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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/4/2007 5:49:32 PM
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wfisaac
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Hey Adriana! Yes I missed you! I was very happy when I saw you posted here. I'm so glad you had a wonderful break away from things. That's so needed sometimes. I have this really cute post card of a sad eyed beagle puppy laying there and the saying says "if I could only get away for a little bit, I may never come back" That is soooo me right now.
Glad you're back!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/4/2007 8:34:06 PM
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collie1
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I missed you too Adriana, glad you are back!1
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/4/2007 9:07:55 PM
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Welcome Back, Adriana!!!
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Lisa is happy THE ROWDIES ARE BACK!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 9/5/2007 6:40:08 AM
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Welcome Back, Adriana!!!
Ditto to that, girl!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/26/2007 4:41:01 PM
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Wow ... I had to hunt this out and found it on page 6! Since I have been receiving encouragement from friends today, I thought I would share some encouragement too.
I believe this recent funk began when I found out about the passing of my former boss. Coupled with friends, as well as myself, who have been hit recently with unkind words. Words that brought back deep emotional wounds from the past. It made me realize all over again the importance of being kind to one another. Kindness. Words of encouragement. We all need them. We never know what's going on in another person's inner world. Sometimes we think we know someone well ... but do we? We have gotten to be experts at *appearing* happy.
Today, stop and ask someone how they are doing. Really listen to their answer. Is it a quick and simple "fine"? Is it a facade? Do they answer with a smile on their face and genuinely appear fine? Ask again "How are you doing? Really?" It might surprise you what's going on with them. Speak a kind word. Share a simple verse. You never know how that can affect them. Lift their spirits. Just having someone acknowledge them and care can make all the difference to them. You might be the only person who does. Everyone wants to feel useful, needed, like they belong.
Use your words and actions to bless another's day. Hold open the door for someone, offer to help them if they look overwhelmed. What does it cost you? A moment or two of your time? It's a very small price to pay for perhaps allowing another's heart to be a little softer.
I have been blessed tremendously with many friends. They remind me of the love of our Savior, and to stay focused on Him. They bring me back out of the murky waters when I find myself lost and drowning.
God is so good and gracious.
Isaiah 35:3 Encourage the exhausted, and strengthen the feeble
1 Thes 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build up one another
1 Thes 5:14 Encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/27/2007 11:55:09 AM
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collie1
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Hi Sam,
thanks for bringing this back up for us.
Another thing to add to your suggestions, if you have had a bad week, someone else may have had a worse one. I was in Sunday School class thinking of the bad week I'd had, when someone said that a man in our class had lost his brother. Suddenly my week didn't feel so overwhelming.
Thank you for your encouragement Sam.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/27/2007 8:18:46 PM
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This sent to me, so I'll share it with everyone... Some one once wrote Sharing is Caring... Enjoy
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a
need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to
share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real, but only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you
have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank someone for being a part of your life, whether they or you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Send this to every friend that you have on-line,
Agape Saints,
Loving you... Because God Loved You first
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/29/2007 10:46:39 AM
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Ok, thus the season is upon us--some of us will not have no man or woman because we see everyone else coupling during that time of year.
And we know what we are talking about here..
I wonder should we doing something in desparation, like going into other avenues like every dating service, lol  and advertising that we are available and especially with the ladies, go get any man?--or should be wating and not let the world dictate what we should do?
Well, I would do the latter, just relax, not worry about the cirmustances and just let the Lord lead you and wait. That would be a better idea, don't you think? I know it gets lonely, but would you wait instead of ending up with the wrong person?
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/29/2007 7:13:11 PM
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wfisaac
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I agree Gayle...I would love to have someone to share the holidays but I sure don't want to be in an unhealthy relationship. I see others who are and they sure don't enjoy the holidays with them.
So...I'm just going to enjoy what I do have...which is wonderful family and wonderful friends. I love them dearly and I feel very loved by them. To me that is truly a blessing that I am thankful for.
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/29/2007 7:42:49 PM
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wonder should we doing something in desparation, like going into other avenues like every dating service, lol and advertising that we are available and especially with the ladies, go get any man?--or should be wating and not let the world dictate what we should do?
