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interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 12:38:39 PM
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Carlos112
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I Myself i have been in some interracial relationship in the past some good and some bad but i feel that these relationships are good for soceity from learning about the other race prejudics and steriotypes of the race also miscomunication of the two races involed in the interracial relationship of Man and Woman relationship so my question is are interracial relationships good for soceity and want to hear from you i specially want to here from other interracial relationships other then black and white interracial relationships like African American and Asian interracial relationships or White Cacausion and Asian interracial relationships or any other interraical relationship then black or white interracial relationship
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 12:52:44 PM
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Can't vote in your poll as my answer does not match your choices.
In the long run, they are a good thing for society, but in the short run they can be very hard on the individuals and the respective families.
There is a lot of predijuce still in a lot of places. It is not just racial either. I once read about a methodist pastor in the 1800s that said he would rather his daughter married a buddhist than a presbyterian....
Greeks only want their kids to marry Greeks, Italians only want their kids to marry other Italians, etc.
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 1:18:03 PM
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I find this to be an "odd" dilemma for people who are Christians.
We are to seek God's guidance in all we do.
BUT, with regards to relationships, far too many defer to "THE WORLD" and let "THE WORLD" determine who they can have a relationship with...and/or get married to.
From my perspective...as long as they are a Christian, and growing in the Lord, that is all that should matter....and skin color is irrelevant.
Keeping in mind, though, that over half of the states in the U.S. (up until the late 1960s/early 1970s) had LAWS banning "mixed race" marriages....as "Christians" were generally taught from the pulpit they were a "sin" and "not of God", and many Christians STILL think that the bible is CLEAR that "mixed race" marriages are "wrong" (my inlaws can quote scripture that they believe CLEARLY teaches just that).......
sound like another "marriage issue" happening today?
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 2:14:07 PM
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Personally I think it all depends on the individuals rather than the race issue.
Cultural differences (not necessarily race) can be a hinderance to a relationship but then again you can learn about each other and grow together. Relationships and marriage can be hard so having such diverse backgrounds can be an addition obstacle to overcome unless both are grounded in their mutual faith and their determination to make it work. As DaveW said that we tend to gravitate toward those we share a culture with, the color of our skin has little to do with it.
I think its a personal choice and depending on the two involved it can be a wonderful relationship. There are a few here on CW that are a testament to that.
Oh, by the way, I spoke to my pastor about this specific issue some years back. My ex-husband was marrying a black woman whom he had had an affair with. (Both he and I are white). I wanted to have a bit of insight on scripture regarding interracial relationships that and how to talk to my daughter about his remarriage. My pastor told me that scripture doesn't talk about the interracial issue but it does speak clearly about the mixed marriage between different religions. The whole equally yoked issue.
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 2:25:15 PM
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kernsfamily
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Cultural differences (not necessarily race) can be a hinderance to a relationship but then again you can learn about each other and grow together. Relationships and marriage can be hard so having such diverse backgrounds can be an addition obstacle to overcome unless both are grounded in their mutual faith and their determination to make it work.
though, just because 2 individuals are of a different skin color, does not necessarily mean that there are cultural differences worth worrying about....
My wife grew up in far south louisiana (south of New Orleans)....she talked different, has totally DIFFERENT tastes with food (which I have mostly "adopted".....cause, WOW, she CAN COOK!!!!!!)....
She even speaks a different LANGUAGE (is very fluent in Cajun French)....English is her "second language"....
I, on the other hand, grew up in Detroit.
Culturally, and everything else, we are two ENTIRELY different people...totally different backgrounds, and everything.
And, yet, one of the very FEW things we did have in common, is that we were both "white"....and both "Christians"
Though, back home in the "old neighborhood" where I grew up, there were African-American girls that I went to school with. I had much more "in common" with them than I did with my wife, since we both grew up in the same neighborhood, fathers who worked in the same factory, all went to the same school, ate at the same restaurants in the neighborhood, all had the same friends, etc...etc...
Our skin-color was the ONLY major difference.
In contrast, with regards to my wife, skin color was one of the few things we had in common!
and, yet, no one even thinks twice about OUR relationship....because we both APPEAR to be "similar"....and yet, that's far from the truth....
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 5:01:42 PM
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I am one that lives in a place where interracial marriages are the norm.
I do too. I'm finding that seeing so many different people together is having an impact on me. I wasn't against interracial relationships before, but I noticed it. Now, I'm finding that I don't even notice it. I think that is pretty cool actually.
I think it is good for society in general because it helps us to see one another as people instead of as a category. But beyond that, I think good marriages and families - regardless of the races and cultures of the people involved - are good for society.
