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lilee -> husband is filing this week (8/24/2008 8:59:48 AM)

My husband is filing for divorce this week:( I don't want this to happen. He says he is not a christain anymore and doesn't want to be marriage to a christain. We have been going though a spirtal battle in the house for 2 mths now. On one hand I want God to restore our marriage and restore his faith in Christ. On the other hand I think is this God's way of getting me out of what could become a really bad marriage. I know that God will bless me because I have loved Him and loved my husband. I have not done anything aginst my husband to make him want to divorce me. He is disobeying God and that has put him in this place. My husband is choosing to brake this commitment to me and to God. I still feel sad and like how can he do this to me, but I do feel peace and I know that God will take better care of me than my husband has been.
I just have to keep trusting Christ and leaning on him to Love me forever. It's very hard to go though this loss. :*(
any addvise on how to handle this week? Or What to do now? Do I start packing up my things? Do I take my name off the bills? What comes next? I have never done this before and do not want to do this EVER again!



manda59 -> RE: husband is filing this week (8/24/2008 9:06:11 AM)

lilee

You said that you've not done anything against your husband to make him want to divorce you.

Yet only in June of this year you posted this:

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When I was out there I started thinking about my 1st love and how he made me feel. I started to miss that. I could not stop thinking about him. So I went in and told my husband that I missed him (DH) and how we use to do things and have fun together. I told him that I missed this other guy and that just broke his heart. I let him know that I have not talked to the other guy since we got married (4 years ago) that I just missed how I felt. I felt like our newlywed bliss was over and I wanted it back. DH feels like I tell him this all the time that he is not doing things good enough and I forget when he does do things sweet.


It honestly sounds to me like you've done a number of things to make him want a divorce.
Do you really feel like breaking his heart is not a big deal?!!



Memaw. -> RE: husband is filing this week (8/24/2008 9:24:56 AM)

Lilee,
Honestly, after reading some of your previous posts, it appears to me that you are trying to shift the blame onto your husband.

In the post that Amanda quoted, further down you say that you feel you are not in love with your husband anymore.

quote:

DH feels like I tell him this all the time that he is not doing things good enough and I forget when he does do things sweet. I don't know why I'm thinking about this other guy, or why I feel like I'm not in love with my husband, or I need more.


I respectfully say that you and DH are both in need of marriage counseling.



manda59 -> RE: husband is filing this week (8/24/2008 9:35:26 AM)

I agree with Memaw about the counselling.

I've been reading your other posts, dated last month, about your husband thinking about becoming a Jew.
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I talked to my pastors wife yesterday and she thinks that there is alot going on in his life that he needs to work though. I am getting help from her and others in the church. The elders are talking with my husband now and are not going to stop praying for him.

Now, I am not asking you to tell us what these things are that are going on in his life, but if he's
having problems, and then you told him that you weren't in love with him any more, that could really have tipped him over the edge.

Have you spoken with your pastor about what is happening right now? If not I would recommend you do so right away, and also seek out some counselling for yourself. And for him, if he will go with you.

What are the divorce laws in your State? Can you contest it, or can he just get the divorce without your consent?



MC4JC -> RE: husband is filing this week (8/24/2008 10:30:53 AM)

Its never one person's fault with a divorce. Even tho I divorced because of abuse, I still take part of the blame for maybe starting some of the fights.

Divorce is never easy. But the Bible does say that if one wants to abandone the marriage, you should let him go. Because of other things, maybe its best you two are divorced and hopefully will both find happiness.

Evaluate your marriage - be honest and write down all the wrong things that happened - on BOTH sides. Learn from your mistakes.

My husband and I learned our mistakes from the first failed marriages. This time around, we corrected all the wrong things and have a strong, God centered marriage the way marriage is intended - GOD'S WAY!



karlie -> RE: husband is filing this week (8/24/2008 10:54:07 AM)

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