lots of folks telling you the same thing=God telling you something
View related threads:
(in this forum
| in all forums)
|
Logged in as: Guest
|
|
Users viewing this topic:
none
|
|
Login  | |
|
lots of folks telling you the same thing=God telling yo... - 7/20/2008 3:54:30 PM
|
|
|
MissInnocent
Posts: 136
Joined: 5/3/2005
Status: offline
|
I am not one for online dating. I have my best girl friends in the world who I met online. But something about online dating just doesn't sit right with me. However the last two days I have been bombarded with folks telling me to try it. I don't want this to turn into a online dating is great/horrible debate. I just want to know if this is a case of God trying to tell me something or a case of the devil trying to get me to go against something I know isn't right for ME.
To those folks where online dating worked out good for y'all. I don't knock it for everyone.
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/20/2008 4:30:32 PM
|
|
|
MrsTracy72
Posts: 1667
Joined: 2/28/2007
Status: offline
|
We can't tell you if this is a God thing or a Satan thing. Only you know how to tell when God is talking to you. But as for the online thing, how different is that then meeting someone you don't know while you are out?
You talk and get to know eachother, go on a few dates and see how it goes. I met my husband online, but that was not through a dating service, it was just something that happened. I know alot of people who have used things like match.com and eharmony. I have seen people get married to the people they meet and I have also seen some not so nice things happen.
You know your relationship with God so you know better when to listen and when to walk away. If something doesn't feel right, then don't do it. If it does, then proceed with caution until you know exactly what you are gettting into.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/20/2008 5:02:55 PM
|
|
|
MissInnocent
Posts: 136
Joined: 5/3/2005
Status: offline
|
It's just that I have always had a dream of romance happening for me a particular way. And I feel God gave me that desire. I never in a million years thought I'd go on a blind date and did a few months ago. Honestly wish I could undo it. HATED IT! The only good thing that came from it was God telling me that I was right for wanting things the way I wanted and not to settle. Since getting on the internet I have talked to very very few males. I had a guy even call me a not nice name for saying I don't do online dating. Turned out that cause I had single listed on my profile Yahoo put me on the singles list and the guy contacted me from there. Again I love my girlfriends but I just don't feel I could get the right kinda chemistry from meeting a man online. God bless how things worked out for you though.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/20/2008 5:07:46 PM
|
|
|
MrsTracy72
Posts: 1667
Joined: 2/28/2007
Status: offline
|
I do alot of posting and chatting, and in every profile I have, I make it very clear that I belive in and love God and that pretty much keeps alot of people away. Not that I am looking for somebody because I am married, but the only people who contact me are mostly other people who share my faith. Do you have any of that in your profile? If you can't specify what type of person you are looking for, then maybe in your profile, change it to married or in a relationship. That should keep away the creeps.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/20/2008 5:28:09 PM
|
|
|
MissInnocent
Posts: 136
Joined: 5/3/2005
Status: offline
|
I changed it to blank, not stating anything and that took me off the singles list. It just creeped me out that they had a singles list that they automatically put you on. I also chit-chatted with a Christian man who complained about his wife. That to me sent major red flags and while I was trying to simply be friendly seemed like he was flirting. The only man I have spoken to online since is a friend I've known since 8th grade and the husband one of my best friends with her knowledge and no drama.
Also anytime I have seen a guy post online that seemed kinda interesting the more posts I read of his and checked his profile it seemed we would really not be that compatiable.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/20/2008 8:37:02 PM
|
|
|
jaimestarcross
Posts: 792
Joined: 11/28/2005
Status: offline
|
If you feel that's not right for you - then tell them thanks but no thanks!
Online dating? actually it's online chatting - you have to meet in real life and get to know each other and interact with each other in social settings/church - etc...
Yes, I've chatted online for a long time and I even met the man I married at an online site - however, we met in person and got to know each other - attend church together - interact with friends,family and church members.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/21/2008 5:07:13 PM
|
|
|
preserved
Posts: 1063
Joined: 6/12/2007
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: jaimestarcross
If you feel that's not right for you - then tell them thanks but no thanks!
Online dating? actually it's online chatting - you have to meet in real life and get to know each other and interact with each other in social settings/church - etc...
Yes, I've chatted online for a long time and I even met the man I married at an online site - however, we met in person and got to know each other - attend church together - interact with friends,family and church members.
I agree with jaimestarcross...It is online chatting...it does not become dating until you actually go out...No one can really answer your question for you...It's between you and God..If you do not feel it is right to do...then don't do it...
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/21/2008 5:21:39 PM
|
|
|
crh737
Posts: 661
Joined: 6/1/2005
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: MissInnocent
I know isn't right for ME.
There is your answer
CRH
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/22/2008 2:34:23 AM
|
|
|
Katie-Scarlet
Posts: 127
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline
|
quote:
I just want to know if this is a case of God trying to tell me something or a case of the devil trying to get me to go against something I know isn't right for ME.
