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MissInnocent -> It's not healthy (7/20/2008 3:51:22 PM)

What do you make of it when folks claim that sitting home all the time (aside from attending church of course) isn't healthy? I mean I have just NEVER been a go out for the sake of going out kinda person. I really do like to just sit at home. This may be the wrong forum for this if so mods move it. I just wasn't sure what to do with it.



dianetavegia -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 4:34:13 PM)

I'm 57 and have always been content at home, not needing to be out and about. Now I have no car and no funds to go anywhere even if I wanted to and I feel trapped! I like being able to go to the store or library if I want.

I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying your own home and home life. Of course, if you're just SITTING or sitting at the computer day and night instead of doing chores, playing with your children, etc.....



mvic -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 4:55:29 PM)

It depends why people stay at home. If it is agoraphobia then people should seek professional help.

If it is becasue they like staying at home and they are busy looking after a family etc ... then there's nothing wrong with that.

However, I've known people who stay at home because they are old and infirm and too ill to go out. They long to be out but they can't. Whenever we can, we should help such people with either home visits to cheer them up and give them some company, or by taking them out if we possibly can.

I know someone who is so lonely at home that the only human voice she hears day in day out is on the radio.

Perhaps we should spend a minute or two praying for these stay at homes.



MissInnocent -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 5:08:50 PM)

Thanks for the replies. I agree with elements of both. I just have rarely had a desire to go out. Yes finances and no car play a role but even if I could up and go. It's rare that I think I would. There is an event I would like to go to in a few weeks but can't due to finances. But it's rare that something that strikes my interest comes along. I do agree that if it's a literal fear keeping someone home they need help. And I do know there are folks that are stuck home and hate it, I feel for those folks. Esp. since I've been bummed about this event I wish I could go to. Also healthwise when I do do something big it takes me several days to recover cause I tire so easily. I went to another state and spent the weekend with a friend, we went to an event and were out late. I crashed the day after I got home. I was just literally wiped out. Sure it was worth the fun but I can't do that ALL the time.



SonInMe1 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 5:14:11 PM)

I have so many people at my house to go out, is to be alone.



NotDoneYet -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 7:55:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissInnocent

What do you make of it when folks claim that sitting home all the time (aside from attending church of course) isn't healthy? I mean I have just NEVER been a go out for the sake of going out kinda person. I really do like to just sit at home. This may be the wrong forum for this if so mods move it. I just wasn't sure what to do with it.


I don't go out for the sake of going out...EVER. I go to work, run any errands I might have to, and that's it. I'm perfectly happy spending days on end in my house, or in my yard. My mom says it's not "healthy"...but I'm very content to stay right here. I'm not a terribly social person, and to be honest, interacting with people face to face really wears me out.

So...unless it's some sort of fear that keeps you in, I'd say...it's ok...you don't have to be going here and there...besides with the price of gas, who can afford to go out!

NDY



evryknee -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 8:11:27 PM)

Nothing wrong with staying in, as long as you searched your heart re: anxiety, depression, etc. Also, though, if you are in a relationship or marriage and your spouse wants to go out and you want to stay in...this might cause problems.



drussell52 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 9:40:36 PM)

Thanks for bringing up this topic, as I work from home, in my mid 50s, married and have 2 teen-age children. Involved in church and have a couple guys I fellowship with after most services, but otherwise kind of a loner, and get most my fellowship during the week from checking in on the forums here; this General Faith 1 is becoming a favorite. We don't live in a society where neighbors get together for the summer picnic, block party, or get together and play cards or whatever, but people seem to socialize with others based on what their life and time demand, i.e., work, school or church functions, etc. So, nothing wrong with staying home but how one uses their time if at home, or not at home, is more the issue in my opinion. Glad you brought this up and hello to any other "home folk" here..



slimon11 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/20/2008 10:06:35 PM)

I am a loner too but, I sometimes stuggle with the idea that it is not a good thing...Life is short and, I think God calls us to minister not only to those in our family and at our jobs but, also to our neighbors and others we know. We may be able to live happy, healthy lives at home but, are we living as effective Christians? Are we including all the people God intended for us to include in our ministry? Those are the questions that give me a headache.



dianetavegia -> RE: It's not healthy (7/21/2008 6:51:15 PM)

Our Women's Ministry has wonderful Bible Studies several times a year and I can't attend because of no transportation (and the books can be very costly). That bothers me quite a bit. I've decided if God wants me to be able to attend, He'll supply the transportation.

I had to give up working with the Youth or AWANA on Wednesday nights because Jim's not home from work in time for me to get there. Again, I had to just accept it and think God must not want me there. Now the AWANA program has numerous needs in the upcoming year. I have 8 years leadership experience in AWANA and no way to get there.



aquilusone -> RE: It's not healthy (7/21/2008 10:46:39 PM)

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Our Women's Ministry has wonderful Bible Studies several times a year and I can't attend because of no transportation (and the books can be very costly). That bothers me quite a bit. I've decided if God wants me to be able to attend, He'll supply the transportation.

I had to give up working with the Youth or AWANA on Wednesday nights because Jim's not home from work in time for me to get there. Again, I had to just accept it and think God must not want me there. Now the AWANA program has numerous needs in the upcoming year. I have 8 years leadership experience in AWANA and no way to get there.


