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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 11:36:11 AM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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Though I cannot say I feel exactly the same way as WRB, I strive for the attitude that she has.
I ache painfully everyday to remarry. I have lots of close family, WRB, and yet I know the painfulness of having to listen to those who speak about their marriages the way you experience pain in listening to people speak of their families and children. On the other side, I wish I could just not care. I wish I could not care about getting married. I wish I could not care about it so much that when others spoke about their dates and engagements and marriages that I could just be happy for them. I experience a little of that same pain on the other side: when people like you, WRB, talk about your contentment with singleness, I envy that, too.
But I care. Intensely.
Nevertheless, I strive to hold to today, and here's why:
God promises to give us the grace and strength to deal with today, and there is none left over for dealing with tomorrow or yesterday. When I find myself feeling frightened, lonely and overwhelmed, it's because I've been trying to deal with tomorrow or yesterday without God's grace and strength.
And that answers the OP question. If I am not doing today what I should be doing to follow God as hard as I can, then I need to get busy doing that. If I am doing that, then I will have all the grace and strength I need, and I can leave singleness/marriage in His hands--just for today. I can deal with the pain of singleness today, because God gives me grace to do so.
I'm not "single forever". Heck, for that matter, I wasn't (nor will I ever be) "married forever". All we have is today.
Today I am single, and I can deal with that. Today I will do my best to follow God as hard as I can in my singleness, and He will get me through it. I could say the same thing if I were married. Further, if I am following Him as hard as I can, acknowledging him and seeking His kingdom in everything I do today, then I can rest assured that He is preparing me for my future, whatever that is...I don't have to give a thought to it.
For example, I might worry more about my money situation if I knew I were going to be single the rest of my life. But I already worry too much about that and God has commanded us not to worry. So my goal is to cease to worry about that and trust Him more and more and seek Him for financial decisions. Making these decisions shouldn't be based on singleness/married. They should be based on what God wants me to do today about that.
Another example is that if I knew I would be single, I might not take care of my body the way I should. Yet my goal should be to care for my body because God gave it to me, and to care for it in a balanced manner (in other words, not spending inordinate amounts of time, money, and mental/emotional energy on it). So I need to make better decisions today about body care: but NOT because I'm single or married. I need to make these choices based on my desire to follow Christ. Period.
So to a certain extent I think that the question in the OP and the opposite question of what a Christian would do if they knew one way or the other are valid only in that asking them of ourselves might highlight some area that we are not following Christ but rather acting or thinking in a manner that attempts to deal with the future without God's grace and strength.
I hope this makes sense.
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Excellent post, Esther.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 11:40:01 AM
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You're single now. What's to stop you from doing those things now? What's to stop you from doing those things if you get married? How would knowing you'd never marry propel you to do those things? Are they only worthy to do as a "runner up" to marriage? WhiteRose, I answered my thread in a humorous way, which apparently, didn't come out like that. Oh Well. I guess after reading RGod's comment on my online profile, I was inspired to let my goofy side come out, since that's part of who God made me to be. Often times, we're sooo serious around here. Let's laugh a little. I didn't know that you weren't being serious; especially, since, in the OP of this thread, you did write, "Serious and goofy answers are welcome." And especially, since the question you asked me did not at all seem goofy to me but quite serious.
Prairiehiker, I when I saw your question to me last night, I thought you were truly wanting to understand, so I took a very long time in answering your question. I put a lot of thought into everything I wrote.
I also had to take some time to, first, work through feeling insulted that you would even hypothetically tell God, "maybe you meant White Rose is not meant to be married, since she's good at being alone?" The fact that anyone would make such a presumption and couch it in the context of comparing my life to theirs even (for whatever reason, marriage being but one possibility) hurt me very deeply; especially since I know the pains and heartaches that I have endured throughout my life. However, I got beyond the hurt and was truly giving you the benefit of the doubt that your question was sincere and that really you wanted me to answer your question. I also realized that, of course you wouldn't know about any loneliness I might feel because I don't believe I ever talked about it in here. Everyone experiences emotional pain and sometimes even very intense emotional pain. Everyone also deals with it differently. I never presume to not think otherwise.
Did you even read anything I said? Really read it? I shared some very deep and personal things with you in my post last night . . . in the attempt of having a discussion with you and all you can tell me is that I don't get you?
