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stampinlady -> Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 1:01:59 PM)

I catch Nancy Leigh DeMoss every once in awhile and she's been talking about foolish woman who bad mouth men and won't shut up. Have you disrespected your dh and then God got hold of you and you repented? I'm just curious how many woman are like this. My dh's aunt is like this with her hubby and I can't stand to be around her.



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 1:22:27 PM)

I have been in the past. I didn't badmouth dh to others but I had a *very* sharp tongue when speaking to him. [&o] Nothing was ever my fault, it could all be laid back on *his* shoulders.

Nancy's program was one of the things God used to convict me and straighten me out. Unfortunately the station that carried it in our city dropped it a few years ago. [:(]



BlessedMamaofmany -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 1:29:03 PM)

I have been in the past as well. I also did 'badmouth' him...not in the usual way of talking about him badly in anger, but joking around with other women about 'our inept men'...just as bad imho
Like Maggie...had a sharp tongue when talking to him. He was never good enough.
Thankfully, both God and my man are forgiving and we've been given a new spirit in our marriage.
Sandy



dianetavegia -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 1:32:03 PM)

I grew up in a family where my mother bad-mouthed my father to his face and behind his back. That was not pleasant to any of us, so, NO, I do not speak badly about my husband or to my husband. We are to LIFT UP each other.



42servehymn -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 1:55:29 PM)

I too have been in the past but it is something I consciously work on now. I have found one of the best ways to counteract this problem is to do the exact opposite and praise my husband both to him and to others and especially behind his back. When that kind of praise gets back to him he will feel 10 feet tall!



car2ner -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 2:19:07 PM)

When I was still married to my ex there were alot of things I could have said, but I tried not to. And I will stop at that point because I don't want to start now and he may have changed.

My husband is wonderful and if I get grumpy I try to check myself quickly. I also miss out on a little lady talk because I try not to get too deeply into the "man bashing" game. It is fun but distructive if carried too far. I cherish my relationship with m'love way too much for the sake of humor.

Now, we do tease each other alot. But we know it is teasing and done with affection.



loveleee -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 3:51:39 PM)

I do not bad mouth my husband. It is a pet peeve for me because my mother did it all my life and my MIL does it to my FIL. It makes them miserable and the men miserable.
To me my husband is my hero and God sent him to me. I was able to heal from my childhood through my husband and my husband gave me a new perspective on life. Yes we have had hard times, the usual growing pains, but I never badmouthed him and talked about him to others.



42servehymn -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 4:26:00 PM)

I call my husband my hero at least once a week. Last night he sent me a text that he was bringing home KFC for dinner since he knew we are light on groceries. I texted him back "You are my hero chicken man!" He loved it!



stamper_ben -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/8/2008 4:34:04 PM)

From a man's perspective I'm glad you didn't say "You are my chicken man hero!"

Might have been taken the wrong way...[:D]



stampinlady -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/9/2008 12:10:45 PM)

I've never been one to bad mouth men, but I have been disrespectful at times. I always have to check to see if I have a 'tude or not. I can sometimes ignore him because of the kids or life in general and I feel really bad when I realize it. Thanks for sharing your life. I think it's great when we share our faults with others and then see how God brings us back to repentance.



HenriettasCat -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/9/2008 2:25:47 PM)

stampinlady - I've been the same recently - far too much 'tood'. My husband is soooo amazingly NOT like that. It was actually my parents who pointed out that I was snapping and I hadn't even realised it - my mum's words "he looked like he felt it too" [&o]

Usually it's when I'm under stress (which seems to be all the time at the mo). He just happens to be in the firing line. That is no excuse however and I am constanly repenting and working on it.



stampinlady -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/11/2008 10:11:06 AM)

Everyone needs to work retail for 3 mos. just to see a good cross section of people! I have seen so many woman betlitting their husbands.[:'(] Stop nagging ladies. Isn't there a verse in Prov. that says something about a complaining wife and a dripping faucet??? Anyway, just something I've observed latley.



42servehymn -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/11/2008 4:56:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: stampinlady

Everyone needs to work retail for 3 mos. just to see a good cross section of people! I have seen so many woman betlitting their husbands.[:'(] Stop nagging ladies. Isn't there a verse in Prov. that says something about a complaining wife and a dripping faucet??? Anyway, just something I've observed latley.

Boy Deb you have said a mouthful here! You are sooo right. If we all were to see an instant replay how would it change our daily interactions with our husbands?



ChoirDJ -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/11/2008 9:05:04 PM)

I know this thread was directed toward the women but it's in a general section so I'll chime in. I was married to a woman who disrected me for years throughout our marriage and I tolerated it because I had no biblical grounds to leave the marriage. I was very relieved when she decided to move out. Shortly thereafter, she realized she had made a mistake and wanted to get back together. I informed her that I would not divorce her but I wasn't willing to live with her again until we worked through the things that led to the separation. The ultimate act of disrespect was to get involved with someone else after we were only separated for a few months. Moreso than the infidelity, it was the disrespectal attitude that led me to file for divorce rather than give her another chance. The infidelity was simply the straw that broke the camel's back. I would have been willing to give her another chance but it became obvious that she was not willing to deal with the disrespectful attitude as we attempted to work on things.

Moral of the story, disrespect to a husband is probably on par with porn for a wife in terms of the emotional pain caused.



everjoyful -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/17/2008 3:35:25 AM)

I don't talk about dh negatively to anyone even when I am hurting inside.

He tells people I am like an old woman (i like to read and sew) and he tells people I am stupid and lazy. He makes fun of me alot and it hurts. He levels these accusations at me.....by telling other people them but I feel that I cannot return like for like. Someday God's gonna restore my marriage and help me.[:)]

I am a respectful wife to a disrespectful husband.



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Are you a foolish wife??? (8/17/2008 7:32:02 AM)

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He tells people I am like an old woman (i like to read and sew) and he tells people I am stupid and lazy. He makes fun of me alot and it hurts. He levels these accusations at me.....by telling other people them but I feel that I cannot return like for like.


YOu know, while it is good that you don't return like for like, there is nothing wrong with communicating with your husband. [;)] In this case, it would look something like "Sweetheart, that's a very hurtful thing to say." Have you ever had a conversation about his teasing and mean comments?

If he's saying them around friends and family, you might recruit them to stop him and tell him he's being unkind if he speaks badly about you in front of them.



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