Could be either one. Lots of people telling you something isn't always God. Pray about it and see what God says if he doesn't answer and its not for you don't let other people influence you to do something your not into. Just because lots of people do it or are telling you to try it doesn't mean you have to. People say lots of things especially when it something that is very popular. Right now online dating is very popular so I would expect lots of people to mention it to me. Now I might rethink it but still pray and ask God if it was him if it was something more specific and unique.
_____________________________
Satans job is 24hrs 365 days a year and he never takes lunch, vacation or has a sick day.
Are you ready to join the war? Know your enemy, prepare yourself.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/22/2008 8:29:41 AM
|
|
|
DaveW
Posts: 3815
Joined: 4/12/2005
From: MD suburbs of Washington DC
Status: offline
|
Just because someone is telling you something does not make it "God or the devil." It is probably just them saying it, uninspired by either one.
Take it for what it is worth.
_____________________________
Avatar is Saphira 5 months and Louvena at 23 months!
We are now grandparents TWICE!!
====================================
Our CD is now available here:
http://cdbaby.com/cd/dswaggoner
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/22/2008 10:33:44 AM
|
|
|
allisonbrett
Posts: 141
Joined: 5/29/2008
Status: offline
|
Just because everyone else is encouraging you to do the online thing, it still doesn't make it right for you. If you are uncomfortable then don't do it. My thought is when you are online people can represent themselves in any way they choose. They can be smarter, wealthier, taller, more Christ-like, even single and still be far from their description.
I've known those who have met wonderful people online but then there's a lot to be said of meeting someone face to face. I had decided to forego the online dating scene even though it seemed so accessable. I didn't like the idea of explaining to friends and family that "we met online". I wanted to have something deeper. Thankfully, I met my husband at church and it always gives me an opening to talk to others about waiting for God's choice.
For me, the online thing was wrong too. If you feel that way then stick to your guns!
Blessings
_____________________________
Allison's Mindless Chatter
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/25/2008 1:23:11 AM
|
|
|
beachcooky
Posts: 621
Joined: 6/21/2008
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: MrsTracy72
I do alot of posting and chatting, and in every profile I have, I make it very clear that I belive in and love God and that pretty much keeps alot of people away. Not that I am looking for somebody because I am married, but the only people who contact me are mostly other people who share my faith. Do you have any of that in your profile? If you can't specify what type of person you are looking for, then maybe in your profile, change it to married or in a relationship. That should keep away the creeps.
Yeah, I'm a member on okcupid. I'm not there for dating, but to meet new people. You know, chat online then meet up somewhere. But what my profile talks about, it talks about how I put God before anyone else and that He's the center of my life and that He's my first love. It keeps tons of guys away. A few guys have messaged me, saying how pretty I looked but then insult my religion. I think that's totally uncalled for. I just never respond. haha.
MissInnocent, you are the only person who can know if it's God speaking to ya. Maybe spend time in prayer over this. (:
_____________________________
www.myspace.com/xsweetheartforux
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/28/2008 4:22:56 PM
|
|
|
MissInnocent
Posts: 136
Joined: 5/3/2005
Status: offline
|
Thanks for the replies. I didn't notice till yesterday I had gotten more. I'll try to reply to all.
quote:
ORIGINAL: Katie-Scarlet
Could be either one. Lots of people telling you something isn't always God. Pray about it and see what God says if he doesn't answer and its not for you don't let other people influence you to do something your not into. Just because lots of people do it or are telling you to try it doesn't mean you have to. People say lots of things especially when it something that is very popular. Right now online dating is very popular so I would expect lots of people to mention it to me. Now I might rethink it but still pray and ask God if it was him if it was something more specific and unique.
You have a point about it being popular. Honestly I feel like screaming every time I see those eharmony, match or chemistry.com commercials.
quote:
ORIGINAL: DaveW
Just because someone is telling you something does not make it "God or the devil." It is probably just them saying it, uninspired by either one.
Take it for what it is worth.
Very true. I don't believe that all bad things folks do is a case of "the devil made him do it" so why believe all semi-decent things are God's idea coming out of someone.
quote:
ORIGINAL: allisonbrett
Just because everyone else is encouraging you to do the online thing, it still doesn't make it right for you. If you are uncomfortable then don't do it. My thought is when you are online people can represent themselves in any way they choose. They can be smarter, wealthier, taller, more Christ-like, even single and still be far from their description.
I've known those who have met wonderful people online but then there's a lot to be said of meeting someone face to face. I had decided to forego the online dating scene even though it seemed so accessable. I didn't like the idea of explaining to friends and family that "we met online". I wanted to have something deeper. Thankfully, I met my husband at church and it always gives me an opening to talk to others about waiting for God's choice.
For me, the online thing was wrong too. If you feel that way then stick to your guns!