Incidentally, I didn't say I felt sad for you. What I said was this:quote:
I do not understand this; but I do have compassion for you. Truly. It saddens me that not being married is so deeply and continuously painful for some people. I said I have compassion for you. I have compassion for anyone who wants to be married as deeply as you and others here do. I have compassion for anyone who endures any type of emotional pain; especially when the pain is ongoing. The sadness I feel comes from knowing how much a person can long for something and not have it.
I've read many of your posts in here Prairiehiker, you have admitted time and again that you do want to get married and you have also said that it is sometimes painful for you to not be married (that's not a verbatim quote; just a paraphrasing). Yet, when I show compassion for you and try to let you know that I understand how pain feels by telling you that it saddens me, your only response to me is that I just don't get you?
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And yes, I do have a REAL relationship with Jesus, that's why I can voice out my innermost thoughts to him. I have never once implied that you nor anyone else didn't have a real relationship with Jesus. If you will notice, I begin many things I say with, "for me" . . . meaning that this is how it is FOR ME. I don't even begin to presume to tell someone else how it should be for them.
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God knows what's in my heart anyway; why hide it or pretend? I've never once even suggested that anyone do this. In fact, I very clearly said in my post last night that God is who I pour my heart out to.
Just because you and I have different opinions and different ways of doing things does not mean that every time I express an opinion or relate how I do things that it is secretly a dagger for you or for anyone else whose views are different from mine. You asked me a question and I answered it. I was speaking for myself; how in the world can I speak for anyone else in situations such as these?
Did you not even see the last part of my post where I said I agreed with you on something. I wasn't being flippant about that.
PrairieHiker, for whatever reason, it seems that I rub you the wrong way. If I'm incorrect, I'll stand corrected. However and regardless, I will state again . . . my opinons and experiences are just that: mine. They can't be argued; only facts can be argued. I don't tell anyone how to feel, how to conduct their relationship with Jesus, etc.; and again, whenever I give my opinions or when I speak of how I live my life, I do so from my standpoint only.
I have tried several times to participate in conversations here in the Singles thread. I know my perspectives are different, but there's nothing wrong with different perspectives; at least I don't think so.
I no longer have the time nor the emotional energy to keep putting myself through this, if all that's going to happen is for me to be analyzed as to why I am the way I am and then argued for being the way I am. It has, in fact, now become extremely painful for me to participate in this folder. I feel as if I have been completely negated. For what it's worth, I don't say that lightly nor flippantly; in fact, that is the first time in 7 years of posting anywhere in this forum that I have felt or said that.
May Our Lord truly and abundantly bless you.
I sincerely hope that one of those blessings is a long and joyous marriage for you.
May He, in fact, completely bless everyone who reads this
HIS Peace and HIS Joy,
Sharon-Marie
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 12:14:06 PM
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WIth all due respect, WRB, you picked apart every thing I posted, when all I did was give you a compliment at being good at being alone and single If someone comes to me and says, I prayed to God that I would be like you and be completely satisfied at being a single mother, I would be jumping for joy. It would mean that people see that I'm good at it and has a good attitude about it. (and yes, people have commented that I'm so good as a single mom, that I don't need a husband....and I took it as a medal, though it's only through the grace of God that I am a good mother). And you questioned all of them, as though they are not matching up to your answer, therefore, you feel a need to voice your compassion and offer an advice...to every single one. The things that you don't understand about me, you picked them apart and voiced your opinion on them. How do you think people would respond if you keep doing that to every posts? You'd put people on a defensive because often times, I feel judged by your response to my posts.
I paid you a compliment in a light hearted way. Sorry that you took it the wrong way. You found a good way of dealing with your situations, and that's great, however, you can't seem to understand that people are not in the same stage of the journey.
I apologized for jumping at you but you have to understand, you attacked me first when all I did was paid you a compliment.
That's all I'm going to say and I would appreciate if you have any more issues with me, that you'd let me know in private. Thanks.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 1:11:45 PM
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But seriously, I think I'd step up my game when it comes to being relational. This is something I'm doing now because I realized that relationships are the most important things in life.
I've realized the same thing so I'm trying to get more involved in things.. recreational and church/ministries. Although, it's not easy developing great relationships with people.. it takes a lot of time and work. I wish I would have figured this out a lot earlier in life.
In response to your post. I would do something similar as others have posted and would try to negotiate a deal of some kind. It's hard to imagine that I couldn't full fill Gods plan in my life by being married.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 1:37:23 PM
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ORIGINAL: ShallbeRebuilt
Though I cannot say I feel exactly the same way as WRB, I strive for the attitude that she has.
