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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/6/2008 10:43:53 PM
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Mrs.X
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The part my dad paid for was $5000...that was the dress/acessesories, tuxes, rental car (from Portland to SF), hotel, church, party favors. My mom bought and did the flowers, my grandma made the cake, my aunt paid for the reception at a restaurant, and I dunno how much all that costed. We had 40 people. I bought my husband's ring for $350, and my hubby bought mine for $325.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/7/2008 8:47:55 AM
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artemis
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My parents paid for our wedding and would have given me anything I asked, if I'd wanted it. In all, I think they spent about $10,000 (which is a pretty simple wedding for our area). We had about 250 guests, a light meal, cake, but no alcohol (neither my husband nor I was 21  ). My dress was $350, but after adding shoes, jewelry, undergarments, etc. it cost about $700 to have me properly clothed and presentable. My parents also paid for the bridesmaide's dresses and all the tuxes. I think my in-laws spent a few hundred dollars on the rehersal dinner. This was in Jan. 2001
My brother got married in August of 2007 and his wedding was almost identical to mine, but my mom said they paid about $15,000. Again, my parents paid for all the bridesmaids' dresses and tuxes. My parents paid for the wedding and the rehersal dinner, though, so I think about $1,000 of their total cost was actually for the rehersal dinner.
My sister had a fancier wedding in June of 2004. They had a nice dinner, a champagne toast and a DJ. Her dress was just over $1,000 and I remember my mom paying $250/bridesmaid dress, only to find that they all needed over $100 worth of alterations  All in all, I think my parents spent about $18,000 on my sister's wedding, and her in-laws complained that it was "cheap" and needed an open bar  They are from another state and apparently thought no wedding should cost under $30,000
It probably seems expensive, especially compared to what some people paid for their weddings, but it's pretty typical for our area where weddings are more like family reunions than just a wedding. I've seen many a reception last for 8+ hours and I don't know anyone who had fewer than 150 guests. My parents saved for the weddings from the time my sister and I were born and they would have spent a lot more if we'd asked them to. They hadn't planned on paying for my brother's wedding, but they were happy to do so. I have another 4 brothers and I think my mom is hoping that she won't be responsible for any more wedding planning, though
Also, after getting married at 20 and planning on being married until I die at 100 (  ), the wedding should be the only one I'll have and will last for the next 80 years. At $10,000 for 80 years, that's only $125/year  hehe...
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/7/2008 11:03:18 AM
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Oh! Another neat money saving idea for the dinner is a salad buffet. I went to a wedding where they had large bowls of salad with your choice toppings - grilled chicken, seafood, taco meat, a huge assortment of veggies and dressings, toppings galore, etc. I had never seen anything like it, but we sure ate our fill! It was wonderful! They also had a large variety of desserts to choose from. Maybe it's a thought?
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/7/2008 6:18:37 PM
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My wedding cost probably around ...well lets see
100 for my dress
7 for my veil
0 for my skirty thing under the skirt (corset maybe?) and shoes. We got them off of craigs list under freebies
0 for my ring as it was my mothers
54 for my hubbie's ring
25 for my bouquet
15 for our unity candles (my sis and I made them out of white candles decorated to suit us)
45 for food (we made our own, well MIL and best friend made it)
0 for the cake - a friend was wanting to start a business of it and volunteered to do ours free as a trial run - turned out great!
20 for mints, flower petals and little stuff
0 for ring bear pillow - used my sis's from her wedding (it was not planned this way but there was a really big miscommunication as to who had bought the pillow so it ended up no one paid for it and we didn't realize this till very late the night before the wedding)
0 for the honeymoon - we stayed one night at a local hotel wher a family member who couldn't make it had already paid for teh room and gave it to us since they were gonna be charged anyway, and my BIL took us out for dinner
0 on everyone elses dresses and suits. Hubby wore a suit he already had, all groomsmen wore black pants and white button up shirts. All my braidsmaid were responsible for getting there own dresses but only one of them actually had to go buy it because they were allowed to wear anyshade of lavendar and most already had a dress fitting that discription and my MOH wore my old Prom dress!
