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Pman. -> Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:15:15 AM)

How do you feel about interracial relationships...being honest (lol)...

Would you date someone outside your race?

Would you marry someone outside your race?

If not, why?



ChoirDJ -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:50:01 AM)

I feel fine about interracial relationships and I would say the chances are pretty high that I might end up in one once I start dating again. To answer your questions...yes and yes.



saraimay75 -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 3:35:55 AM)

If it were not for an Interracial Relationship I would not be here...So I feel pretty good about them.



DreadPirateRandy -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 4:06:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Pman.

Would you date someone outside your race?

Would you marry someone outside your race?


I don't think my girlfriend would appreciate it. [;)]

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ORIGINAL: Pman.

How do you feel about interracial relationships...


I have no valid opinion because I've never been involved in one, but skin color and ethnics shouldn't divide love.

I will say that many years ago, I had a crush on Beyonce, for whatever that's worth.



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 7:13:52 AM)

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Would you date someone outside your race?

Would you marry someone outside your race?


I would and I did. [:D] I also went waaaay out on a limb and married someone from a completely different continent and culture. [:)]



buckifn -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 8:39:53 AM)

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How do you feel about interracial relationships...being honest (lol)...


As in all other relationships love, trust, personal relationship with God, spiritual unity, integrity and common values and goals are what would be important.

Most of us are from a variety of races anyhow and so it doesn't matter what the outter features are. God created 1 race- human.

So yes I dated and made a decision to marry someone based on some of the things I mentioned above. Ability to communicate is very high on the list also.



landabee -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 9:03:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Pman.

How do you feel about interracial relationships...being honest (lol)...


Define interracial please?????

Seriously, though: Dating some one or marrying someone whose skin and facial features and hair are different from yourself is fine.

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Would you date someone outside your race?


Would you marry someone outside your race?


I've never dated outside of humans.

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If not, why?


'cause that'd be a sin against God! [8D][;)][8D][:D]



Child4Jesus -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 9:52:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Pman.

How do you feel about interracial relationships...being honest (lol)...

Would you date someone outside your race?

Would you marry someone outside your race?

If not, why?


I don't think there is anything such as interracial relationships seeing that we are all in the human race.

If you mean would I date someone outside of my ethnicity/culture/skin color a resounding YES.

I would certainly marry someone that has a different ethnicity/culture/skin color as long as that woman is a disciple of Christ.

Anyone calling themselves a Christian and has a problem with people who have a different skin color being in a romantic relationship with each other is putting a higher standard on people than God. That person needs to go back to scripture and take a good look at what matters to God.



Jenny-Fair -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 10:16:05 AM)

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I've never dated outside of humans.

Me, either. In fact, it's in the top ten of things never to do.

But dating someone who doesn't look like me...yup, that's a-ok.



kernsfamily -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 10:45:27 AM)

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That person needs to go back to scripture and take a good look at what matters to God.


my inlaws, along with many, many others of their "generation", were taught that the bible was CLEAR about interracial relationships/marriage: A definite no-no.

It's that "biblical" teaching (regarding interracial marriage being basically a sin), that led to Interracial marriage being outlawed in up to 30 states at one time or another....until those "pesky" courts got in the way, with their "judicial activism" and thwarting the "will of the people".....and, then states reluctantly overturned such laws in the late 1960s/early 1970s..... (since they were forced by the courts to do so)

SOUND FAMILIAR?

That's not MY personal opinion...i actually have no problems with it....Iam just mentioning what I have learned about the subject from those who have been taught that the Bible was CLEAR on this matter, and who are convinced scripture instructs on this issue ....and, that it is certainly a "sin"....



preserved -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:12:58 PM)

I would date or marry those of mixed cultural...such as African American Black & Indian, etc. I would not want to lose nor change who I am as african american black female



jaimestarcross -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:16:10 PM)

Depends on the reason the person wants to date outside their race - I know from personal experience in my past (when I was single) - several white men wanted to date me to "experiment in blackness" as I call it.... however they didn't want their family and friends to know - so if I had wanted to date those particular white men, it'd mean sneaking around to date and doing things out of town the majority of the time - I said, No to all that! Sadly some of my girl friends(got involved with dating similar type of whites) and two of them found themselves pregnant by white men who basically had nothing more to do with them or the children they fathered - with exception to paying child support very infrequently when ordered by the courts.