I ache painfully everyday to remarry. I have lots of close family, WRB, and yet I know the painfulness of having to listen to those who speak about their marriages the way you experience pain in listening to people speak of their families and children. On the other side, I wish I could just not care. I wish I could not care about getting married. I wish I could not care about it so much that when others spoke about their dates and engagements and marriages that I could just be happy for them. I experience a little of that same pain on the other side: when people like you, WRB, talk about your contentment with singleness, I envy that, too.
But I care. Intensely.
Nevertheless, I strive to hold to today, and here's why:
God promises to give us the grace and strength to deal with today, and there is none left over for dealing with tomorrow or yesterday. When I find myself feeling frightened, lonely and overwhelmed, it's because I've been trying to deal with tomorrow or yesterday without God's grace and strength.
And that answers the OP question. If I am not doing today what I should be doing to follow God as hard as I can, then I need to get busy doing that. If I am doing that, then I will have all the grace and strength I need, and I can leave singleness/marriage in His hands--just for today. I can deal with the pain of singleness today, because God gives me grace to do so.
I'm not "single forever". Heck, for that matter, I wasn't (nor will I ever be) "married forever". All we have is today.
Today I am single, and I can deal with that. Today I will do my best to follow God as hard as I can in my singleness, and He will get me through it. I could say the same thing if I were married. Further, if I am following Him as hard as I can, acknowledging him and seeking His kingdom in everything I do today, then I can rest assured that He is preparing me for my future, whatever that is...I don't have to give a thought to it.
For example, I might worry more about my money situation if I knew I were going to be single the rest of my life. But I already worry too much about that and God has commanded us not to worry. So my goal is to cease to worry about that and trust Him more and more and seek Him for financial decisions. Making these decisions shouldn't be based on singleness/married. They should be based on what God wants me to do today about that.
Another example is that if I knew I would be single, I might not take care of my body the way I should. Yet my goal should be to care for my body because God gave it to me, and to care for it in a balanced manner (in other words, not spending inordinate amounts of time, money, and mental/emotional energy on it). So I need to make better decisions today about body care: but NOT because I'm single or married. I need to make these choices based on my desire to follow Christ. Period.
So to a certain extent I think that the question in the OP and the opposite question of what a Christian would do if they knew one way or the other are valid only in that asking them of ourselves might highlight some area that we are not following Christ but rather acting or thinking in a manner that attempts to deal with the future without God's grace and strength.
I hope this makes sense.
shallbe
Excellent post, Esther.
I agree!
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 2:16:08 PM
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Exactly. This is the point I've been trying to get across in the great moments thread. Thank you!!
Lol, JohnO, I think anytime now, we're about to get the "you don't have the right Christian attitude" sermon because we feel this way. Oh well.
LOL!! But I'm trying to be biblical.
The bible says "Ge 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
Surely they wouldn't want me to go against God? 
After all, I'm trying to be good!
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 2:33:09 PM
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It's not that I'm necessarily so good at being alone, it's simply that I don't see any purpose in wishing for something different, when, at the moment, it's not different. To me, I feel as if that is emotionally and spiritually dangerous. I'd rather concentrate on what I do have in my life; and what's going on in my life at any specific moment.
I agree wholeheartedly. I personally think that the biggest contributing factor to being content in all circumstances is being able to recognize and accept that it is what it is. Anytime there are comparisons, something comes up lacking and we open ourselves up to increased discontent.
I also think that's foolish, dangerous and insulting to look at others and think that they have an easier time or an easier life or that they're "better at" being what we're discontent with. None of us can possibly know what someone else is struggling with. And anyone who seems to be "good at" dealing with some circumstance in life has paid for whatever competence they have in that area very, very dearly. They have paid so much that they would NEVER wish the same thing on anyone else let alone try to bargain with God to give a circumstance to someone else because that someone else is better able to deal with it.
As to the OP, I wouldn't do anything differently regardless of whether I learned I would be married or learned I would never again be married. My character is my responsibility no matter what happens and I'm busy seeing to it. Changed circumstances should have no effect on that.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 2:40:31 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly. I personally think that the biggest contributing factor to being content in all circumstances is being able to recognize and accept that it is what it is. Anytime there are comparisons, something comes up lacking and we open ourselves up to increased discontent.
This is truth. What is, is.
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My character is my responsibility no matter what happens and I'm busy seeing to it.
And I think most would agree that CDL is quite a character at times.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 2:51:17 PM
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Kinda makes me want to make one of those pacts, you know where you promise a friend that when you reach 60 and your not married you will marry each other. LOL (looks around) Just joking!!!!!