My parents are both black, but from different cultures. My mom is panamanian and my father is african american. I don't think that cultural differences played too big of a role - nothing that they couldn't weather. My dad though, is one of the very few people that I've met that doesn't have a prejudiced bone in his body. A lot of people say they are like that, but when you scratch the surface, you find it really isn't true. But, my dad really is like that. Consequently he has lots of friends and people just love him. He's always helping somebody and is a great guy. My mom is really beautiful in this regard too and has adapted to this culture very well. I think we were the only family on the block that would have collard greens, platano duro, rice and peas, and smothered pork chops for dinner :) They both have respect for one another's cultures, but their love for one another is the major component. I've never heard either of them put down one another's culture in any way.
This has probably impacted my thinking - and I never felt like I was going to necessarily marry someone who is American. I'm definitely not ruling it out - but it just never seemed to be the only option for me.
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/27/2008 9:23:59 PM
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Yes, I agree that interracial relationships are good relationships. I married a white man, not because he was white, but he loved Jesus Christ as his personal savior and Lord. We as Christians should not look at a person because he is white, black or polka dot, but a person who loves Jesus with all their heart and soul.
I look at people as people, with one common goal, to make into heaven and to be of service with one another.
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/28/2008 12:01:04 PM
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Not only do I approve of interracial relationships but I would even advocate them to be pursued. Mainly, because they are the ultimate demonstrations of striking down the walls in racism and unifying two or more races together with an unique love that transcends the human understanding.
I, myself, prefer interracial relationships; I'm in one right now as a matter of fact. Aside from being preferred, it's also my desire and my choice because it's different from the norm of society. I'm black and my girlfriend is white and I love her dearly, very much! She has expressed that some members of here extended family may not be so approval of me because I am black, but I told her that I was willing to meet them and will respect their opinions no matter what they think (of course, if they use Scripture, the matter becomes of more of a wrong understanding of God and His Word which may prompt the preacher in me, but I promise to be on my best behavior). However, in God's sovereignty, I'm still expecting things to work out for the best. I know that there will be challenges ahead of us, as there has been some already in more subtle ways, but I expect much in trials and am willing to face them because I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her demonstrating how much I love her.
In end, those who are preys of society will see that two people, both black and white, have much in common and come overcome our differences together as long as we share a common bond; and especially as Christians, we greatly share our Father and the gift of salvation with the believing Jews together picturing a bit of what Revelation is about: many nations and peoples coming together to worship the Lamb of God. Sure it's hard, sure it's tough, but in the end it's worth it, moreso for God, and for my wonderful rose whom I love so much! And for the black community in America, interracial relationships are the statements of reconciliation between slave and slave owner who now becomes family, in more than one way, and as Christians co-slaves in Christ Jesus.
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/28/2008 2:29:32 PM
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I'm wasn't speaking about cultural difference from different parts of the same country but different parts of the same world.
In some parts of the world interracial couples are no big deal but there are still places were they may get a second or third look. It's just that when you combine the race issue with drastically different cultures that you may find additional challenges.
I don't see the difference in "cultural differences"....just because of geo-political boundaries. If someone lives within ONE culture....and you in ANOTHER.....it could very well be the same country.
I have MORE in common with some of my colleagues and friends in France (that's where my company is headquartered), than I do with most of my wife's family......and they are "American"....
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/30/2008 8:43:34 PM
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I'm wasn't speaking about cultural difference from different parts of the same country but different parts of the same world.
I'm Cherokee/Creek/Chickasaw/Rappahannock/Meherrin mixed-blood. My dad's people are Scottish-Americans (and durned proud of it) from upper Mississippi. My maternal grandfather's family are Norman-Irish/English descent. I also have black, Jewish, Welsh, and Gypsy ancestry. Culturally I am Cherokee, and even tho I grew up here in Nashville around mostly white and black folks, I grew up in a very distinctly different culture than my peers. Yeah, I can navigate quite well in the mainstream culture but I am always an outsider.
Native Americans all have different cultures from each other, and not one of the tribes I am descended from have cultures that are even remotely similar to each other.
Strangely as it may seem to y'all, we look at whites, blacks, Asians, and latinos as being more like each other than different. In comparison to us y'all ARE more alike.
Marriage is a partnership- if both partners can accept, respect, and enjoy each other's culture, that's good. It's an opportunity for growth and enrichment as individuals and as a couple. When the kids are born, they can doubly blessed.
If one partner feels their culture is superior to the other's and should be the dominant or only culture in the home, then there could be some bigger problems than just different cultures. No one should ever be made to feel ashamed of who they are or where they come from, and to have one's life-mate engage in such behavior can crush the spirit.
If folks are truly christian, then there should be no problems of that sort. It does take time to adjust to and create a blended culture in the home, but it also takes time to get used to being 2 different people living with each other.
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RE: interracial relationships are they good relationships - 8/31/2008 2:04:41 AM
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I experienced first hand the irrational reactions, behaviors, insults, dehumanization, and yes - threats that came with being involved with someone that came from a different culture than my own.
I think I would do things a little differently
but at the time, I did what I thought was best, & what I needed to do.
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We certainly still have challenges that can be traced to cultural differences, but at the same time, we don't have other challenges that are common in other marriages. 