Blessings
I have girl friends online. I even went and spent the weekend with one last summer. Freaked my dad out "OMG! She doesn't know this person blah blah." Even though I had talked to her since 05 and we'd even spoken on the phone. There as NO WAY I would have gone if I didn't trust her. I love my friends and do feel God put them in my life. But connecting with a girl friends and with my soulmate are two entirely different things. I don't feel I could connect with a man romantically online the same as I connect sisterly with my girls. (Again God bless those that it works out for.)
quote:
ORIGINAL: beachcooky
Yeah, I'm a member on okcupid. I'm not there for dating, but to meet new people. You know, chat online then meet up somewhere. But what my profile talks about, it talks about how I put God before anyone else and that He's the center of my life and that He's my first love. It keeps tons of guys away. A few guys have messaged me, saying how pretty I looked but then insult my religion. I think that's totally uncalled for. I just never respond. haha.
MissInnocent, you are the only person who can know if it's God speaking to ya. Maybe spend time in prayer over this. (:
On the bright side beachcooky, they let you know upfront they are jerks. Better that than be all "yeah I love Jesus too" and then drop the ball on ya. That's part of a problem I have. If I do see a semi-interesting guy online he's either too strict for me. Example being I am totally into secular music and some are like OH ANYTHING NOT LABELED CHRISTIAN IS SINFUL TO LISTEN TO. Some TV shows I like others are *gasps* over. And don't get me wrong if I know that certain music and TV shows offend certain people I am respectful enough to not listen/watch it around them. BUT I don't like being beaten over the head to feel like I'm a horrible person for not having the same conviction.
Then there is the other end of the spectrum...the other day I saw a dude on another Christian site say some things that were so disrespectful I don't believe some non-Christians would have had the lack of character to say. 
As I just told a friend, Right now I am in no shape to be anyone's wife so I see no point is becoming someone's gf either. I just need to work on myself an when I'm the person I need to be God will bring me my man or send me to him.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/28/2008 6:51:31 PM
|
|
|
MWD
Posts: 206
Joined: 8/23/2006
From: New Hampshire
Status: offline
|
> I just want to know if this is a case of God
> trying to tell me something or a case of the
> devil trying to get me to go against something
> I know isn't right for ME.
The devil is great at trying to get you to do things that aren't right for you.
The devil's also great at trying to get you not to do things that are right for you. He knows all your weak spots, and how to manipulate them in a way to make you completely miss out on what you want out of life. And guess what -- you won't even know he's done it to you. He is the ultimate deceiver, possessing intelligence that, in comparison, would make Albert Einstein look like a one-year old sitting in a high chair and spitting up strained carrots on his little blue bibby. He laughs loudest when he can get us to do all the tripping up, us to do all the (self-)deceiving, us to do all the turning down of opportunity.
So, step one would be to watch out that you're not misidentifying the players.
_____________________________
"The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he doesn't exist."
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/31/2008 3:10:52 PM
|
|
|
ChelaW
Posts: 60
Joined: 7/30/2008
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Katie-Scarlet
Lots of people telling you something isn't always God. Pray about it and see what God says if he doesn't answer and its not for you don't let other people influence you to do something your not into.
I completely agree! It very well could be that God is speaking to you through these other people, but it very well could be the opposite. For example, I recently made a very unpopular decision in my life. Everyone in my life advised me to do the opposite, because it was the more logical thing to do, but I had confirmation after confirmation from God to make the decision that I ended up making.
God isn't a "humanly logical God." People could all be saying that because it's popular, and God wants you to not do it; or He could be speaking to you through them. I'd ask for confirmation from Him, if I were you.
By the way, I never thought online dating was for me, but I did meet my current boyfriend through it. I say that to negate any bias against it that you may think I displayed in my repsonse.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: lots of folks telling you the same thing=God tellin... - 7/31/2008 5:22:30 PM
|
|
|
beachcooky
Posts: 621
Joined: 6/21/2008
Status: offline
|
quote:
On the bright side beachcooky, they let you know upfront they are jerks. Better that than be all "yeah I love Jesus too" and then drop the ball on ya. That's part of a problem I have. If I do see a semi-interesting guy online he's either too strict for me. Example being I am totally into secular music and some are like OH ANYTHING NOT LABELED CHRISTIAN IS SINFUL TO LISTEN TO. Some TV shows I like others are *gasps* over. And don't get me wrong if I know that certain music and TV shows offend certain people I am respectful enough to not listen/watch it around them. BUT I don't like being beaten over the head to feel like I'm a horrible person for not having the same conviction.
Ha, I don't really care personally. If they reject me, then oh well. Life goes on (:
_____________________________
www.myspace.com/xsweetheartforux
|
|
|
|
 New Messages |
 No New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/ New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/o New Messages |
 Locked w/ New Messages |
 Locked w/o New Messages |
|
 Post New Thread
Reply to Message
Post New Poll
Submit Vote
Delete My Own Post
Delete My Own Thread
Rate Posts |
|
|
Forum Tools
Printable Version
