn't have any responsibility and if you died, no one would suffer much. But as soon as I had a daughter, as much as i wanted to be adventurous, I couldn't take any risk anymore because there's something more important. But would I enjoy them again? Im sure I would, but I also would be a little worried before I jump because if I die, what would happen? So, maybe the joy wouldn't be the same, Know what I mean?
So, i don't take much risk now. My daughter goes on a lot of hikes with me, even the ones that are difficult. We went on a few this summer, that required some help from bolted chains to reach the top, and she was fine. She's as adventurous as I am, which I'm glad to see. But there's no way I'd go running to join an Everest expedition while she's young. I just won't enjoy doing things knowing someone will suffer greatly if I lose my life. Being with my daughter is a calmer way of adventure...no adrenaline, but a lot of rewards that last beyond the moments of pleasure.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 11:35:52 PM
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joy2give2u
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Yes I understand
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 11:53:24 PM
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What do I do when I'm down?
Scream at God a lot. "Why aren't you listening!!!???" or "Why won't you answer me?"
Other than that I just deal with it. Life must go on so I must go on with it. I have neither the time nor the opportunity to have any other "coping" activity so I pray a lot.
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
Do you guys think that if we have life partners, would we be doing the same thing to cope when we're disappointed, frustrated, etc. Or would the fact that we have someone to lean on change the way we deal with life's little problems?
I started this coping style (Screaming at God) when M got sick. Until then she was my confidant and my counselor. My partner in life who was always there for me. Of course I rarely told her any of my problems, I wanted her to be happy and not have to be burdened down with my issues, but knowing she was there was enough.
So when I remarry I will probably change coping styles a bunch, but I'll also have far fewer problems to cope with.
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/16/2008 11:55:51 PM
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joy2give2u
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Excuse me.....John_o don't you have to pack or something........btw you should give sharing with someone else a try......even crying on their shoulders.......it can be very therapeutic
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/17/2008 12:11:07 AM
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Excuse me.....John_o don't you have to pack or something........btw you should give sharing with someone else a try......even crying on their shoulders.......it can be very therapeutic
First I have to find a woman with the proper shoulders. 
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/17/2008 9:14:08 AM
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losgan
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This morning I was feeling this way - so I went running, talking (outloud) to God - both praising and PLEADING with him. I stopped at a bench overlooking downtown and sobbed. Quite a morning, let me tell you.
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/17/2008 10:02:40 AM
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(((losgan)))
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/17/2008 12:46:16 PM
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I read, watch a movie, sing out loud, dance, workout, hug my kids or my mom, make a plan for something I want to do, write and crank up the music! **suddenly I hear Point of Grace - How You Live (Turn Up the Music) in my head**
basically whatever gets me not thinking about the pity party i'm wanting to give myself.
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RE: When you're down, and troubled... - 9/17/2008 1:52:55 PM
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Prairiehiker
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I'm probably the odd one here when it comes to music that I play when I'm down. It's Metallica all the way. Sort of goes with the whole adrenaline junkie image, lol. And it helps get rid of all the angst. So, needless to say, their Cd's have been overplayed lately.
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but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint....Isaiah 40: 31
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