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NowIsntThatCute -> Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 2:04:07 AM)

How do introverts or quiet men register on your weird-o-meter? Are they creepy or intriguing? Do you know of any introverts in your life that might interest you?



Hislittleone -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 3:58:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: NowIsntThatCute

How do introverts or quiet men register on your weird-o-meter? Are they creepy or intriguing? Do you know of any introverts in your life that might interest you?


I've known some really nice guys who were somewhat introverted. So I don't think that just because someone is introverted it means they're weird. It may just take a little longer to get to know them.



car2ner -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 7:26:52 AM)

It depends on if being wierd is what is causing them to be introverted.



cherryfly -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 12:58:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: car2ner

It depends on if being wierd is what is causing them to be introverted.


Ha ha, I like that one! That is what I think too.

But it really doesn't bother me that much...probably because I'm a bit of an introvert myself so I can relate. Although on the one hand, I don't enjoy being around extreme introverts, but I also don't like being around wildly extroverted guys.... It really just depends on why they are introverted/shy/quiet.

This one guy I know is a bit quiet in person, but after talking a bit I find he is a very interesting, funny and caring guy...and I kind of like him. [;)]



rgod -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 5:32:56 PM)

I don't mind introverts - I'm sort of one myself so I understand. I don't like having to carry the conversation though - I'd prefer to listen more than talk. So, with extreme introverts it can be quite uncomfortable because it is a bit too quiet :)



song -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 9:59:45 PM)

If an introverted guy can pull off "dark and mysterious" then he can have any woman he wants.

My best friend is that way and alllllll the girls ask me how they can get a date with him. [8D]

Just don't be awkward! [:)]



karlie -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/10/2008 10:16:10 PM)

It all depends on if by introvert you mean they are just shy and quieter than most people and prefer to not be around crowds. Or do you mean they are socially awkward and have a very difficult time with people and usually avoid social events altogether? There's a huge difference between shy and socially awkward.

I married an introvert and I am definitely NOT one, so I obviously don't find them weird at all. [:D] But, my husband isn't socially awkward at all. He is very capable of carrying on a great conversation at social events, and he engages in activities and things with our friends easily and willingly.

I personally wouldn't be interested in someone socially awkward to the point that they clam up, can't carry on an intelligent conversation, or refuse to go many places. With my personality and being a people person, that would be disaster.



rgod -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/12/2008 12:48:26 AM)

Sorry to digress from the thread - but karlie - I love your avatar picture. Fabulous shoes!!!!



karlie -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/12/2008 3:11:59 PM)

I have the black ones [:D]



cherryfly -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/12/2008 4:19:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rgod

I don't like having to carry the conversation though - I'd prefer to listen more than talk. So, with extreme introverts it can be quite uncomfortable because it is a bit too quiet :)


That is true; same for me.



sudden -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/12/2008 4:22:02 PM)

I find them neither creepy nor intriguing. They are almost unnoticable.

Sometimes they crawl out of their shells for a nanosecond

I married one that managed to crawl out of his shell. He's a good egg [:)]



car2ner -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/13/2008 6:51:53 AM)

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Sorry to digress from the thread - but karlie - I love your avatar picture. Fabulous shoes!!!!


Not the sort of shoes worn by an introvert!



sunluvingirl -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/15/2008 7:06:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: karlie

It all depends on if by introvert you mean they are just shy and quieter than most people and prefer to not be around crowds. Or do you mean they are socially awkward and have a very difficult time with people and usually avoid social events altogether? There's a huge difference between shy and socially awkward.

Exactly!! And if they are just the shy, quieter type they are definitely not creepy. Besides, I consider myself to be an introvert, so that type would be just fine. Just as long as, like Rgod said, there aren't uncomfortable silences in conversation!



slushie -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/16/2008 8:43:16 PM)

I know an introvert man in my church. What I like about him is that even though he doesn't talk a whole lot - and he's not the outgoing type that's like "Whoaaa!!! Hey everyone! Yeah!" you can see that he's not afraid to stand up for what he believes. When he does kind things, he doesn't talk about those things... he just does them.

He was dating this girl who is a good good friend of mine, and then she suddenly decided that she'd be best for the loud, outgoing guy. Which wasn't true.
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Ps103 -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/16/2008 11:55:57 PM)

Extraverts make me nervous[:D].

I am an introvert and married to an introvert. He has wonderful coping skills in groups, and he also can see in my eyes when it is time to get me away from all these people.

So yeah--introverts were definitely on my radar.