I posted in another thread a few weeks ago about the pacts I made when I was younger (and drunker and wilder, lol) with my male friends. They've all gotten married and happily married still. Of course, no one takes this pacts seriously, but it's a fun thing to reminisce about them, lol.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 2:53:28 PM
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I posted in another thread a few weeks ago about the pacts I made when I was younger (and drunker and wilder, lol) with my male friends. They've all gotten married and happily married still. Of course, no one takes this pacts seriously, but it's a fun thing to reminisce about them, lol.
Somehow I must be missing something here. Are you saying that now you're merely drunk and wild?
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 2:59:45 PM
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Why wait to do things until you are sure you aren't getting married though?
Actually, I'm not waiting until I get married to do anything. Some things are just too big to do right now...like the treks that I plan to do. Yeah, they are part of my five year plan. It would be nice to do them with someone and I dream of doign them with someone, but if no one comes along, I will get them done.
It's kind of sad that we suppress our desire to be with somene and have lost that ability to dream as if it's wrong.
*Whew!* Ok good, I just wanted to make sure :)
I'm with ya on the "5 year plan." I plan to go to Machu Picchu, single or not ... but right now it just isn't in the budget. There are some places I'd like to travel that I'd rather not travel alone - but my alumni association has a group that travels together pretty often - so maybe they'll go to some of those places eventually.
I'm planning on buying a condo/townhome/house in the next 5 years too - and if I meet someone, well - maybe he'll like my place better, ha ha.
After reading "Captivating" - I quit trying to suppress my desires, my feminine side, (not that I hide my tomboy side now either), and just let myself want those things. I daily ask God to search my heart and show me things I need to deal with, get rid of, and let Him KNOW what desires I feel. And amazingly enough - there are some He has taken away! The fact that the desire to be a wife and caretaker of some kind has not been taken makes me hopeful that He still has that in the plans for me.
But if He doesn't - I know that's in my best interests too.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 3:20:30 PM
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After reading "Captivating" - I quit trying to suppress my desires, my feminine side, (not that I hide my tomboy side now either), and just let myself want those things. I daily ask God to search my heart and show me things I need to deal with, get rid of, and let Him KNOW what desires I feel. And amazingly enough - there are some He has taken away! The fact that the desire to be a wife and caretaker of some kind has not been taken makes me hopeful that He still has that in the plans for me.
Hey, Losgan, I read those books too. It really resonated with me. It's almost like a validation saying, it's ok to be a woman who desires things because that's how God wired us to be. I think the current "self help" culture really have trained us to be so self sufficient, to be the masters of our destiny, to suppress every desire that we have because they are dangerous and we'll become vulnerable. But I found that adopting those attitudes just left me in the cold.
And John, that's too funny, lol. I guess bad choice of words. The last time I had a sip of any alcohol was maybe 2 years ago....while hiking. People have commented that someday, they'll find me passed out in some hiking trails, totally inebriated, half eaten by a bear. lol. (just for the record, it was a hiking/picnic date, so I brought a bottle of wine....that was fun).
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They will soar on wings like eagles;
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 3:40:03 PM
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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings
It's not that I'm necessarily so good at being alone, it's simply that I don't see any purpose in wishing for something different, when, at the moment, it's not different. To me, I feel as if that is emotionally and spiritually dangerous. I'd rather concentrate on what I do have in my life; and what's going on in my life at any specific moment.
I agree wholeheartedly. I personally think that the biggest contributing factor to being content in all circumstances is being able to recognize and accept that it is what it is. Anytime there are comparisons, something comes up lacking and we open ourselves up to increased discontent.
I also think that's foolish, dangerous and insulting to look at others and think that they have an easier time or an easier life or that they're "better at" being what we're discontent with. None of us can possibly know what someone else is struggling with. And anyone who seems to be "good at" dealing with some circumstance in life has paid for whatever competence they have in that area very, very dearly. They have paid so much that they would NEVER wish the same thing on anyone else let alone try to bargain with God to give a circumstance to someone else because that someone else is better able to deal with it.
As to the OP, I wouldn't do anything differently regardless of whether I learned I would be married or learned I would never again be married. My character is my responsibility no matter what happens and I'm busy seeing to it. Changed circumstances should have no effect on that.
I agree with Lioness.
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Kinda makes me want to make one of those pacts, you know where you promise a friend that when you reach 60 and your not married you will marry each other. LOL (looks around) Just joking!!!!! 
I made one of those. We'd be planning our wedding right now if he hadn't met someone last fall. I'm happy for him though.