0 on the church - it was free
50 for the reception hall
20 for the marriage license
5 for all bridesmaids flowers (my sis and I made fake bouquets)
So that Equals $341 not bad I think. I posted everything so that people may get ways to save money. I loved our wedding. We actually paid for very little. My mom rented the hall, and bought my bouquet and gave me 50 to help with other things. My mil and fil paid for almost everything else except the unity candle stuff and the bouquets stuff and my hubbie's ring and the license(SP?). I think all in all my hubby and I might have contributed about $80. Not bad in my eyes at all. It amazes me when I see how much people are spending now days - I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that if you can afford it but I hate to see people "give up there big day" and get married at the court house because they don't have alot of money. Again not that there is anything wrong with getting married at the court house if you want but I know alot of friends whose marriages started off on a bad note because they had never gotten "their big day" and resented the other one for it. They then start dreaming about what there big day should have been like and then want it again, so alot of my friends have ended up divorced (and I had one actually tell me) so that they could marry someone else and get there big day. Its really sad and I hate to see it. But here I am high jacking the post sorry - and now back to ur regular scheduled programing.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/7/2008 6:39:28 PM
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My brother got married in August of 2007 and his wedding was almost identical to mine, but my mom said they paid about $15,000. Again, my parents paid for all the bridesmaids' dresses and tuxes. My parents paid for the wedding and the rehersal dinner, though, so I think about $1,000 of their total cost was actually for the rehersal dinner.
That was really sweet of your parents, Amy. Did she not have family, or did the family just have no money? I don't mean that question in a snotty way, I was just wondering.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/7/2008 6:43:28 PM
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but I hate to see people "give up there big day" and get married at the court house because they don't have alot of money. Again not that there is anything wrong with getting married at the court house if you want but I know alot of friends whose marriages started off on a bad note because they had never gotten "their big day" and resented the other one for it. They then start dreaming about what there big day should have been like and then want it again, so alot of my friends have ended up divorced (and I had one actually tell me) so that they could marry someone else and get there big day. Its really sad and I hate to see it
That is sad. If they need to get married soon enough to avoid temptation, but can't afford a big ceremony right away, they could always go to the courthouse first, and still have the fancy ceremony a couple months later.
I know several couples that live together and their excuse for not getting married yet is that they're saving up for a wedding.   I wish they would just do that ^(what I said up in the other paragraph) instead... and, yes, I know couples that have done that.
Of course, I have also heard of couples whose marriages have troubles because they went into too much debt over their wedding....so it's a left ditch/right ditch kinda thing, I guess.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/7/2008 6:55:08 PM
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Of course, I have also heard of couples whose marriages have troubles because they went into too much debt over their wedding....so it's a left ditch/right ditch kinda thing, I guess.
That is soooooo true
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/8/2008 2:54:04 PM
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I live in the same metro area as Amy/artemis; things are expensive in the big city. My wedding was considered fairly simple for our area (no alcohol, no DJ, no sit-down meal) and was still in the same price range as her brother's & sister's weddings. My parents paid 2/3 and we paid 1/3 ourselves. No debt.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/8/2008 6:15:52 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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My wedding was considered fairly simple for our area (no alcohol, no DJ, no sit-down meal)
I'm sure your guests were happy with the heavy hors de voures you said you had.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/8/2008 6:23:53 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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I hope that if and when the day comes, I will have a fairly ample budget for my wedding, because I've always wanted to do it big and fancy, and also have some entertainment for the kids.
Thankfully, I do have a couple ways costs can hopefully be cut. I tutored 2 kids for 3 years for almost no money, and their mom knows how to make wedding cakes, and I'm sure she would be willing to do a wedding cake for me as a gift, and my sister is an AVID gardener (her yard is gorgeous), and she has provided flowers for other people's weddings, so I'm sure she would be willing to do the same for me. Plus, my dad is a pastor, so I wouldn't have to pay the pastor, lol.
And here, the bridesmaids/groomsmen normally buy their own dresses/rent their own tuxes, so not a problem there.