I understand the costs of books being prohibitive to the Women's Bible study and that your Husband isn't home in time to get you. Maybe I am asking an obvious question but have you asked for someone to help you get to church?. Do you have a ministry in your church that picks up people for church? Surely you husband can pick you up after church when he gets off work. Obviously I don't know your situation.

Your statement about accepting that God doesn't want you to be there if He doesn't provide transportion made me curious.



AboundinginHisGrace -> RE: It's not healthy (7/21/2008 10:56:03 PM)

There is nothing wrong with being a homebody (I like being at home), but you still should share Christ with people. You should do things for people from your church, friends, neighbors etc. If you only stay at home, how can you share the Gospel to people :).



saraimay75 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/22/2008 2:18:22 AM)

Before we got air conditioning installed I would go out on hat days just to be in air conditioning. Now that we have air conditioning...I stay home more. [;)]



dianetavegia -> RE: It's not healthy (7/22/2008 4:34:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: aquilusone

I understand the costs of books being prohibitive to the Women's Bible study and that your Husband isn't home in time to get you. Maybe I am asking an obvious question but have you asked for someone to help you get to church?. Do you have a ministry in your church that picks up people for church? Surely you husband can pick you up after church when he gets off work. Obviously I don't know your situation.

Your statement about accepting that God doesn't want you to be there if He doesn't provide transportion made me curious.


The Women's Bible Studies are during the morning. Our church does not provide transportation during the week, tho we do have several vans that run on Sunday for those who have no way to church or can no longer drive. My husband goes to church with me every Sunday (in fact, he co-teaches a boys class and cooks breakfast for our youth group and workers EVERY Sunday) and he picks our youngest up from youth on Wednesday night. I get a daycare family to drop him off a block from church. They have three children and have room for only one of us in the car. Nick is 13 and really likes Youth Group/ Cell Groups.

I do childcare and the church offers free childcare during the studies for the moms and childcare providers. No one has offered to transport me. Moms with small kids generally don't have room for two more car seats and the women my age have ignored phone calls and emails asking about rides. One younger woman offered me transportation, in front of a group, and then didn't answer her cell phone, return a message or pick me up.

I will not beg for transportation, yet we have driven 8 miles, round trip, hundreds of times to give a ride to a developmentally delayed couple who usually walk to church in all sorts of weather.

The last book cost me $16.00. I gave it away when the class was over to a low income family looking for Bible Study material.



hjemerson -> RE: It's not healthy (7/23/2008 3:43:20 PM)

You sound like you have so many great ideal .Maybe you can form a circle of ladies that can made a trade off for rides if you can give you cold swap off babysitting, It sad you have a love for AWANA and will not be able to use your leadership . Please talk to some one!!! may you get somthng worked out as a swap. As for the book thing I undertand Many time I would have liked to do abook study but the money just was not in the budget. Ispoke with a leader and we decosid to do another one that we would read a chapeter . (Like from a on line book) then post on a blot then meet every other week in face to face , we had 15 ladies it was a great easy way to save money and share what we thought . I bet this could be done in many ways! Could you have a small group come to your home? I did that fro abbout 6 months and then we did for a friend that was not able to get out . it worked out nice also.



butterfly616 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/23/2008 7:16:28 PM)

My job involves a lot of contact with people and phones. So, I am happy to stay home in the evenings and on weekends. I enjoy going out for lunch with friends during the week, but I love to be at home otherwise. I like spending time on the computer, having a cup of coffee, and reading a good book.
[;)]



Cloak -> RE: It's not healthy (7/23/2008 9:08:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissInnocent

What do you make of it when folks claim that sitting home all the time (aside from attending church of course) isn't healthy? I mean I have just NEVER been a go out for the sake of going out kinda person. I really do like to just sit at home.


Please do Not underestimate whether you like to stay at home or go out. God can use you right where you are in your neighbourhood, with the postman, at the grocery or drugstore or if you just sat on your patio or made a phone call.

God is all able and He can use us in All circumstances!

Blessings!



drussell52 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/23/2008 10:10:19 PM)

Hi, have not read this thread since posting to it over the weekend. To the person who wants to volunteer but transportation is the issue, I hear you. Am visually impaired, live in a small town, and with fuel prices being what they are an people living hurried lives, I have discovered most will help if they can get something in return be it satisfaction from helping another to whatever you can legitimately trade with them. People generally do things as long as its convenient for them, perhaps that's blunt and cold but a truism. Yes, God can use you where you are. I have found people to minister to on this very forum, not bragging, but happy to have a way to love my neighbor as myself, even though neighbor, is out in cyber space. Still he/she are God's created being.. One more thing, simply remembering folk in prayer, in private is a way to be involved too. If you can get out, by gosh go for it!



OneJohn410 -> RE: It's not healthy (7/23/2008 10:14:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: YZGUY

Nothing wrong with staying in, as long as you searched your heart re: anxiety, depression, etc. Also, though, if you are in a relationship or marriage and your spouse wants to go out and you want to stay in...this might cause problems.


Along with searching your heart, please consider your energy level. I've got a friend who learned she's experiencing severe heart failure- she's got to live a life positioned to be available for a heart transplant. There's been some sharing with her of someone in a similiar position who was treated with an injection of his own body's stem cells, and his heart became strong and healthy again. If you feel short on energy yet are eating like usual, and feel comfortable at home because of no getupandgo, it might be good to get up and go let your doctor know.

OneJohn410



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