I have dated outside my race on numerous occasions - those men were very nice and didn't have a problem with me being black and they treated me good.

Many here know that I'm married to a white man (who's also Canadian and we met online at christiancafe.com.)



Jenny-Fair -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:16:31 PM)

Preserved, could you please explain the part about losing or changing who you are? I don't understand what you are saying.



preserved -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:22:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jenny-Fair

Preserved, could you please explain the part about losing or changing who you are? I don't understand what you are saying.


Meaning I come from a strong african american black family background...There are people who accepts the enthic of the african american blacks and some who still do not...To date another race would be to adopt the other race. Why would I want to give up my race to be like someone else...There are stories of the differences in the african american black women versus the caucasion women...We have our roots and they have theirs. However I have several friends that are of other races. I just have had no desires to go (the males) beyond the friendship



Jenny-Fair -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:26:33 PM)

I am white, but I don't think I would lose any of myself, color or otherwise, by dating or marrying a man who was black, asian, latino or native american. Or anything I have failed to list, lol.

In fact, I did date a Native American man for a few months and don't feel it changed who I am, although it did educate me.

To say that you would adopt another ethnicity by dating someone...is, to me, saying we are too different, and I don't happen to believe we are.



preserved -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:35:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jenny-Fair

I am white, but I don't think I would lose any of myself, color or otherwise, by dating or marrying a man who was black, asian, latino or native american. Or anything I have failed to list, lol.

In fact, I did date a Native American man for a few months and don't feel it changed who I am, although it did educate me.

To say that you would adopt another ethnicity by dating someone...is, to me, saying we are too different, and I don't happen to believe we are.


Reality is that we are different...God created each one of us differently. In the real world...races do not think alike..we all have different styles, looks, habits, different attitudes, likes, dislikes...etc... We are all created equal because we all came from the same father (GOD)



Jenny-Fair -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 12:55:39 PM)

You know, God did not create different 'races' of human beings. We all descended from Noah's family. So we are all the same race. We do come from various cultures, but that isn't a bad thing--and neither is mixing them.



kernsfamily -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:04:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: preserved

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ORIGINAL: Jenny-Fair

I am white, but I don't think I would lose any of myself, color or otherwise, by dating or marrying a man who was black, asian, latino or native american. Or anything I have failed to list, lol.

In fact, I did date a Native American man for a few months and don't feel it changed who I am, although it did educate me.

To say that you would adopt another ethnicity by dating someone...is, to me, saying we are too different, and I don't happen to believe we are.


Reality is that we are different...God created each one of us differently. In the real world...races do not think alike..we all have different styles, looks, habits, different attitudes, likes, dislikes...etc... We are all created equal because we all came from the same father (GOD)


Yes...we are different.

But, my wife and I are just as "different".

My wife grew up in far south louisiana (south of New Orleans)....she talked different, has totally DIFFERENT tastes with food (which I have mostly "adopted".....cause, WOW, she CAN COOK!!!!!!)....
She even speaks a different LANGUAGE (is very fluent in Cajun French)....English is her "second language"....

I, on the other hand, grew up in Detroit.

Culturally, and everything else, we are two ENTIRELY different people...totally different backgrounds, and everything.

And, yet, one of the very FEW things we did have in common, is that we were both "white"....and both "Christians"

Though, back home in the "old neighborhood" where I grew up, there were African-American girls that I went to school with. I had much more "in common" with them than I initially did with my wife, since we both grew up in the same neighborhood, fathers who worked in the same factory, all went to the same school, ate at the same restaurants in the neighborhood, all had the same friends, etc...etc...
Our skin-color was the ONLY major difference.
In contrast, with regards to my wife, skin color was one of the few things we had in common!



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:05:49 PM)

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To date another race would be to adopt the other race. Why would I want to give up my race to be like someone else...There are stories of the differences in the african american black women versus the caucasion women...We have our roots and they have theirs.


This is a very curious idea to me. [&:] If you marry anyone at all, regardless of race, he will be different from you. Men are different from women. Will you lose your femininity by marrying a man?