The last guy I dated before Himself was extremely extraverted. At first it was okay, but after a while it just wore me out[&:] I spent most of my time trying to mentally recover from his 100 closest friends that were always around.



Grace-N-Mercy -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/24/2008 12:25:54 PM)

Introverted means that a person gains his/her energy from her down-time while an extrovert gains his/her energy from being around other people. I'm an introvert and like Ps103, extroverts wear me out!! [:D] I love 'em, though, because they help pull me out of my shell, and I have a lot of fun... I just feel bad I can't give them all my energy! [:D] So yeah, I'll definitely fall for an introvert... we can pull away from the crowds together.



isaacsmom -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (7/25/2008 4:27:33 PM)

Introverts intrigue me. I'm married to an introvert.



captainfraulein -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (8/3/2008 1:24:32 AM)

I tend to herm-a-tize myself a lot...so introverts are awesome to me. Love 'em. Can't get enough of them. They let me talk too much. They enjoy observing things and helping. Case in point...I was at Orchard Supply today trying to find a particular flusher thangy for my toilet (the handle and the thing that connects to the metal chain)...I am getting my floor redone in the bathroom and the handyman is willing to put this in to replace my slightly broken one....(must be the whole cotton-picking thing, not just the handle..found that out).

Well, I went to OS and stood around...getting nowhere. Ignored. I looked absolutely pathetic as a woman standing there in an ocean of men...holding a plastic handle (to compare the degree angle and find one less then 90 degrees...needing more like 45). I held it up finally and interrupted a customer and guywhoworksthere..."do you know where I can find these?" He pointed and said "aisle 7". I went there and could not find them.

A gentleman (kind of cute actually) walked over to me smiling and gently caught my eye...then said "have you found them yet?" and I said "NO!" and he directed me there...then disappeared down aisle 7 forever gone. He was a quiet observer, my favorite type.

I just love those type of guys. Helpful, considerate. And not all full of blah-blah-blab.



lexie -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (8/8/2008 10:40:59 AM)

I am an extrovert married to an introvert. Our first conversation consisted of me asking questions and him answering them with not much. Normally, I would have thought at the end of the conversation that he wasn't interested, but the next day he started talking to me.

I like that we balance each other. I'm an extrovert who needs introverted time and I don't think I could handle being married to another. Though my husband's quietness drives me absolutely batty sometimes it's one of the many things I love about him.



sunluvingirl -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (8/8/2008 5:13:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Cute-N-Sassy

Introverted means that a person gains his/her energy from her down-time while an extrovert gains his/her energy from being around other people. I'm an introvert and like Ps103, extroverts wear me out!! [:D] I love 'em, though, because they help pull me out of my shell, and I have a lot of fun... I just feel bad I can't give them all my energy! [:D] So yeah, I'll definitely fall for an introvert... we can pull away from the crowds together.

Love this!! [sm=thumbsup.gif]



losgan -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (8/17/2008 9:24:29 PM)

I think I'd prefer an introvert ... to a reasonable extent anyways! (Not talking agoraphobic). I think we'd get along better - while I'm pretty outgoing and like people ... I get my energy from being alone.

That said - I need to figure out how to get introverts to ask me out! I'm kinda old-fashioned in that I prefer HE ask ME than vice versa. Plus, it shows that while he might be an introvert ... he has some strength and is willing to take the risk.



PhrozenPhoenix -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (8/18/2008 1:36:58 AM)

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That said - I need to figure out how to get introverts to ask me out! I'm kinda old-fashioned in that I prefer HE ask ME than vice versa. Plus, it shows that while he might be an introvert ... he has some strength and is willing to take the risk.


Just keep talking to them... I'm very introverted but its very easy to get a long with very extroverted people, if were around each other enough.... much more so than another introvert. There are two types of extroverts though and the second doesn't mesh well at all >.<



Zhi -> RE: Are introverts on the radar? (8/19/2008 12:29:07 AM)

I married an introvert too. We don't really have many awkward pauses in conversation, because he has learned that he can say what he's thinking to me (however odd) and we'll discuss it. Whether it's wormhole physics or the price of rice. Granted I'm an introvert geek too and engineers just kind of have our own language...

I'm not sure how you get one to ask you out. I got asked out due to a dare. No kidding... his roommates decided they were going to throw a dinner party and all the roommates had to have a "date" for it or be ribbed mercilessly for the foreseeable future. He called me. Rest is history. hehe

How do quiet men register? Frankly I think a lot of women are more comfortable with "quiet" men than with the rowdier ones. So, if she kind of knows you from common interests... give it a shot, ask her out... worst thing she can do is say no.



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