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Party Plans - 8/7/2008 4:14:16 PM
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sweetheartprayer
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So while my bf and I were visiting with my mom a few weeks back he mentioned that we would be going to see his parents out of town for a huge birthday party for his mom. I could tell this hurt my mom a little because no one in my family does things like this for her. When I was younger, around 10, everyone in my family forgot about her birthday. I have never forgotten that and since then have made sure that everyone remembers. Well when my mom seemed a little hurt by this I decided that I was going to throw my mom a surprise party. And all the better, I found out that two really really good friends of hers were going to be in town around her birthday time. So i called my dad who I wasn't really talking to (see other thread) and proposed the idea to him of doing it the weekend before my moms actual birthday, he said no, that they would probably be out of town with the guests, so I said okay, how about the saturday before that and he said no, they were having a BBQ but hey we could have it at the BBQ. I didn't like this idea because I wanted this birthday to be a surprise AND I didn't want my mom to cook for her own party. :-( So I said that we could talk about it and work it out. So then I moved onto my siblings to find out from them if they would be interested and I finally worked out with my siblings to do the party on Sunday at my house. So when my parents got back into town I told my mom that I wanted to have a dinner party at my house and host her friends but my mom argued with me that that was the purpose of the BBQ. So I told her that I didn't want her to have to cook and as we were talking about it we walked out to where my dad was and he rudely butted in and said NO. At this point I decided to leave because I am not getting along with him and his poor attitude in my life is not needed. So I headed out said good bye to my mom, she said we would discuss it later and I left. But right now I feel that I am trying so hard to do something special for my mom and my dad will have nothing to do wiht it. But he WILL NOT do anything for my mom at all. Right now I feel like giving up, I don't know if its worth it to push the whole thing or not. The birthday would be next month and I wanted to do a whole bunch of surprises, like have extended family do some sort of scrapbook page for her about her and send it in, and send out invites to everyone that could make it. I don't know I am just so fustrated with trying to do things and not being able to succeed.
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RE: Party Plans - 8/7/2008 5:19:29 PM
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agapetos
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Perhaps you should abandon the idea of having a suprise party for her and just tell her straight that you're going to have a party for her on whatever date and all the family + whoever are invited.
And as for the scrapbook etc ~ that will be a suprise.
And you should post links if you're mentioning other threads.
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RE: Party Plans - 8/7/2008 5:40:40 PM
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deermousie
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What a sweetie you are, Sweetheartprayer! Bless you for wanting to be good to your mom. I'm a mom, too, and I know how much my kid's thoughtfulness means to me.
Could you plan a party that was a surprise for both of your parents? Would you dad feel bad about that? I'm sorry he's not playing along but is making it harder for you. Maybe Agapetos' suggestion about dropping the surprise part would be best and cause the least amount of family drama.
I am praying for you. I hope someday you have thoughtful, loving kids just like you, too! (((Hugs)))
< Message edited by deermousie -- 8/7/2008 5:50:17 PM >
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RE: Party Plans - 8/7/2008 6:23:25 PM
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sweetheartprayer
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Thank you for the kind words Deermouse, and thank you both for the advice, I think that will probably be the best and only road to take.
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