Hi Gayle,
Might I suggest for everyone if they are desperate... to ask the Lord to remove that from their soul. Desperation is like a unpleasant scent... that drives others away. Others may perceive it as lack of confidence and a turn off. So please just relax and rest in the Lord. Resting in the Lord projects a confidence to others. They may precieve you as being assertive, peaceful, friendly, open... these attributes are very attractive. So when we trust in the Lord to work behind the scene... we do have an unspeakable assurance that everything is going to be alright. In fact, you no longer feel unworthy, unattractive, or unhappy about being you. You begin not to care what others think and begin to enjoy life. Again, confidence... as in your confidence in knowing that the Lord is enabling you to become a wonderful contribution to whose ever life you're involved in... is just very attractive. Even attractive to yourself. In fact, you will date yourself, until Mr. Right (if you're a female) or Miss right (if you're a man) crosses your path.
Yes, you'll begin to do things whether or not you have a date. Look. I'm no longer single, in fact, I've been married seven years next week. When my husband met me, I was so happy loving life and doing things with and by myself... I didn't think I wanted to get married. I had not dated for three years. I was going through a divorce and as long as I was legally married and may my husband would reconcile with me... well I refused to even have a cup of coffee with anyone. Those were some of the best seasons of my life. I refused to go out on dates, though my ex was seeing his girlfriend. Constantly individuals feeling sorry for me would asked If I got lonely. I would reply no... because I date myself. And I'm learning to love myself as the Lord tells me who I am and my purposed. I began to invest in others. In doing so I discover there other many single people(men) who shared my same interest. They sense my contentment and zeal for enjoying life and people. Though I could not date. I took note that my contentment and me loving myself and celebrating others was contagious. I realized they thought this to mean confidence. My passion for life and helping people overshadowed the fact I was shy on a one to basis with the opposite sex. Nevertheless, I also realized people enjoy and want to be around people who are happy with themselves. They want to be part of your life. So I shared this discovery with some of my single friends. I told them stop looking for men to marry them. Just learn to date yourself, love yourself expecting God to do something wonderful. Refuse to be bitter and angry about your past relationships (the attitude will drive any wise man away... and if a man ... a prudent woman). Remember, Proverb advises don't associate with an angry person.
Now when you date yourself... go to places you would like to go if you had a partner. Over the Holidays why not work in Organizations providing meals for the disadvantage or visit hospitals to assist the staff in making patients holiday joyful. Organizations that build homes for the disadvantage. You will meet individuals who are givers.Join various clubs... theater, art, writers workshops, poetry corner (Some Borders Books as places to showcase writers works), Cooking School, Sking classes, tennis clubs, walking clubs, painting...bowling leagues. The point is don't hide in the house. You can not be found in your house. Circulate. And beautify yourself... and I don't mean outward... but don't look a mess either. I mean allow your beauty come from the inside out. A beautiful joyful spirit, a beautiful smile... with laughter in the eyes. Kindness being displayed from the inside out... be real. Loving God means loving yourself, loving yourself and loving others. Such beauty is intoxicating.
Going to dating services. Well, I didn't. But God does work through many avenues. However, remember you want individuals of like faith and values. Being equally yoke is important. I know this from experience. I think it might be a good thing to go to e harmony just to do the assessment test to discover your likes and dislike... even bringing up some points you never thought of.
And remember don't expect others to be what you're not willing to be or provide.
In Christ Jesus,
~Dolli
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 10/30/2007 9:26:23 AM
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So when we trust in the Lord to work behind the scene... we do have an unspeakable assurance that everything is going to be alright
Amen!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encoragment Thread - 11/8/2007 9:00:00 PM
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Ok...nevermind. I found the original post and it's way back from 2006. I don't know what I was thinking...heck, who was thinking?
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encoragment Thread - 12/28/2007 3:21:08 PM
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.Pammy
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Hey, Sam, have you seen Sharon's Biggest Loser thread? Check it out here! It might be right up your alley. A lot of us are in on it. And it definitely goes along with the whole "funk"!
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RE: 40-Something and Single Encouragement Thread - 12/28/2007 5:57:23 PM
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I have been divorced a long time. New realationships are first hard to find in the church and out of the church. Friends in and out of the christian community seem to be more succesful when they let their morals go. So it is impossible to get into a good realationship without allowing what the Lord wants to be your focus.
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Very sad.
It was a really economic trip and I felt like I was very rich, kind of... 
I'm sure I will need some encouragement during the year to help keep me on track. That way when next December rolls around I won't feel that sense of discouragement.
That's right! And I've enjoyed every bite!!!!