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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 3:04:57 PM
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Ellie-Mae
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I'm glad you ladies are so nice to me. You lift my spirits.
They aren't being nice to you. They are cheating off from you! You know, like sitting behind you during a test and waiting for you to do all the hard work of coming up with the right answer so they can put it on their own paper and say "yeah, that's what I was going to say!" 
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 4:01:09 PM
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PrincessDonna
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I would just not tell family. I personally don't tell them things that are none of their business...if they find out on their own or in a conversation then they tend to leave it alone more. I personally don't mention things to them though that I don't want their "opinions" on.
That won't be an option. Noah will tell them once he knows. The big problems will be my brother and sister/BIL. And...neither of them are walking with the Lord, so "God told us to" is the height of stupidity to them.  But they do see the problems he is having, so maybe it won't be as bad as I think.
Over the years, we have just not talked about hsing, especially my BIL and I. That and Creation/evolution are things we are not ever going to see eye to eye on, so we have agreed to civilly disagree. I really like him otherwise, and if my sister was saved, she'd be my best friend. I can't just not talk to her about it.
I don't even know how my parents are going to feel really. Since they sent us all to Christian school, I think they will be supportive of that. But as far as not making me feel like an absolute failure...that I am not counting on.
We're not telling them yet. I need to be able to talk about it without crying first. 
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 4:09:09 PM
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I think you should say you are sending Noah to the school for this year. You may HS him next year or the year after, you may HS the rest of the kidlets...this is just a decision you have made for a particular child at a particular time.
Keeping that at the forefront of your mind and your converstaions on the subject ought to ward off some of the comments--you have not given up on HSing, you are simply making use of another option for a time. Your health is a part of this, I think, and the time of life you are in.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 4:15:36 PM
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I think you should say you are sending Noah to the school for this year. You may HS him next year or the year after, you may HS the rest of the kidlets...this is just a decision you have made for a particular child at a particular time.
Ahh...somewhat how I am rehearsing telling Noah...you will be going to CS for the rest of this year. We think God has told us this is what we should do rightnow. After that, Daddy and I will pray and decide for the next year. You may stay in CS or we may go back to hsing, but that will be up to Daddy and I.
Thanks, Jen, that was helpful.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 4:51:15 PM
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I think it's wrong to force leadership on a husband. For one thing, I don't think the Bible puts the husband in leadership over his wife. I am not trying to start a debate, but want to make it clear that there is another point of view on the matter. My opinion is that if someone gives you a hard time, you should tell them to stop and refuse to discuss it further. Putting it off on your husband, imo, could create more problems. I've been there, done that, have the scars and so does my husband.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 5:14:35 PM
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I think that there are a few things that have to be taken into account when it comes to who should stand up and take leadership of a situation. There are probably more, but these come to my mind.
Does the husband want to lead and he just needs a nudge to go into action? Or is he running from it or truly unable to handle the situation?
Are you unified in your stand? He is going to have trouble standing up for something he isn't sure about or outright doesn't believe is best (I don't think that is an issue here).
Family dynamics. Sometimes the husband has to be the one to stand up because no one listens ti the wife or she is villafied by the other family members. Sometimes it is the wife that is listened to more than the husband.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 5:32:52 PM
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It would not be good for me to put Brian in that situation in my family. Nuff said. 
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 8:18:18 PM
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Donna, when will you tell Noah?
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 8:35:47 PM
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Donna-Don't worry about what anyone else has to say...you know that those who would try to use this against you would do so just to try to get you to harm your testimony (by anger or verbal response). I'm sending you a pm.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/20/2007 8:37:29 PM
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Donna, when will you tell Noah?
I'm not sure. Maybe tomorrow. I've got to talk to Brian first.
Should be an interesting Thanksgiving. 
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/21/2007 7:29:40 AM
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Praying for you Donna.
When we try our best to follow where God is leading, there will always be people who try to put us down for it. We've been led to Christian schooling, homeschooling and public school at different times and for different reasons. There were folks who didn't understand and wanted to tell us how we should raise our boys. I think it hurt the most when those people were family, whether biological or Christian family. You've got your priorities straight, and I'll keep praying for you and Noah during this transition.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/21/2007 9:59:36 AM
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Well, I told him this morning. He said, "For REAL?!" with a big grin on his face. Wow...I knew he would be glad, but that kind of hurt.
We talked about some of the changes he is going to have...a bedtime for the first time ever, up and at 'em early, wearing dress pants and collared shirts every day, etc.
He asked how he's going to get there. I told him I'm not sure of that yet. I might bring him, friends of ours who drive right past our house might bring him, his teacher might bring him (she lives just a few houses down from us), maybe the bus some times. Probably a combination of all of those.
I'm going to go to the morning Bible study again (had just switched over to the night one to not interrupt our school day). That day I'll definitely drive him. I was thinking about even doing my shopping during the day. I want to protect our time together in the evenings and not have things to do several nights of the week.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/21/2007 10:04:18 AM
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Donna,
I want to applaude you for doing what you are doing. Not everyone does what God is leading them to do. In this particular season of you life, God says Noah needs to go to CS. Don't worry about what family and friends says, just know you are following God.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/22/2007 12:48:02 AM
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He's just a kid with an unrealistic picture of what is going to happen who is excited to be doing something different.
Agreed. Erin begged to go to school a few years ago, so we allowed her to shadow for a day. She honestly thought she was missing something great, and she found out real quick that she wasn't.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/22/2007 10:25:53 PM
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Telling the family wasn't as bad as I thought. I told my sister last night, so BIL also knew before we were there today. He didn't say one word to me about it. My parents seemed okay with it too. My dad was disappointed he won't be able to take Noah with him whenever he wants. Dad is unemployed in the winter and enjoyed that time with him. I expect he'll want him for any days off, including snow days.
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/23/2007 8:06:26 AM
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I am so glad that it went well. 
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RE: Jumping ship - 11/23/2007 9:14:15 AM
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Glad things went so well with telling your family, Donna! I'll be praying for you guys in the transition time.
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