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willfs -> What could the males in your life do better? (8/13/2008 5:39:20 PM)

If you could give some specific info on what guys, in each of these groups, could do better. Maybe some things that you have noticed that a few (or more than a few) guys are just clueless on. Or maybe we aren't ignorant about something, we are just too timid or lazy about doing it.

Friends-

Dates-

Those you've had relationships with-

Spouses-

Siblings-



I understand there could be some overlap.



twinkly -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/13/2008 7:41:09 PM)

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Friends- I actually do not have a lot of male friends so I can't answer this for friends.

Dates- unfortunately haven not been on one in a while....

Those you've had relationships with- stop being so selfish

Spouses-stop being so selfish

Siblings-
I don't have any male siblings

Yes, the men that have been in my life have been very self absorbed. It has been all about what makes THEM happy, drop everything to listen to them and their needs, while mine got put to the back burner.
Future men in my life will do me a favor if they are not so darn selfish.



sudden -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/13/2008 7:46:31 PM)

Dear Willfs:

I don't know about most men but I have my suspicions. I grew up in a household many years ago before there was women's lib and my father did everything that my mother did. He vacuumed, washed floors, cooked, went shopping and so forth. When I learned around age 7 or so that there were men who didn't do any of these things I was in complete shock!

My husband could do more house work. A guy who does house work is like an undiscovered gold mine. Most women will tell you that there is nothing quite like a guy who is a co-worker in this department. He is hot! hot! hot!

Yours for the domestication of puppy dog tails,
(or is it tales?)

Sudden



StraightAhead -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/14/2008 1:04:59 AM)

I'll speak in terms of my Christian brothers (friends and acquaintances) - follow through/reliability - if a man says he's going to do something, he should either do it or let the other person know he can't/won't/will not be able to/no time to, do it. Neglecting/backpedaling off without being honest about that (changing his mind without telling the other person) on what he said he would do, does not make the man look like a reliable person.



staceynms -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/14/2008 7:24:46 PM)

I don't really have male friends. But my husband, what could he do better?

As I lay in bed in the other night, no this isn't dirty, I was thinking.......

I wish he understood me better, understood how to minister to me and to talk to me. Women are so different then men. Men need:
To be respected
To be needed
To be loved

There are a lot of other things men need, but if you're doing those things, I bet he's pretty happy.

Women on the other hand....... ha! I don't have enough time to jot down what women need....

I don't even know how to answer this.......... LOL



staceynms -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/14/2008 7:26:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sudden

Dear Willfs:

I don't know about most men but I have my suspicions. I grew up in a household many years ago before there was women's lib and my father did everything that my mother did. He vacuumed, washed floors, cooked, went shopping and so forth. When I learned around age 7 or so that there were men who didn't do any of these things I was in complete shock!

My husband could do more house work. A guy who does house work is like an undiscovered gold mine. Most women will tell you that there is nothing quite like a guy who is a co-worker in this department. He is hot! hot! hot!

Yours for the domestication of puppy dog tails,
(or is it tales?)

Sudden


My hubby does housework. He's such a saint in this area. But we both work from home, SO, he's here all the time and he sees what makes the house tick.... not just in the evenings or weekends... I think that's the difference. And yes, he's hot hot hot when he's doing these things. He's a keeper!



willfs -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/15/2008 11:05:11 PM)

Wow. The whole selfless thing backs up my experience (experiences I had filed away to be forgotten). I recall helping out a female friend of mine. She later commented that what I did made me seem hot (same choice of words as those in this forum).

Thanks for all of these comments. Very insightful.



LoyalFriend -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/16/2008 7:50:25 AM)

Across the board I would say be respectful. Treat people respectful in their presence and when they are not around too. Be respectful in your actions, in your behavior and in your talk. Not saying all men are not respectful but I have seen many who are not especially when it comes to women and hanging out with other men.

My husband is very respectful and I respect that about him.[:)]



losgan -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (8/16/2008 3:49:25 PM)

Friends- Be more honest with me, and be on guard about who you will and will not introduce me to or consider suggesting I go on a date with. I'd like to believe my friends value me enough not to set me up with a loser, but alas it has happened. They are always sorry - but they had to have had some idea before it happened. I don't like the "bros before hos" attitude (and that's a terrible saying, but I'm sure you've heard it).

Dates- Don't be fake. Show up on time. Don't tell me all the things you usually do for a date (get a haircut, buy flowers, etc) that you didn't manage to do this time. It makes me feel like I wasn't worth the effort. If you expect me to call you rather than vice versa, give me a hint.

Those you've had relationships with- Be honest and communicate.

Spouses- NA

Siblings- Treat your sister like you would someone you are dating ... open the door, be a gentleman, excuse yourself. It's good practice! And feel free to screen anyone I date! My brothers may be younger, but it makes me feel valued when they are protective of me (within reason of course).



ebony101 -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (9/6/2008 5:40:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sudden
A guy who does house work is like an undiscovered gold mine. Most women will tell you that there is nothing quite like a guy who is a co-worker in this department. He is hot! hot! hot!


I second that. Women have a lot of work to do at home, especially if they work outside the home - then they have 2 jobs. A man who acknowledges the work to be done at home and who participates in the housework is much appreciated.

On the other hand: single guys need to know how to communicate with a woman and to make her feel appreciated.



Auben -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (9/6/2008 11:51:23 AM)

Listen (and remember). My husband does this really really well. If someone cares enough to hear you and then remember little details about who you are and what makes you tick. It's very compelling.

Apologize (when necessary). "I'm sorry but..." is NOT an apology. Most women don't find weakness in apologizing so stop worrying about that. We don't need to know the history of why you did it so you feel better about making the mistake. We don't need to hear excuses of how you couldn't make the right decision, a simple "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you" will do.



soccermom7975 -> RE: What could the males in your life do better? (9/9/2008 5:32:05 PM)

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Friends-Pick better ones

Dates-not been on one for over 17yrs, sorry

Those you've had relationships with-quite being so childish

Spouses-quite being selfish

Siblings- don't have any



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