Here is some of the rest of what I want (copied from the other thread):
one of my biggest dreams for my wedding is to a have LOTS of children in it..I don't want just a ring bearer and flower girl, I want a ring bearer and flower girl, a Bible boy and flower girl, 5 or 6 kids ringing bells, and 2 kids to carry the train, and I want them all to come in after all the adults, but before the bride(well, except the train carriers, of course)..and before any of the adults, I want a teenage boy and girl to come in and light the candles.
lets see what else..
my colors would be hunter green and burgundy
the little girls would all have white dresses some with the hunter green sashes, some with the burgundy
the maid and matron of honor (or if friend A2 beats me to it, the 2 matrons of honor)..would be in burgundy, the other bridesmaids in hunter green...all in velvet......and I'd let them pick their own pattern.
lots of candles...
and yes, I'd love to have a sit down dinner....specifically with the main dish being chicken cordon bleu..
and for the cake top...I'd love to find a figurine of a figure skating pair, since I like ice skating.
and I'd love to have some game booths for the kids, and would also think of a fun favor for the kids that was different than the adults' favor.
< Message edited by OneOfHisJewels -- 9/8/2008 6:40:03 PM >
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/8/2008 7:24:29 PM
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My brother got married in August of 2007 and his wedding was almost identical to mine, but my mom said they paid about $15,000. Again, my parents paid for all the bridesmaids' dresses and tuxes. My parents paid for the wedding and the rehersal dinner, though, so I think about $1,000 of their total cost was actually for the rehersal dinner.
That was really sweet of your parents, Amy. Did she not have family, or did the family just have no money? I don't mean that question in a snotty way, I was just wondering.
My sister-in-law's mother is a single mom and she just couldn't afford to give them a wedding. My brother and sister-in-law were going to have a really simple wedding and pay for it themselves, but my parents offered to do it for them as a gift. They talked to my sister-in-law's mother first to make sure they weren't going to hurt any feelings or anything. As it turns out, my sister-in-law's mother is kind of a free-loader and after my parents offered to pay for the wedding, she asked them to pay for the rehersal dinner, the dresses, the tuxes and everything else
Fortunately, my sister-in-law is really sweet and has always been very nice and gracious to my family. She is the first person in her family to actually get married, so it was important to my mom and dad that they give her a really special wedding that she could remember forever 
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/8/2008 8:27:59 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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She is the first person in her family to actually get married, so it was important to my mom and dad that they give her a really special wedding that she could remember forever
YAY for her!!!!!! Praise God that he broke a generations long problem with her family! And I admire your parents too..that was so sweet of them to do that for her! Too bad about how her mom acted, but at least sis in law is nice. He He, I had JUST said to my mom last night, "People always say the bride's parents pay for the wedding, but I bet there has been some cases where the groom's parents paid, like if the bride's parents weren't living, or if the groom's parents had no money." Then today I read your thread. He He, guess my instincts were right.
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/9/2008 2:25:59 PM
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I ordered my dress from Sears for $50. My mom made the attenents dress, so it was just the cost of the material. my dad's aunt did the flowers and pictures. We paid $25 to rent a church. My church was to small. The cake and reception was done inexchange for some work my dad with with his buldozer. I doubt it cost more that $300. This was in 1969. Nancy
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RE: How much was/is your wedding budget? - 9/9/2008 5:51:51 PM
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It's been 15 years, Praise God, but I'm thinking we spent about $2000 between the wedding and honeymoon combined. I just remember we had saved quite a bit but still put most of the honeymoon on the VISA. We were fortunate that my MIL had a great seamstress/tailor who made my dress, and Maid for honor's dress for only $200. I made my own hat and veil, silk flower baskets and bouquets and cake toppers. My mom found bags or rice and toasting goblets in our colors AT A YARD SALE! We made our own invitations on a Macintosh computer! ACK! My mom took care of reception food, cake and hotel reservations for out-of-town guests. My MIL paid for rehearsal dinner. (It was supposed to be a BBQ but it started to rain and plans changed to pizza at the church instead)
It was simple, but elegant. Just right for us.
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