I'll give more insight to it later tonight.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 4:10:29 PM
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I would be content with it--because if he wants me single and if it his will for me, I'm not going to question it at all, because he does knows my future and his will is not my will at all.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 5:26:11 PM
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I would probably refuse the confirmation and pretend I didn't hear it. And then I would pray for some kind of sign, maybe something like "Lord, if you want me to stay single the rest of my life make the US Soccer team win the World Cup." That way, I'll be happy either way!
I had to laugh at that one. Although with Beckham being there ....
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 8:29:08 PM
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.... I would know that one time or the other, I had heard God wrong.
God told me a REALLY long time ago that I would get married. Sounds crazy, but it is the ONLY time I heard God in an audible voice. I heard it again, said, "Oh, that must have been God" and rolled over and went to sleep. I haven't lost sleep worrying about it since, which I think was God's point.
Many years have passed, so many that I have questioned that I heard correctly.
So nope, no changes, other than severe questioning on whether I'm able to hear from God at all. I cannot be single for life. I can only be single day to day.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 8:34:16 PM
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If God told me I would never be married my prayer would be that as soon as the Girl got married He'd kill me and take me home.
BTDT. Considered ways and means to take control of that myself. Decided that most of them were yucky and painful. Also realized that a nanosecond after I succeeded I'd be facing Jesus trying to explain to Him how He'd got it all wrong and I had to take over.
Decided not to do it.
But I might very well pray that same prayer, once all 4 are secure in marriages, careers, jobs.
But...then what about the grandchildren? I want to see/hold/love/sing to/read with/eat chocolate with....them. Of course, if it turns out I'm not to have any of those either, well, then I'll definitely pray that prayer.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/23/2008 8:36:13 PM
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It doesn't sound crazy to me, ladiofaith. Though, I didn't hear God in an audible voice, He clearly told me I was spoken for. I have no idea what He meant by that, though. LOL
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/24/2008 2:51:58 PM
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This thread reminds me of a time when I was watching over some children. The oldest was 4, then a 3 year old and a 19 month old. We were on our way to the park (which I had played up big time
telling them how much fun it would be
we had been there many times, but I still talked it up) to feed the fish, ride bikes (or trikes!!) and play at the playground. As we approached, it was closed (I dont remember why) so I told them we would have to go to plan B
the waterpark, which they all love. Well the oldest would have nothing of it and began to pitch a FIT. He screamed and cried saying that he wanted to go to the park to have fun. (Mind you just a few days before he stated that the waterpark was his favorite place ever.) I tried to remind him that he loved the waterpark
nothing
still crying. Well, I did the ol ignore the temper tantrum thing and drove on to get our suits and then to the waterpark. He was quieter
but not happy.
While at the waterpark this little boy was miserable
he was convinced that the only way he could have fun that day was to go to the other park and feed the fish. I kept thinking (and trying to remind him) of the blast he had the last time we came to the waterpark and marveled at how he was blind to the fun all around him
in fact so blind he kept misbehaving and served 3 time outs while there. As I shook my head, my Father in heaven reminded me that this is how I was behaving. I said, What are you talking about? He proceeded to tell me that because of my attitude in my singleness I was missing the fun He had for me now. He reminded me of all my temper tantrums and tears I shed begging Him to bring me to my husband very soon
and if you dont, please just take me home
I cant do this
. Its too hard.
Hmmmm
yup, those were my prayers
and yup
I was wailing and crying and begging Him with all I had in me to no avail. (I suppose it kinda looked like a temper tantrum.) Meanwhile, He made it very clear there were things He had for me now that would fulfill me as I served Him
otherwise He would have brought my husband to me. So
I repented
(though I still have my moments) and took Him at His word. He wants to use me now
in this moment. He made me and knows how to fulfill me
I just have to trust Him. If I fix my sites on my dream of being married
I will miss the here and now and be miserable.
So if I knew for sure that I was to be single forever
there would be a time of mourning my lifelong dream
but I would pick myself up and say, You know best, and my life is in your hands
I trust that You will fulfill me as I walk where you wish me to walk in the way You have planned.
Now I doubt very much that God will say this to me
but I am single right now
and I will live my life to the fullest as a single until He says otherwise. My hope HAS to be in Him, not in my marital status
so I will strive to keep my hope in Him and Him alone
not in anything He gives or does not give to me in His infinite wisdom. I trust He loves me and knows what is best.
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RE: If God were to confirm with you that you would be s... - 8/24/2008 3:21:35 PM
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