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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:05:47 PM
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shemaromans
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How do you learn all the "rules" of dating and flirting and letting people know you are interested without being coy at 30 when everyone expects you to know them, but you never knew them in the first place?
I honestly feel like I'm starting at square on, hehe.
I'd say forget all that stuff and just be yourself, straightforward and honest. 'Course I'm hoping that works since I'm 38 and haven't the foggiest clue about the "rules" either.
-Robb
Good thinking, Robb. Your real self will appear sooner or later anyway, so you might as well be yourself from the get-go.
It hasn't worked for me yet really, but it's still how I intend to go about it, regardless of whether or not I get married someday.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:07:21 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Shema!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember the show "cheers" where as soon as Norm walks in, everyone screams"norm!!!!!!!!"
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:08:56 PM
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shemaromans
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LOL! That was a great show! Thanks for knowing my name. 
Isn't your birthday sometime this week?
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:21:18 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Next week....so I still have a few days to hang around the 30 something encouragement thread.............
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:24:55 PM
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shemaromans
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In case I miss it, Happy Birthday! Do you have anything special planned, like climbing Kili or something? :)
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:27:04 PM
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Prairiehiker
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That's on my 45th....lol.
Just going away for a few days....a friend is giving me a pass at this hotel for 3 days. It's in the woods somewhere. Sort of like Colorado. Other than that, a lot of lunches, and hopefully, a phone call from someone....which is not likely to happen. But if there's on wish I have...it's that.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/17/2008 11:28:43 PM
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shemaromans
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Sounds like a good getaway. And the potential phone call sounds very interesting! Why do you think it won't happen?
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 6:14:10 AM
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Next week....so I still have a few days to hang around the 30 something encouragement thread.............
I'm sure if you ask nicely they'll let you stick around in this thread too!
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 9:36:53 AM
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How do you learn all the "rules" of dating and flirting and letting people know you are interested without being coy at 30 when everyone expects you to know them, but you never knew them in the first place?
I honestly feel like I'm starting at square on, hehe.
I know someone who's coy. And coy can be very attractive. So don't worry about it. I don't think anyone knows the rules anymore.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 9:43:14 AM
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There are rules?!?? Where? I demand to see them!
my rule has always been "don't make eye contact"
somehow i think this rule is not a good one...
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 10:14:02 AM
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I know someone who's coy. And coy can be very attractive. So don't worry about it. I don't think anyone knows the rules anymore.
Is coy attractive if it isn't on purpose?
You'd think red hair = blond brain or something, heh!
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 10:47:36 AM
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I know someone who's coy. And coy can be very attractive. So don't worry about it. I don't think anyone knows the rules anymore.
Is coy attractive if it isn't on purpose?
That's when it's most attractive. Innocence is very attractive.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 10:48:23 AM
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ORIGINAL: John_O
I know someone who's coy. And coy can be very attractive. So don't worry about it. I don't think anyone knows the rules anymore.
Is coy attractive if it isn't on purpose?
That's when it's most attractive. Innocence is very attractive.
Whew - cause I'm a little naive lately!
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/18/2008 1:44:19 PM
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Had "the" conversation recently with some co-workers. I don't really like having "the" conversation - but my co-workers are really sweet, so it made it easier.
Co-Worker: "So .. are you married?"
Me: "No."
Co-Worker: "Have you ever been married? Do you have any kids?"
Me: "No, never been married, no kids."
Co-Worker: "Oh."
Me: "Are you?"
Co-Worker: "Yes"
We talk for a few minutes aout husbands and kids. Then:
Co-Worker: "So ... how old are you?"
Me: "36"
Co-Worker (and the others in the area): "What? You look so young! How old did you say you were? No way!"
Me: "Thanks."
We talk for a few more minutes. Then:
Co-Worker: "So ... why have you never been married? Why didn't you snap someone up or why didn't someone snap you up?"
I felt a little awkward at this point. She wasn't trying to be mean, I think she just wanted to know. I so wanted to give the Scooby Doo answer ("RI Ron't Row") but thought that they would think I was wierd. (Yeah ... it would have been wierd.) So instead I said ...
Me: "I spent a lot of time focused on my career before. But we'll see. It's all in God's time." (Which is true, btw.)
Co-Worker: "Oh."
She then shared a beautiful story of how she had gotten married when she was older than me. It was really sweet.
I get asked about my marital status a lot at this job. It is still a little disconcerting to me, but I never feel like people are being mean.
I find the whole thing to be quite interesting.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/19/2008 6:34:09 PM
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shemaromans
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I was watching "When Harry Met Sally" the other night. In the New Year's Eve scene, her friend said, "Now what are we going to do about you?" (accompanied by the required somewhat patronizing "concern" tone) and then promptly trotted off to dance with her husband.
Ugh!
Maybe this should be posted in the "cliches" thread...
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 9/20/2008 1:30:06 AM
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HI, I'm 37 and am not upset hat I'm not married yet. I have had all this time to read Christian books on theology, marriage and parenting and cults to be that much better of a husband and father, God-willing and with knowledge comes power. You can't pass on to others, married or single, knowledge that you don't have from the Bible. Too many in marriage stop learning and growing on their own and sadly, most singles aren't reading Christian marriage books and others on theology and cults so they can be more effective to non-believers and believers alike. It also makes you more appealing to another solid Christian. Otherwise, you'll have to settle for an immature one and hope it goes well for you, just like those who married in their earlier 20's and or teens. Being in your 30's doesn't make a huge difference if you haven't grown spiritually in your knowledge of the TRUTH of marriage and theology. There are plenty who are feminists in their 30's, still and don't believe in submission, still. They are worse off than those who married in their 20's who at that time didn't believe in submission, for example. So, don't waste your single years by not growing spiritually in your theology and learning God's roles for you in marriage, too.
I have an online ministry of sending out godly emails that are detailed summaries of the best of the books that I've read, knowing how few truly read Christian books, sadly, any longer in America. If you'd like them, just send me your email address and ask for them or email me at markjc316@yahoo.com and ask for them.
God bless,
Mark
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