I am white American, married to a black African. Neither of us has "lost" anything more than we would have marrying someone else--marriage in itself is a great deal about giving of oneself, rather than self-preservation and self-service. I didn't become Ethiopian and never will (even if I tried, it'd be obvious that I'm an impostor![8D]). Dh didn't become a typical American man. We retained our personalities, preferences, likes and dislikes, etc.
Rather than losing, we have gained a great deal, not the least of those gains being gorgeous children [:D] who we are raising with the best of *both* cultures. [:)]



preserved -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:09:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jenny-Fair

You know, God did not create different 'races' of human beings. We all descended from Noah's family. So we are all the same race. We do come from various cultures, but that isn't a bad thing--and neither is mixing them.


Ok..we are descendants from Noah's Sons...and you say we are all the same race....just different skin color because of the climate and location the population descended into...Never said that mixing was a bad thing..Just a preference to stay within my race..[;)]



ChoirDJ -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:37:17 PM)

I'm also African-American as I mentioned earlier but I confess that I have a thing for White and Latino women as well as my own ethnicity. The only reason I probably wouldn't date a person out of my race is if that person's family is very prejudiced against my ethnicity because you do "marry" that person's family when you marry that person. I don't agree that marrying someone of a different race will necessary cause one or one's children to lose his/her cultural roots. As for the race of the person I will eventually marry, it really is a toss up at this point to be honest. Nonetheless, we all have a right to our own preferences as long as we don't try to impose them on others (and I am not insinuating that anyone here is doing that).



buckifn -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 1:42:54 PM)

Thank GOD not everyone's hair is the same! If my kids had been born with hair like mine I think they would have disowned me...lol



landabee -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 2:16:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: preserved

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jenny-Fair

I am white, but I don't think I would lose any of myself, color or otherwise, by dating or marrying a man who was black, asian, latino or native american. Or anything I have failed to list, lol.

In fact, I did date a Native American man for a few months and don't feel it changed who I am, although it did educate me.

To say that you would adopt another ethnicity by dating someone...is, to me, saying we are too different, and I don't happen to believe we are.


Reality is that we are different...God created each one of us differently. In the real world...races do not think alike..we all have different styles, looks, habits, different attitudes, likes, dislikes...etc... We are all created equal because we all came from the same father (GOD)



preserved,

As kernsfamily pointed out: differences are not simply skin deep. It is experiential.

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Yes...we are different.

But, my wife and I are just as "different".

My wife grew up in far south louisiana (south of New Orleans)....she talked different, has totally DIFFERENT tastes with food (which I have mostly "adopted".....cause, WOW, she CAN COOK!!!!!!)....
She even speaks a different LANGUAGE (is very fluent in Cajun French)....English is her "second language"....

I, on the other hand, grew up in Detroit.

Culturally, and everything else, we are two ENTIRELY different people...totally different backgrounds, and everything.

And, yet, one of the very FEW things we did have in common, is that we were both "white"....and both "Christians"

Though, back home in the "old neighborhood" where I grew up, there were African-American girls that I went to school with. I had much more "in common" with them than I initially did with my wife, since we both grew up in the same neighborhood, fathers who worked in the same factory, all went to the same school, ate at the same restaurants in the neighborhood, all had the same friends, etc...etc...
Our skin-color was the ONLY major difference.
In contrast, with regards to my wife, skin color was one of the few things we had in common!



I agree that certain groups may have experiences/viewpoints that are different. But marrying someone different doesn't negate, lessen or weaken who you are. It amplifies who you are in Christ. The two become a better, stronger ONE that is the sum of it's parts.

The same is said of any marriage made in the eyes of God. The two become an improved ONE.

We are all not so different. Our viewpoints shaped by experiences may be. But when it comes down the substance of humanhood, we are all the same in the eyes of our Lord and Saviour. After all, he died for all of us.

I say these things to you as a black woman. God bless.



StephenJ -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 4:00:29 PM)

Sure, I have no problem with it at all.



Roberta_ -> RE: Interracial Relationships (7/15/2008 5:42:28 PM)

I have in the past and if I were ever to date again, that wouldn't be an issue for me.



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