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Laughing son... - 9/24/2008 9:29:32 PM
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VisitorinWaiting
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So, I haven't posted in here in months, and in the past week, I think I have started three or four new threads. Anyway.......
Ds (age 5) is laughing about everything, in everything, for everything. This morning, neither he nor ds2 (age 4) finished their breakfast because ds1 started laughing about who knows what...and then got ds2 laughing, and they both sat there and laughed. I couldn't stop them...even if I separated them...because you could hear one laugh at the other end of the house... He laughs at bedtime, keeping himself, ds2, and dd (age 2) awake... I feel like a "I'm out of options" with this scenario. I mean, why would you want to make a child stop laughing, right? Wrong. Laughing is great when it's time to laugh...otherwise, it's inappropriate...but what do I do? He's doing this at age 5...I don't remember him doing it at 2, 3, or 4. I don't get why it started in the first place. I have become more strict with all of them making the rules a priority more than before...so maybe this is his way of pushing me. I am trying to be consistent with reacting in a calm manner...coming down on his level and saying, "It's not appropriate to laugh right now. This is your warning. If you do it again, you will be in the naughty spot." That's usually the way it goes. Sometimes I get frustrated and just say, "Stop laughing."
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/24/2008 10:10:50 PM
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Goodness, my parents would have loved to have your problem..I was such a whiner.....besides everybody needs a laughing place.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/24/2008 10:56:50 PM
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5 year olds laugh more then than at any other age.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/24/2008 11:30:04 PM
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5 year olds laugh more then than at any other age.
Amen.I babysit a 5 year old and she is constantly laughing about everything.She makes me laugh alot also.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/25/2008 8:49:54 AM
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Have you ever sat in a kindergarten classroom when one child gets the giggles? Pretty soon the entire classroom is in stitches! It seems everything is funny to a 5 year old.
Go with the flow.
At least they are laughing together! Let them laugh! Soon enough, as they grow up, there won't be much to laugh at, so it seems
Sure there are times when it's inappropriate, but they're children.
At least they are happy children - give thanks to God that they can find the funny, the joy, in their lives. This is something, IMO, to be rejoiced in! In a world where so many children can't find a reason to laugh, be blessed that your kids can!
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/25/2008 10:15:21 AM
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Why is it not appropriate to laugh? If they find something funny then they laugh. Kids are silly and often find things hilarious that adults cannot fathom. I agree they laughing together and bonding as siblings. That is a good thing. It doesn't sound like they being mean and laughing at someone getting hurt or anything like that. Bedtimes are important but remember a house full of laughter would be an awesome childhood memory.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/25/2008 11:17:38 AM
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Bedtimes are important but remember a house full of laughter would be an awesome childhood memory.
Amen!!
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/25/2008 11:28:00 AM
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I wouldn't make a bigger deal out of it than it is, that would probably make him laugh more.
My 7 year old nephew was here last night and just laughed all night long. I couldn't figure out why but I would much rather hear that than the whining of my other nephew.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/25/2008 6:46:21 PM
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I'm thinking that the laughter is inappropriate when it disrupts normal family routines, such as meals or bed time. In this case, it must be treated like any other misbehaviour that disturbs other family members.
I'd suggest that you say, "If all of you can keep on with <whatever> while you are laughing, go ahead, but if I see that the <whatever> isn't happening, I'll be separating you."
If separating doesn't work (it sounds like it does not) I'd suggest taking the primary instigator to the car, strapping them into their car seat and closing the doors. It's nice and sound proof, so he shouldn't set the others off or keep them awake.
If that doesn't work, strap them all into car seats to have their fun, and have a nice cup of tea where you can't hear them.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/26/2008 7:45:31 PM
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I'm thinking that the laughter is inappropriate when it disrupts normal family routines, such as meals or bed time. In this case, it must be treated like any other misbehaviour that disturbs other family members.
Yes, it's only inappropriate when it's disruptive. I love for my children to laugh. I tickle them and tell jokes with them. We have lots of laughing times...but when people are trying to have breakfast...and the other keeps making the one trying to eat laugh, the breakfast gets cold, and they won't eat. If they are trying to sleep, I am putting THREE to bed at the same time since they are all around the same age...and if he starts laughing, gets another laughing, then the other can't sleep...and it just disrupts the whole flow of things. I LOVE his laugh, but there is a time that laughter is inappropriate.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/26/2008 8:22:24 PM
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If separating doesn't work (it sounds like it does not) I'd suggest taking the primary instigator to the car, strapping them into their car seat and closing the doors. It's nice and sound proof, so he shouldn't set the others off or keep them awake.
Only not very safe in very warm or very cold weather as most garages are dark and scary and COLD in the winter and HOT in the summer. Not to mention if the car has to be parked on the street or outside.
Is it really all that detrimental if they miss a meal? So they'll be hungry at lunch time.
Now I know bedtimes are important. Is it possible to put the instigator to bed in another room? If there's no one to join in the laughter it really doesn't last that long. Maybe keep the instigator up a little bit longer until the younger two fall asleep and then put him to bed with a strict warning that if he wakes his siblings up it's going to result in serious consequences. Misbehaving with no audience isn't any fun.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/26/2008 8:36:08 PM
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We have lots of laughing times...but when people are trying to have breakfast...and the other keeps making the one trying to eat laugh, the breakfast gets cold, and they won't eat.
So they get hungry, and remember to eat their breakfast next time, so that they don't feel hungry again.
Remember, the more you try to make them stop, the more they will laugh. Shovel a spoontful in, or a bite, or whatever, between the laughs, and just say "come on, eat up".
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If they are trying to sleep, I am putting THREE to bed at the same time since they are all around the same age...and if he starts laughing, gets another laughing, then the other can't sleep...and it just disrupts the whole flow of things. I LOVE his laugh, but there is a time that laughter is inappropriate.
The 5yo is the oldest, right? I'd suggest putting him to bed just that little bit later. Then you can settle the others before he comes to bed.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/26/2008 11:27:20 PM
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Only not very safe in very warm or very cold weather as most garages are dark and scary and COLD in the winter and HOT in the summer. Not to mention if the car has to be parked on the street or outside.
Not to worry. I wouldn't do that anyway. I hope the person who mentioned it was only joking.
As far as eating...yes, they will be hungry for the next meal...but I feel like I'm wasting time and money. I mean, we are on a very tight budget...so money is an issue...and when I take the time to make something, I'd really appreciate it if they ate it. As far as keeping it...well, some foods don't taste really good after sitting and being warmed up... breakfast food is one of those that is hard to come by a food that tastes good after being warmed up...eggs, pancakes... Those are the things they like and eat the most, and those don't keep very well, even for short periods of time...well, they keep, but don't taste good. So, I debate...give them warmed up food that doesn't taste good or throw it away. I usually throw it away because I don't expect them to eat something I wouldn't...
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/27/2008 3:02:22 AM
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Perhaps give them just cereal and fruit for a while for their breakfasts, till this phase has passed.
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RE: Laughing son... - 9/29/2008 4:27:40 PM
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Ignoring it is the best solution and always the hardest to do. If they don't eat...they don't eat. Consider the thrown away food as the cost of a lesson learned rather than a waste of food.
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